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"In a world full of noise, expectations, and distractions, sometimes the only person you truly have is yourself. Boy Alone is not just a song; it’s a journey through the struggles, the pain, the silent battles, and the strength it takes to stand tall when no one else is watching. This one is for the dreamers, the fighters, the ones who keep pushing even when the odds are against them. It’s a reminder that even in solitude, there is power, purpose, and greatness waiting to shine. #BoyAlone is coming—are you ready to feel every word?" Dropping on 10|03|2025 Stay active!!

Couples struggle with communication because we listen to reply. If we listened to understand, conversations would look different because your partner would feel heard. New York Times bestselling author Cheryl Richardson said, “People start to heal the moment they feel heard.” I love this quote and I see it happen all the time when I am working with couples. When I help couples learn to take the time to postpone their own agenda and listen, to truly listen to their partner, the conversation looks different. It is important to show your partner that you are listening with understanding and empathy. Your partner will feel heard when you validate their feelings. Validation does not mean that you agree with everything you heard. It just means that from your partner’s perspective, you can see why they felt that way and you can understand their views. Every time I see a couple do this for the first time, I know I am watching an amazing communication transformation. When I notice that it has become the new pattern of communication, I know that the couple is on their way to getting back the feelings that they desire.

Communication struggles is a common stressor in all relationships and more specifically marriages. The majority of the couples I see, struggle to communicate in some ways. Some relationships are at the point where there is very little communication, because conversations turn sour and then each person is left frustrated, angry and sad. When communication is difficult in a marriage, each spouse usually feels lonely in the relationship and many times they are unsure of what to do, unsure of the way to change their communication pattern. When communication is lacking, it becomes a big relationship dilemma and many questions come to mind like… “Do we belong together?” ‘If we do, how do we change the way we communicate with each other?” “How can we communicate in a way that would be a connector for us and help make our marriage stronger?”

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But I never asked you out " "I never said we are dating" Those were his words to me as we argued . I looked at him again . But he called me "baby,sweet heart,mylove" Long talk in the days , and unending gist at night . He was the reason no man had a chance in my life We planned our lives together, so I thought "I have somebody I love. Let's just remain as normal friends so I dont affect your relationship " he continued . Which relationship tunde? The first tears dropped from my eyes. They were tasteless. The second dropped. It tasted like crayfish and tumeric. Somebody was definitely cooking in my eyes here . I was already on my knees My world was spinning. " Let's talk about this tunde. If I did anything to upset you. I am sorry" I begged. More tears dropped! I searched my mind to remember any time he actually asked me out something I could remind him of instantly Tunde was Right! My eyes widened I had assumed. He had played me. "No"I shook my head frantically My emotions deceived me I had played myself. "Please tunde, you can't do this to me" I pleaded more. He made to leave. I grabbed his legs and he struggled to push me out. Something fell out of the file he held. I picked it up. My hands were shaking. As I opened to read it, my legs dropped . Tunde was getting married next month! I didn't know how long it was before I blanked out . ......... Three weeks later , all I could do was stare into empty space . My mum was afraid. I had not even said a word to anybody this 3 weeks . But I did say a lot in my mind. I just didn't know why my tongue couldn't throw the words out. " Nne try to eat your food it's getting cold" mum said Mum had done every thing to get me to eat. It was fruitless . I gazed at the okasi soup and eba comfortably sited at the dinning table in matching plates. The room was spinning. I didn't know how long it was before I put my head on the dinning table and passed out. ..... The days that followed were better for me. Tunde was by my bed side answering all the questions I asked him. "Why did you throw 6 years of my life away?" I asked him "Am sorry baby, I am back now for good" he answered. I smiled. I turned and noticed mum by my bedside. she wiped off tears from her eyes. But why was she crying? A slender looking man stood by her side. By his attire I could tell he is a doctor. "This is how she has been doctor. she calls the wall tunde" mum said and wiped off another ticking tear. " We may need to involve a psychiatrist. Shock and trauma is making her hallucinate and these could be early signs of psychosis" He said. I couldn't understand what they said . I turned and looked at my Tunde . He smiled at me. ..............,............................ The road to my therapy venue now looked familiar I could even go by myself . At the beginning, dad took me there,so I was told. He had looked for the best in town and coined the name to suit him. He felt uncomfortable calling it a psychiatrist hospital . Dad wasn't going to accept that his daughter became *mad* I stepped down from my car . The harmattan wind came so strong and blew iced wind down my lungs. I breathed in deeply. Few months back, breathing in was difficult. It felt like someone pushed down hot boiled water down my lungs everytime my drugs knocked me back to reality. "Madam welcome " the gateman said . " Thank you " I replied him as I stepped Into the building. It's been one year already since dad first brought me here; one year since Tunde got married. My therapy session was ending next month . I turned to the gateman and smiled gently. It was the first time I was smiling after one year. Dad said I could travel to any part of europe I wanted to see when I finish therapy. The sun will shine tomorrow and I will rise up and try again. ......................................................... What more do I say. ✅Seek clearity ✅Ask questions, and ask them early. ✅You are not cheap if you ask "what are we"? ✅You will only look cheap when you assume to be what you are not . ©️Geefted's pen✍🏼

10 WAYS TO AVOID FINANCIAL CHALLENGES IN MARRIAGE. Avoiding financial challenges in marriage requires a combination of communication, planning, and shared responsibility. Here are key strategies to help prevent financial issues in your marriage: 1. Open Communication Discuss finances early: Before or early in the marriage, have candid discussions about each other's financial situation, goals, debts, spending habits, and values. This helps you both understand each other’s expectations and create a unified approach. Keep communication ongoing: Regularly check in with each other about your finances—this includes budgeting, savings goals, and any financial concerns. Open dialogue can prevent surprises and resentment. 2. Set Shared Financial Goals Create common goals: Discuss short-term and long-term goals together, such as saving for a house, retirement, or vacations. Setting common goals helps align both partners and motivates teamwork. Budget together: Agree on a budget that works for both of you. Break down income, fixed expenses, savings, and discretionary spending. This ensures that both partners contribute to financial decisions and stick to the plan. 3. Separate and Joint Accounts Decide on account structure: Some couples find it beneficial to have a joint account for shared expenses and personal accounts for individual spending. This can help maintain financial independence while managing shared responsibilities. Maintain transparency: Regardless of account structure, ensure transparency in how money is spent and saved, avoiding secrecy or hidden debts. 4. Build an Emergency Fund Save for unexpected expenses: Life is unpredictable, so it’s important to have an emergency fund that can cover 3-6 months of living expenses. This will reduce financial stress during difficult times such as job loss or medical emergencies. 5. Manage Debt Together Avoid accumulating debt: Be mindful of taking on new debt. If you have existing debt, work together on a plan to pay it down, prioritizing high-interest debts. Debt management plans: If the debt is significant, consider consulting a financial advisor or credit counselor to create a strategy to reduce it efficiently. 6. Plan for Retirement Start saving early: Even if retirement seems far off, it's important to begin saving early. Contribute to retirement accounts like 401(k)s or IRAs. Take advantage of employer matching, if available. Regularly review retirement goals: As your lives and incomes change, reassess your retirement savings plan together. 7. Agree on Spending Limits Establish spending boundaries: Set limits on how much each partner can spend without consulting the other, especially for larger purchases. This helps prevent impulse buying and keeps finances on track. Review big purchases together: For significant purchases, discuss and agree on them as a couple. This ensures you’re both comfortable with the decision. 8. Consider Financial Counseling or Advice. Get professional help if needed: If finances are causing tension or confusion, consider seeing a financial advisor or counselor. Professional advice can help create a clear plan and resolve financial problems. 9. Avoid Keeping Financial Secrets Be transparent about spending and debts: Hiding financial struggles, purchases, or debt can create distrust in a marriage. It’s important to be open with each other about financial realities, even if they’re difficult to discuss. 10. Maintain Flexibility and Adaptability Be adaptable: Financial circumstances can change due to career changes, children, or health issues. Be ready to adjust your financial plans as life evolves. By approaching finances as a team and prioritizing clear communication, couples can work together to avoid financial challenges and build a stable financial future.

HOW TO HANDLE A SILENT TREATMENT IN A RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE. Handling the silent treatment in a relationship can be challenging, but addressing it with care and understanding is key to resolving the issue. Here are some steps to help navigate this situation: 1. Stay Calm and Don’t React with Anger Reacting to the silent treatment with anger or frustration can escalate the situation. Take a deep breath and remain calm. It’s important not to mirror the silence with your own silence or frustration, as this can prolong the conflict. 2. Reflect on the Situation Before addressing the person, reflect on what may have caused the silent treatment. Did something happen recently that led to hurt feelings? Understanding the root of the issue can guide your response. 3. Give Space (If Necessary) Sometimes, the person giving the silent treatment might need some space to process their emotions. Respecting their need for time to cool down can allow for more constructive communication later. 4. Approach Gently When you’re ready, approach the person calmly and non-confrontationally. Use “I” statements, like, “I’ve noticed we’re not talking, and I feel confused. Can we talk about what happened?” This avoids sounding accusatory and opens up space for dialogue. 5. Avoid Playing Games If you resort to giving the silent treatment in return, it can turn into a power struggle and make things worse. Aim for resolution rather than a back-and-forth of silence. 6. Listen Actively When the person is ready to talk, listen carefully to what they’re saying without interrupting. Make sure they feel heard and understood, even if their feelings are difficult to hear. This can help to diffuse the tension. 7. Address the Underlying Issue The silent treatment is often a sign of deeper issues, such as unresolved conflict, hurt feelings, or unmet needs. Focus on discussing these underlying issues respectfully and with empathy. 8. Set Boundaries for Healthy Communication Let the person know that while you understand they might need space, healthy communication is important in the relationship. Discuss how you both can handle disagreements or difficult emotions in the future in a constructive way. 9. Consider Relationship Counseling If the silent treatment becomes a recurring pattern and you’re unable to resolve conflicts effectively, consider seeking help from a therapist or relationship counselor to improve communication and conflict resolution skills. Ultimately, the key is to remain patient, open, and compassionate. Silent treatment often reflects deeper emotional issues, so addressing those with care can help rebuild trust and communication

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PCOS AND IRREGULAR PERIODS 1 Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) is a hormonal disorder that affects people with ovaries, typically during their reproductive years. It's one of the most common causes of infertility. In PCOS, the ovaries may develop numerous small cysts (fluid-filled sacs) and may fail to regularly release eggs, leading to irregular periods and hormonal imbalances. Some common symptoms of PCOS include: 1. Irregular periods (or absence of periods) 2. Excessive hair growth (hirsutism) on the face, chest, or back 3. Acne and oily skin 4. Thinning hair on the scalp 5. Weight gain or difficulty losing weight 6. Darkening of the skin in certain areas, such as under the arms or around the neck 7. Fertility problems, like difficulty getting pregnant The exact cause of PCOS is unclear, but it's believed to involve a combination of genetic and environmental factors, including insulin resistance, where the body becomes less sensitive to insulin. As a result, higher insulin levels can increase the production of androgens (male hormones), which contribute to symptoms. There is no cure for PCOS, but it can be managed with lifestyle changes (like diet and exercise), medications (like birth control pills for regulating periods or medications like Metformin for insulin resistance), and, in some cases, fertility treatments. Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) causes hormonal imbalances that disrupt the regular functioning of the menstrual cycle and overall reproductive health. Here's how PCOS affects hormones: 1. Excess Androgens (Male Hormones) Androgens, like testosterone, are produced in higher amounts in PCOS. This leads to: Excessive hair growth (hirsutism) on the face, chest, and other areas. Acne and oily skin. Thinning hair on the scalp. 2. Increased Insulin Levels (Insulin Resistance) People with PCOS often experience insulin resistance, which means the body struggles to use insulin effectively. This leads to: Higher insulin levels, which can stimulate the ovaries. Learn about PCOS and it's links to hormone.