THE SILENT BATTLE OF LOW SELF-ESTEEM ROBBED TOLU THE LOVE OF A REAL MAN Find out how not to make the same mistake. Tolu sat on the edge of the bed, staring at her reflection in the mirror. The woman looking back at her had tired eyes, a forced smile, and a heart full of doubts. Daniel, her fiancé, had just sent her a sweet message about their upcoming wedding, but instead of feeling joy, she felt unworthy. "What does he even see in me?" she whispered to herself. Growing up, Tolu was never the most beautiful or the smartest. She was the quiet girl in the corner, the one who never believed she was enough. Her father’s harsh words still echoed in her mind "You're too clumsy, Tolu. Who will even marry you?" Even when Daniel came into her life, showering her with love, her past wounds whispered that it was only a matter of time before he saw the truth: that she was not worth loving. It started subtly. She would brush off his compliments, thinking he was just being nice. When he held her close, she tensed, believing he would one day let go. And then, without realizing it, she began sabotaging their love. "Why do you love me, Daniel? There are better women out there," she blurted out one evening. Daniel sighed, holding her hands. "Because you're kind, you're beautiful, and you make me happy." She pulled away. "No, I'm not. I'm not enough for you." Days turned into weeks, and Tolu’s self-doubt became a wall between them. Every time Daniel reassured her, she found a reason to disbelieve him. She avoided dates, rejected his affection, and convinced herself that he would eventually leave. And one day, after another argument fueled by her insecurities, he did. As she watched him walk away, her heart shattered. Not because he didn’t love her, but because she had never learned to love herself. Low self-esteem doesn’t just affect how you see yourself—it affects how you love and how you receive love. It creates fear where there should be trust, distance where there should be intimacy. If you’ve ever felt like Tolu, it’s time to break the cycle. You deserve love—not just from someone else, but from yourself. Join THE WAITLIST FOR THE COURSE HOW TO DEAL WITH LOW SELF-ESTEEM AND BECOME PRODUCTIVE and learn how to embrace your worth so you don’t push love away when it comes knocking. Because love can’t fill the spaces only self-worth can. Are you ready to heal? Take the first step by joining the wait-list. All other information would be communicated in the group. @

On Monday, I had a business meeting somewhere in town with a young man who was sent to me for help in reviewing an agreement he signed for a property he bought. As I was going through the document, he put on his glasses, started bombarding me with questions that was not related with what we came there for and kept staring at me. I immediately told him to take the glasses off because there was no need to record our conversation. I also pointed out that he didn’t need to bring the pen he placed on the table before me at the eatery where we met because that, too, was recording. He was shocked that I figured out he was using spy glasses. He apologized and tried to give excuses, but I wasn’t even interested because I was already getting annoyed. I explained the document to him and left. What he didn’t know is that I once worked as a lawyer in a security company in kubwa during my early days in Abuja, so I know a lot about these gadgets. Friends, be careful out there! People are always looking for ways to take advantage of you. Some will start conversations just to get information from you. They will use what you said to bring you down while they go up. Stay alert, protect your personal security, and don’t be careless with your words. Even the people you call close friends can snitch on you when things get tough. Don’t let your words end up in the wrong hands! Stay safe!

Ruth came to God of Israel after years of living in darkness,but He gladly received her service even though she was a Moabite foreigner. She bound herself to the service of the Lord, interweaving her service with Him like the braiding of a heavy rope. Some of us thinks that it is too late to quit those unhealthy lifestyles that we have lived with for years,but I am here to encourage you that you can do it through Christ that strengthens you. No matter how long you have lived an unhealthy life even if it is from birth,you can still make amends. Get up from that bed this morning and face your fears. The prize will come in the long run. Invest in your health. Good morning.

12 BASIC HYGIENE TIPS FOR WOMEN 1. Shower regularly: Bathing daily helps remove dirt, sweat, and bacteria, keeping your skin fresh and healthy. 2. Maintain intimate hygiene: Clean the genital area daily with warm water, using a mild, unscented soap if needed. Avoid douching as it can disrupt the natural pH balance. 3. Wear clean, breathable clothing: Opt for cotton underwear and loose-fitting clothes to prevent irritation and allow your skin to breathe. 4. Change sanitary products regularly: Whether using pads, tampons, or menstrual cups, change them every 4-6 hours during menstruation to prevent odor and infections. 5. Wash your hands frequently: Always wash your hands with soap and water, especially after using the restroom and before eating. 6. Brush and floss your teeth twice a day: Good oral hygiene prevents bad breath, cavities, and gum disease. 7. Keep nails trimmed and clean: Regularly cut your nails and keep them clean to avoid infections and maintain overall hygiene. 8. Use deodorant or antiperspirant: To reduce body odor and stay fresh, apply deodorant daily, especially after showers. 9. Wash hair regularly: Shampoo your hair regularly to remove oil and buildup. The frequency depends on your hair type and personal needs. 10. Maintain a healthy diet: Eating a balanced diet with plenty of water helps maintain your overall hygiene by promoting clear skin and general well-being. 11. Avoid tight clothing: Wearing tight clothes, especially around the waist and thighs, can cause irritation and sweat buildup, leading to rashes or infections. 12. Clean your makeup tools: Regularly clean your makeup brushes and tools to prevent bacteria buildup, which can lead to skin issues or infections. Follow this feminine tips to improve your personal hygiene. Being neat gives you more confident as a lady. It makes you to have high self-esteem. Good morning my ladies.

PCOS AND IRREGULAR PERIODS 1 Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) is a hormonal disorder that affects people with ovaries, typically during their reproductive years. It's one of the most common causes of infertility. In PCOS, the ovaries may develop numerous small cysts (fluid-filled sacs) and may fail to regularly release eggs, leading to irregular periods and hormonal imbalances. Some common symptoms of PCOS include: 1. Irregular periods (or absence of periods) 2. Excessive hair growth (hirsutism) on the face, chest, or back 3. Acne and oily skin 4. Thinning hair on the scalp 5. Weight gain or difficulty losing weight 6. Darkening of the skin in certain areas, such as under the arms or around the neck 7. Fertility problems, like difficulty getting pregnant The exact cause of PCOS is unclear, but it's believed to involve a combination of genetic and environmental factors, including insulin resistance, where the body becomes less sensitive to insulin. As a result, higher insulin levels can increase the production of androgens (male hormones), which contribute to symptoms. There is no cure for PCOS, but it can be managed with lifestyle changes (like diet and exercise), medications (like birth control pills for regulating periods or medications like Metformin for insulin resistance), and, in some cases, fertility treatments. Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) causes hormonal imbalances that disrupt the regular functioning of the menstrual cycle and overall reproductive health. Here's how PCOS affects hormones: 1. Excess Androgens (Male Hormones) Androgens, like testosterone, are produced in higher amounts in PCOS. This leads to: Excessive hair growth (hirsutism) on the face, chest, and other areas. Acne and oily skin. Thinning hair on the scalp. 2. Increased Insulin Levels (Insulin Resistance) People with PCOS often experience insulin resistance, which means the body struggles to use insulin effectively. This leads to: Higher insulin levels, which can stimulate the ovaries. Learn about PCOS and it's links to hormone.

I had a conversation with one of my faithful friend. And he brought my attention to the issue of sexual immorality scattered around the world. He related some heart breaking events that happened under his nose. The funniest part of this is that, the guys involved in this will gather later to tell each other how the lady was, how of a fool she is and how they have been able to get in between her legs. What a shame! And a lady will be beautifully dressed but her value has been mocked by some guys because she had an affair with them. You will think that gaining access to their money is the best thing that has happened to you. But the virtue going out of you is much more greater than what they are offering you. Wise up wonderful lady, have a great message to teach your offspring later in life. Value yourself so that you won't be made useless.

LOOK OUT FOR THIS ALSO ✍🏾 When it comes to choosing a life partner, people have different criteria. Some look for beauty, financial stability, social status, spirituality, or intelligence. Others look out for shared interests, purpose or even tribe. All of that is good, I'm not against it in anyway, as an adult it's your responsibility to know what you desire and if you're serious about it, you go for it. Now, because of the nature of my work, I’ve had the privilege of talking to many people about relationships, however, I’ve noticed something, very few people mention what I’m about to share with you. One of the greatest challenges people face in their relationships is insisting on people who are unwilling. Please pay attention to every word I’m about to say. If you can understand this truth and apply it, your life will change for the better. Don’t insist on someone who is not willing. 🙏🏾 It may not sound like a big deal, but I'm telling you it's super important, look out for someone with a willing heart. Unwilling people will make your journey hard, exhausting, and full of struggles. Love was never designed to be forced. A relationship should not feel like a battlefield where you constantly have to convince someone to love, respect, or value you. Marriage is meant to be a partnership, not a burden. Your partner should be someone who genuinely delights in making your life easier and better, someone who willingly helps you focus on the things that truly matter with as few distractions as possible. An unwilling person will not do that. No way! Instead, they will drain you emotionally, frustrate your efforts, and make the relationship feel like hard labour. If you have to push, beg, drag, or nag someone to fulfill their basic duties in a relationship, pause and ask yourself, am I signing up for a lifetime of struggle? You need to know, it's very important. Because that’s exactly what happens when you marry an unwilling person. A willing partner is committed. They show up, they contribute, they take responsibility—not because they’re forced, but because they want to. Even scripture says, “If I do this thing willingly, I have a reward…” (1 Corinthians 9:17). Willingness brings results. Don't settle for a marriage full of unnecessary crisis, life is hard enough, don't add salt to injury. Willingness makes the journey smooth. 💯 Willingness is proof of love, respect, and commitment. Willingness is key to any successful relationship. A person who is willing will take initiative, they will be intentional about the relationship, and they will put in effort without being pressured. On the other hand, an unwilling person will always find excuses, delay commitments, and resist responsibilities. God didn’t create marriage to be endured, He created it to be enjoyed. But that enjoyment is only possible when both people are equally invested in the relationship. Don’t beg to be loved. Don’t force someone to choose you. The right person won’t need convincing to love you, commit to you, or prioritize you. When it is right, you won’t have to fight for attention, beg for love, or constantly prove your worth. There are a thousand and one other people out there who will be more than willing to love you, except if you're telling you don't know who you are or your worth as a child of God. A relationship where one person is always dragging the other along will never be fulfilling. Marriage is too heavy to operate successfully on the energy of one person, no matter how vibrant and strong you think you are, marriage won't work out with your input alone. Listen, someone can be "God-fearing" and unwilling, what I'm trying to say is this, look out for willingness in your spouse also, at least, in addition to all the other qualities you so desire. If someone truly wants to be with you, they will show it willingly. Do yourself a favour by choosing wisely, and please, don’t settle for an unwilling person for any reason. This is just a counsel and you can do with it as you please 🙏🏾 Enjoy 😊

Not me putting my off my phone countless times, turning the airplane mode on countless times, just because I thought that network is very bad 🤦🏾‍♀️ Not knowing that my data had finished 🙆🏽‍♀️ Data wey I just sub yesterday evening 😳 Funny enough I didn’t do anything serious online yesterday, unlike other days that I do a lot of activities For hours, I was waiting for network to stabilize with confidence, because I was so sure, not knowing that data has disappeared E shock me oh, I’m in pains 🥹 The thievery in MTN’s eyes has increased to 2000%, because how? 🤷🏽‍♀️ Who else has experienced this?

Something very devilish started happening when I got back from the hospital I would see things or hear something that reminded me of my stay Or even if my mind just flashed back to being in that place for so long and this wave of a feeling I can’t quite describe would just come over me My mind started playing tricks on me Was this PTSD? Post partum depression??? It was a mix of fear, sadness and pain It wasn’t nice at all This kept going on and on One day I just voiced it out to my husband I told him “babe do you know that when I think back on my hospital stay, this feeling comes that is so scary” He said “let’s pray about it”. Shortly after we prayed, He said “babe when next that thought comes just GIVE THANKS “ My brothers and my sisters, so what was happening to me was that I was reliving and going through every scary scenario that happened All the bleeding and pain and leakage Hours and hours of fetal monitoring and mental torture And the devil would come and replay it and say “but you went through something really tough o” But guess what, As simple as “Give thanks “ sounds , immediately he said it, it was like a light switch came on That was all. From that moment, everything just vanished. I just smiled because I knew I was free Yes I went through so much but God delivered me from so much I’m sharing this to say 🤍Maybe you’re like me and you have gone through something that was super hard. And you’re left with memories that are not so pleasant. Don’t let the devil keep you in a place of mourning. GIVE THANKS because your scars are proof that that thing did not kill you. You survived You won Use your story to encourage others 🤍Revelation brings deliverance. There could be something you’re going through that seems so big but the solution could be something so simple Who would think that just touching Jesus clothes would heal a problem that had defied every other solution I pray for your today, may the revelation that you need to pull you out of that situation be made manifest May your eyes of understanding open May light come into your spirit!

2025, one of the things I told myself this year is that I will live my life to the fullest. I will try out things I haven't done before. Eat the foods I haven't tasted before. Go to places I haven't gone before (good places actually). And so far, I'm enjoying it. I have been under the control of a fixed lifestyle and it can only cause pain and depression when things aren't going my way. I have learnt to be flexible and embrace new things. But then I have boundaries.