Having sexual urges is not bad; it's a sign that you're healthy. You should be worried the moment you don't feel any.

Controlling it depends on the individual. That's why it's important to find out your triggers. As much as feeling horny comes naturally, you can still be triggered to feel that way.

To control it, you have to study yourself and discover your triggers.
Triggers are those things that fuel your thoughts, especially when you're alone, leading you to either masturbate, watch pornography, or engage in premarital and extramarital sex with the opposite gender.

Your environment can be a trigger; your news feed on social media can be a trigger; your friends can be a trigger; your phone library and gallery can be a trigger. So take your time and study yourself if you struggle with controlling your sexual urges. Identify your triggers and cut off from them.

It is easy to blame men but let's be sincere with ourselves - many ladies are enablers.

We see fire, blow it with a fan, enter into it, and then complain that it's too hot.

We enable men to waste our time, disrespect, and use us.
But here is the thing, after enabling men to do us anyhow, we play v!ctim and either blame our emotions or men.

The only person that can't be blamed is us.

A lady will leave her house and start living with a man who is not her husband.

House chores that they beg her to do at home, she’ll go to a man’s house and become a glorified house girl.
When he now starts disrespecting her, she’ll come online to say that men are w!cked and users.

How can a lady date a man for years and when I ask her about marriage she tells me that she doesn't know.

You don't know as how?

Many ladies stay in relationships for years without ever discussing marriage with the man they are with.
They are waiting for him to talk.

If he wakes up one morning after 5 years and says that he doesn't want to marry her, she will now say that he wasted her time.

If the time was important to you, why were you not intentional about the relationship?

Why were you in a “let's see how it goes” relationship?

After a year together, why didn't you reassess the relationship to be sure that you're both on the same page as regards marriage?

Many of us are not intentional.
Even if some guys want to date us for 10 years, we are very available.

Our availability has enabled many men’s lack of commitment.

You'll say that you're doing talking stage and be spending 3 years in it🤦🏽
How will he remember to define the relationship when you're available like his wife?

Any time of the day he wants to talk, you're available.

A man claims to love a lady but isn't prioritizing communicating with her.

Instead of the lady too to form busy, she’ll start begging for his attention like someone who is not loved at home

Some of us will remain in one-sided relationships and continue in them until we are almost brok£n beyond repair.

Some of us don't even have boundaries.
We don't know that men learn from us how to treat us.
Men know ladies they treat with high regard and the ones that are commoners.

Let's be serious with our lives this year and stop this v!ctim mentality.

Stop enabling bad behaviour and lack of commitment in men.

We are all adults now.🙏🏽

Mazikeen Fallen Angel

Light shines on the stream where the girls in the village usually comes to fetch water and also do some washing.
Girl 1: did you hear what happened
Girl 2: what happened gest me
Girl 1: there's this rumors going on in the village ooo
Girl 2: what rumor
Girl 1: Ada don'tl me your not in this village ooo
Ada: see me ooo, Sarah if you want to tell me then go ahead na why biting about the bush
Sarah: okey ooo, have you heard about something that landed in the sea in the next village years ago. And since then no body has heard anything about it.
Ada: wonders shall never end oooo, the last time you said it was in a far away village now is the next village abeg which one should I believe now.
Sarah : am just keeping you updated based on how am hearing it ooo because me now am scared
Ada: hmmmm is ok miss imformate
Sarah : see who is coming ( she turns back)
Ada: who na ..... Okey abeg let's be going I believe you are done washing na, ( the girl walked towards them)
Sarah : abeg oooo don't touch me oooo with that devil's face of yours before you give me bad luck this morning
Ada : Sarah no na, don't call her that na ...
Sarah : hold it there I will address her any how I want
Girl 3: Sarah what have I done to you that you will not allow me to have peace in this village. Right Dr when we were kids or are my the one that created myself like this
Ada: Bellema is okay na, sorry don't mind her okay ( she gets closer to console her) you supposed to have known Sarah by now.( Sarah drags her as they both left the scene with their water and clothes)
Bellema : what have I done in this life ( she looks up to the sky) God why did you created me this way, there's no difference between me and a monkey ( one part of her face were covered with back hair and also a part of her body too, the other side was dark in complexion)
Woman 1: Bellema what are you still doing here this village is no longer safe oooo
Bellema: mama Ada good Morning , but how do you mean.
Woman 1: don't tell me you have forgotten so soon about what landed in the river of Amanni years back
Bellema: I had it ma , but I don't believe in that
Woman 1: better do oooo, you now alone here so do fast an leave my daughter.
Bellema: ok ma bye bye ( the woman carried her farm tools and leaves the scene. Bellema strated singing while washing her clothes as tears drops down her chick . After washing and was ready to leave she heard someone singing that same song , she looks around but couldn't see anyone. She joined the singing and left the scene, the moment she left Mazikeen lifted her face out of the water and smiled.

Mazikeen Fallen Angel

Light shines on the stream where the girls in the village usually comes to fetch water and also do some washing.
Girl 1: did you hear what happened
Girl 2: what happened gest me
Girl 1: there's this rumors going on in the village ooo
Girl 2: what rumor
Girl 1: Ada don'tl me your not in this village ooo
Ada: see me ooo, Sarah if you want to tell me then go ahead na why biting about the bush
Sarah: okey ooo, have you heard about something that landed in the sea in the next village years ago. And since then no body has heard anything about it.
Ada: wonders shall never end oooo, the last time you said it was in a far away village now is the next village abeg which one should I believe now.
Sarah : am just keeping you updated based on how am hearing it ooo because me now am scared
Ada: hmmmm is ok miss imformate
Sarah : see who is coming ( she turns back)
Ada: who na ..... Okey abeg let's be going I believe you are done washing na, ( the girl walked towards them)
Sarah : abeg oooo don't touch me oooo with that devil's face of yours before you give me bad luck this morning
Ada : Sarah no na, don't call her that na ...
Sarah : hold it there I will address her any how I want
Girl 3: Sarah what have I done to you that you will not allow me to have peace in this village. Right Dr when we were kids or are my the one that created myself like this
Ada: Bellema is okay na, sorry don't mind her okay ( she gets closer to console her) you supposed to have known Sarah by now.( Sarah drags her as they both left the scene with their water and clothes)
Bellema : what have I done in this life ( she looks up to the sky) God why did you created me this way, there's no difference between me and a monkey ( one part of her face were covered with back hair and also a part of her body too, the other side was dark in complexion)
Woman 1: Bellema what are you still doing here this village is no longer safe oooo
Bellema: mama Ada good Morning , but how do you mean.
Woman 1: don't tell me you have forgotten so soon about what landed in the river of Amanni years back
Bellema: I had it ma , but I don't believe in that
Woman 1: better do oooo, you now alone here so do fast an leave my daughter.
Bellema: ok ma bye bye ( the woman carried her farm tools and leaves the scene. Bellema strated singing while washing her clothes as tears drops down her chick . After washing and was ready to leave she heard someone singing that same song , she looks around but couldn't see anyone. She joined the singing and left the scene, the moment she left Mazikeen lifted her face out of the water and smiled

Hey!

Always remember It doesn't matter how great of a person you are if the person you are interested in has not made room for you to be in their life, it just won't happen.

You owe it to yourself to pour your effort and energy into someone who is actually ready for love. When you feel like you are forcing your way into someone's life, step back and reevaluate some things.

Love never works when it's forced and can never grant you all round peace, It only works when the vibe, the connection and the feelings are mutual .

Let go of relationships that do not serve you well after putting efforts to making it work.

Let go of dishonest people, people who don’t respect you, people who are overly critical and relationships that prevent you from growing.

• Don't chase people.
• Be yourself.
• Do your own thing, and love people.
The right people, the ones who really belong in your life will come to you and stay this year.

I know that true love is hard to find this days, but I pray for those that are believing God for a miracle, someone will walk into your life and get it right were everyone else got it wrong.

This year, you'll have your best friend, your biggest supporter, and your teammate all wrapped up into one Person In Jesus' Most Dependable Name, Amen!!!

THE BENEFITS OF KEEPING SEX OFF DURING DATING

1. It helps you to make wise and clear decisions in choosing a partner. Sex beclouds your judgement because it is pleasurable.

2. It keeps away jokers. Only a serious person will want to date you without sex. This is how to know who is a player or not.

3. It helps you two know each other deeper. When sex is introduced as two people are getting to know each other, the lovers dwells so much on sex that they miss out on other important things about each other. Sex distracts young lovers from building the right foundation for a future marriage.

4. It makes you two love each other for your heart and character, not sexual excitement.

5. It prevents unwanted pregnancy. When you love someone and you trust them, often you might not use protection during sex. Many men and women have become unplanned parents because they were engaging in sex with someone they love in a relationship. Often, the pregnancy changes things between them, some break up, other men abandon the woman and child. Others do get married but with a feeling they were trapped by the pregnancy.

6. It brings Godly peace in the relationship. Many Christian lovers feel guilty because of their sexual activity. A lack of Godly peace and continuous guilt makes the relationship suffer, you start to question.

7. It makes you both disciplined. You will need discipline in marriage, if you will get married. Premarital sex is the mother of extra marital sex. If you're strafing & jerking off now, real commitment will be difficult for you.

8. In the event that you do break up, the break up will not be messy and full of regret. Many have sexed a person they thought would be their husband/wife only for the relationship to end. It becomes very difficult to move on once sex has been involved.

9. If you do get married, you will both look forward to the honeymoon. Don't rush, great sex is on the way.

10. It's easier to leave a relationship when sex is not involved. It is easier to see things clearly when sex is not involved. Many young folks use sex to repress issues in their relationships. Orgasm can make everything wrong feels right. Premarital sexxx is not a proof of love.

Conclusively, There’s a delight in waiting for your wedding night, knowing well that you WAITED & falling into each other's arms in deep passion without guilt. It might be rare these days, but it’s still beautiful, pious and morally satisfying. Sex consummates marriage. Marry first, then sex.

If you've not accused your husband or wife of pretending before marriage, you’ve not started marriage

Marital stages are funny. You'll move from when love is over sharking you to when your eyes are now clear and you can see some flaws

It even happens in relationships and people begin to think they have fallen out of love and start searching for a new person. It's a normal feeling and if you're not trained, you'll make careless regrettable decisions.

For us, we are already married so its now prayers, patience, and understanding levels

But if you're still in a relationship, know the ones your power can handle and the ones you cannot handle.

For some flaws that you'll see when you graduate to Stage 2 of your relationship, patience will be required of you as your partner works on it. But others require professionals to handle it and not you.

HOW TO MAKE CREAMY MOI MOI – Step-by-Step Guide with Pictures

Ingredients:
• Peeled beans
• Mackerel fish
• Eggs
• Coconut milk
• Tatashe (red bell pepper)
• Cayenne peppers
• Scotch bonnet
• Onions
• Crayfish
• Cooking oil
• Seasoning
• Salt

STEP 1: Prepare the Fish
• Cut and wash the mackerel fish, then place it in a pot.
• Add seasoning, salt, chopped onions, and some water.
• Cook until done, then remove, debone, and set aside.

STEP 2: Boil the Eggs
• Place eggs in a pot with water and boil until fully cooked.
• Once done, peel off the shells, cut into desired sizes, and set aside.

STEP 3: Blend the Peppers
• In a blender, add tatashe, cayenne peppers, scotch bonnet, and onions.
• Blend until smooth.

STEP 4: Fry the Pepper Mix
• Heat some cooking oil in a pan, then pour in the blended pepper mixture.
• Add seasoning, salt, and crayfish.
• Fry well until the mixture thickens and the oil separates.
• Turn off the heat and let it cool slightly.

STEP 5: Blend the Beans
• In a blender, combine peeled beans, onions, and water.
• Blend until smooth and creamy.

STEP 6: Mix the Moi Moi Batter
• Pour the blended beans into a clean bowl.
• Add the fried pepper mix, coconut milk, and deboned mackerel fish.
• Stir well to combine, then adjust seasoning and salt to taste.

STEP 7: Portion into Molds
• Scoop the batter into moi moi bowls or pouches.
• Place a piece of boiled egg in each portion.

STEP 8: Cook the Moi Moi
• Arrange the moi moi containers in a cooking pot.
• Add water and a few drops of cooking oil to the pot.
• Cover the pot and steam on medium heat for 30 to 40 minutes.

STEP 9: Serve and Enjoy!
• After 40 minutes, check if the moi moi is firm and fully cooked.
• Once ready, remove from heat and serve hot.

Enjoy your creamy moi moi with pap, rice, or any side of your choice!

HOW TO MAKE MILK MAGNUM

Ingredients:
250 grams of milk
2 egg yolks
40 gr of powdered milk
40 gr of condensed milk
40 grams of sugar
40 grams of white chocolate
250 grams of cream

Preparation:
1. At first we mix all the ingredients in a bowl except for the white chocolate for a few seconds until they are integrated; The 250 grams of Milk, the 2 Egg Yolks, the 40 grams of Powdered Milk, the 40 grams of Condensed Milk and the 40 grams of sugar
2. We take to the fire in a saucepan and while stirring over medium heat we leave it until it becomes a kind of custard
3. Remove from the heat, let cool and add the 40 grams of white chocolate, letting them melt.
4. We put in the fridge to cool well.
5. We mount the 250 grams Cream and mix with the previous cream.
6. Fill the molds and leave them in the freezer for at least 10 hours before consuming.
Hope someone finds this helpful!

The Whispering Signs

Amanda and Ryan had been dating for three years. They were deeply in love, and everyone around them thought they were the perfect couple. Ryan was charming, handsome, and successful, while Amanda was beautiful, intelligent, and caring.

However, as time passed, Amanda began to notice some red flags. Ryan would often cancel their plans at the last minute, citing work emergencies. He would also get defensive and dismissive when she tried to discuss her feelings or concerns. At first, Amanda brushed these incidents off, thinking that they were minor and that Ryan's good qualities outweighed his flaws.

But as the months went by, these small issues became louder and more frequent. Ryan's cancelations turned into a pattern of unreliability, and his defensiveness morphed into full-blown anger. Amanda found herself walking on eggshells, never knowing when Ryan's mood would shift.

One day, Amanda's best friend, Sarah, sat her down and asked her why she was still with Ryan. Amanda confessed her concerns, but also expressed her fear of being alone and her hope that Ryan would change. Sarah listened attentively, then shared a valuable lesson:

"Amanda, the whispers you're hearing now will become screams in marriage. The issues you're ignoring will magnify, and the love you're holding onto will slowly fade. You deserve better. It's okay to acknowledge the signs and walk away."

Amanda took Sarah's words to heart. With a heavy heart, she ended her relationship with Ryan. It was a difficult decision, but she knew it was necessary.

Months later, Amanda met someone new – Alex. Their relationship was built on mutual respect, trust, and communication. Amanda realized that she had settled for less with Ryan, and that she deserved a love that lifted her up, not one that weighed her down.

As Amanda looked back on her experience with Ryan, she understood the importance of listening to the whispers. She learned that it's crucial to acknowledge the signs of an unhealthy relationship and to prioritize one's own happiness.

The moral of the story is clear: it's better to address the issues early on, rather than ignoring them and hoping they'll disappear. The whispers you hear in the beginning of a relationship will only grow louder with time. Listen to them, and don't be afraid to walk away if necessary. You deserve a love that loves you back, loudly and clearly.