TIPS TO A HAPPY MARRIAGE:

1. Don't joke with your husband stomach...... Food is very important to men.

2. Don't avoid her food no matter how tasteless it may be. Encourage her if possible, teach her how to cook .

3. SEX is a bound that keeps marriage. Don't for any reason or reasons deny each other.

4. If you have issues between you. Don't be fast to involve a 3rd party.

5. Women, no matter how rich your husband may be. Find something to be doing, 2 good heads are better than one .

6. If you want to have a better and happy family. Train your children well.

7 . Women: don't wait for your husband to be providing all the family's need. He will one day breakdown.

8. Men, carrry your wife along in your plans. Her opinion could be the best.

9. Fault finders don't make good home ..... Have it at the back of your mind that nobody is perfect .

10. The sooner you learn that (I'm right) destroys marriages,The better for you .

11. Togetherness brings unity in marriage. Form a habit of eating and bathing together, it increases love among couples.

12. Forgiveness a key to a successful marriage. Forgive each other no matter the offense .

13. I'm SORRY should always be in your lips It's just a word but very powerful.

14. Don't for any reason keeps a secret between you. Trust each other for the good of your marriage .

15. Family planning is not only contraceptives or controlling child birth. Is all about planning together, families that plans together are a step closer to greatness .

16. Always involve God in your family He's the answer and solutions to your family problems.

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THE PROBLEM WITH MASTURBATION

So many people don't know masturbation creates serious problems till they get married. Both sex masturbate. Girls masturbate as much as boys do, they just don't talk about it.

People masturbate on the excuse that they do not want to fornicate but since their bodies are burning they've gotta find a means of release before they burn to d£ath.

Let's talk about sex a little. The real enjoyment in sex comes when a man can go in, hold it, thrust for some time before £j@culating. I've got to get real with singles here because some people set the wrong foundation for their marriages and ruin their chances of ever enjoying sex forever! A man needs to "hold it" for as long as possible before shooting because once he shoots that's the end of the show. The wife is left helpless with her body crying for more but the man can't go further because he is completely done, worn out and weak.

Here is where masturbation ruin your sex life. The man is used to getting a release WITHOUT WAITING, he has formed a habit of going solo and getting a release as soon as the pressure for sex comes on him, of course, since he is not married, he does not understand the consequences.

After marriage, he suffers from PREMATURE £J∆CULATION. Some men's case are so worse that while the woman is still undressing, he has already masturbated and wet himself to the disgust and annoyance of the woman. This is not theory, I'm talking about real life issues.

Some men also £j@culating before gaining entrance at all while some shoot the moment they get in. These are all BAD, VERY BAD sex acts.

Ladies who are always achieving orgasm through dildo, banana, cucumber and solo stroking won't enjoy sex too. You won't be able to wait for the man to work on you neither will you be satisfied with his size of p£nis especially if you are used to big size cucumbers! You are so used to getting solo orgasm you can't feel the sexual experience or you compare your husband to your cucumber, dildo or sex toy! That's why some women complain they don't enjoy sex even if they have it with different men on daily basis!

Learn to hold your body. Self control is a quality you must possess if you want to enjoy sex in marriage. Some singles argue that it's better to fornicate then and avoid the problem of masturbation altogether. It's still the same problem of IMPATIENCE and LACK OF SELF CONTROL. If you must always have sex as a single person, you will commit adultery in marriage, because whenever your spouse is not available or heavily pregnant, you will go out and look for who to have sex with. It's as simple as that. A successful married life is built on principles, you can't eat your cake and have it. If you cannot control yourself before marriage, you won't control yourself after marriage.

Avoid watching pornography. You can't watch those heavy scenes and not masturbate. Get close to God and get busy with your life and vision. An idle hand is the devil's workshop.

People who are physically and mentally lazy carry out all manner of vices imaginable.

Read good books that shape your future. Read my book: KISS ME OR I D1£! If you are struggling with heavy sexual temptation and masturbation and don't know how to come out! You will be completely delivered and empowered after reading!

Make friends with positive people who value chastity and purity. Avoid friends who crack dirty jokes and say lewd things.

Respect your body, value yourself and put sex in the right perspective.

Learn to wait for sex. There is no where you are rushing to. If you marry at 25 you still have 75 years to enjoy sex, why the hurry?

Impatience is a vice not a virtue, learn to wait for what is yours. It pays on the long run.

Thanks for reading, God bless you, cheers!

© Seun Oladele 2015, Re posted, 2025.

Women are your financial enermy, the better you know.

THE PROBLEM WITH MASTURBATION

So many people don't know masturbation creates serious problems till they get married. Both sex masturbate. Girls masturbate as much as boys do, they just don't talk about it.

People masturbate on the excuse that they do not want to fornicate but since their bodies are burning they've gotta find a means of release before they burn to d£ath.

Let's talk about sex a little. The real enjoyment in sex comes when a man can go in, hold it, thrust for some time before £j@culating. I've got to get real with singles here because some people set the wrong foundation for their marriages and ruin their chances of ever enjoying sex forever! A man needs to "hold it" for as long as possible before shooting because once he shoots that's the end of the show. The wife is left helpless with her body crying for more but the man can't go further because he is completely done, worn out and weak.

Here is where masturbation ruin your sex life. The man is used to getting a release WITHOUT WAITING, he has formed a habit of going solo and getting a release as soon as the pressure for sex comes on him, of course, since he is not married, he does not understand the consequences.

After marriage, he suffers from PREMATURE £J∆CULATION. Some men's case are so worse that while the woman is still undressing, he has already masturbated and wet himself to the disgust and annoyance of the woman. This is not theory, I'm talking about real life issues.

Some men also £j@culating before gaining enterance at all while some shoot the moment they get in. These are all BAD, VERY BAD sex acts.

Ladies who are always achieving orgasm through dildo, banana, cucumber and solo stroking won't enjoy sex too. You won't be able to wait for the man to work on you neither will you be satisfied with his size of p£nis especially if you are used to big size cucumbers! You are so used to getting solo orgasm you can't feel the sexual experience or you compare your husband to your cucumber, dildo or sex toy! That's why some women complain they don't enjoy sex even if they have it with different men on daily basis!

Learn to hold your body. Self control is a quality you must possess if you want to enjoy sex in marriage. Some singles argue that it's better to fornicate then and avoid the problem of masturbation altogether. It's still thesame problem of IMPATIENCE and LACK OF SELF CONTROL. If you must always have sex as a single person, you will commit adultery in marriage, because whenever your spouse is not available or heavily pregnant, you will go out and look for who to have sex with. It's as simple as that. A successful married life is built on principles, you can't eat your cake and have it. If you cannot control yourself before marriage, you won't control yourself after marriage.

Avoid watching pornography. You can't watch those heavy scenes and not masturbate. Get close to God and get busy with your life and vision. An idle hand is the devil's workshop.

People who are physically and mentally lazy carry out all manner of vices imaginable.

Read good books that shape your future. Read my book: KISS ME OR I D1£! If you are struggling with heavy sexual temptation and masturbation and don't know how to come out! You will be completely delivered and empowered after reading!

Make friends with positive people who value chastity and purity. Avoid friends who crack dirty jokes and say lewd things.

Respect your body, value yourself and put sex in the right perspective.

Learn to wait for sex. There is no where you are rushing to. If you marry at 25 you still have 75 years to enjoy sex, why the hurry?

Impatience is a vice not a virtue, learn to wait for what is yours. It pays on the long run.

SEVEN THINGS YOU SHOULD GIVE YOUR SPOUSE DAILY

When it comes to giving, many married people are generous to everybody except their spouses. There are seven things you should give your spouse daily – not weekly, monthly or annually. They are things you must give your spouse daily. Let’s see them:

1. Give Your Spouse A TOUCH

One of the ways to bond with your spouse is to give him or her a touch. We have encouragement touch, affirmation touch, healing touch, apology touch, and we have sexual touch. Study your partner and know what touch to give at a particular time.

If you want God to touch your marriage, touch your spouse. Don’t let today go without you touching your spouse!

2. Give Your Spouse SPACE

As much as you need to bond with your spouse and be together for daily intimacy, communication, affection, planning, etc., you still need to give your spouse his or her space. There is time for couples’ prayers, time for couples’ bonding. Also there is time for personal prayer, personal meditation, personal rest, personal planning, etc.

Don’t choke your spouse. Don’t be over-possessive and over-demanding to your spouse. Stop unnecessary policing and monitoring. Give your spouse the space they need when they need it.

3. Give Your Spouse A CALL/CHAT

Some people can chat with all the contacts on their phone and all the people on their Face book friends list but they will never chat with or call their spouse all through the day.

Chatting with or calling your spouse in a day at work is a way of saying, “Dear, despite my busy schedule, I have you in mind. I am thinking about you.”

Make sure you send a chat, or give a call, to your spouse today. Make it a habit; it is beneficial to both of you. Nobody can be tired of receiving a caring chat or a call from someone they love.

4. Give Your Spouse A HUG

Hugging is fast disappearing in many marriages today. Research has proved that hugging is one of the emotional needs of every human being. It is the scarcity of spousal hugs that makes many men indiscriminately hug ladies who are not their wives. Many women too crave for hugs and unwittingly allow every Tom and Jerry to hug them because their husbands are not giving them hugs.

Hugs can be given in the morning, or at night, but let no day pass without you hugging your spouse. It is one valuable thing you must give your spouse. It could be a welcoming hug, a goodbye hug, an appreciating hug, or an affirmative hug.

Hugging is a non-verbal means of communication. Use it well. Don’t let your husband or wife crave for a hug from strangers when you are still alive. Hug passionately! Hug romantically.

5. Give Your Spouse A SMILE

God smiles on a home when couples smile at each other. A smile is a way of telling your spouse, “You delight me,” “Your presence amuses me,” “I am pleased with you.”

Frowning at your spouse is not a thing that should last a whole day. One of the ways to know your marriage is SMELLING is when you are not SMILING with each other. Smile. It is one of the best gifts you can give your spouse in a day.

I don’t like people who are not generous with their smiles. It is free. You don’t need to pay to smile. Just relax your muscles and smile. Couples, please smile! Keep smiling! To prevent your marriage from smelling, keep smiling with your spouse!!!

6. Give Your Spouse PEACE OF MIND

The home is the endpoint of everything we do daily. If you are a doctor, you can’t sleep in the hospital all the days of your life. You will need to come home. If you are an engineer, you can’t sleep in the site everyday. If you are a lawyer, you can’t sleep in the court everyday. Even as a pastor, you can’t be in the church 24/7. We all must go back home.

Home is the endpoint. Therefore, if your spouse will be excited to come home, it must be a peaceful home. Stop nagging, stop fighting, Stop insulting, stop abusing, stop threatening, and stop humiliating your spouse. Give him/her rest of mind. Give your wife rest of mind.

Be the head of your wife sir, not the headache of your wife. Madam, be a wife to your husband, not a ‘knife’. Blessed are the couples who give each other peace of mind daily!

7. Give Your Spouse A PRAYER

No matter how wealthy or highly connected you are, there are things you cannot do for your spouse. You are limited. One of the ways to show love to your spouse is to commit him/her to the unlimited God. Say a word of prayer for your spouse daily.

Every other thing may fail and may not work, but no force can withstand the power of prayer. You can’t heal your spouse, only God can heal him/her. You can’t lengthen the days of your spouse. Only God can do that. You can’t save your spouse. You can’t take away addiction and evil habits from your spouse , only God can do that for him/her..

How I Teach My Daughters to Recognize a Real Man

1️⃣ Never Fund a Man’s Potential – A man’s growth is his responsibility, not yours. If he’s still “figuring it out,” he’s not ready for you. You are a partner, not a stepping stone.

2️⃣ Do Not Carry His Burdens – A man should come prepared to lead, not looking for a woman to fix, build, or struggle with him. If he cannot provide, protect, or guide, he is not a man—he is still becoming one.

3️⃣ Never Accept Less Than You Deserve –
You don’t shrink to fit a man’s life; he expands to meet your standards.
A strong man rises to the occasion—a weak one asks you to settle.

4️⃣ If He Invites You, He Provides – A man who values your time respects the responsibility that comes with it. If he asks you out, the bill is his. No discussion.

5️⃣ If He Wants Your Time, He Earns It – Your presence is a privilege, not a given. A real man shows consistency, effort, and intentionality. Anything less is a waste of time.

6️⃣ A Man Who Wants You Forever Will Never Rush You Into Bed – A man with true intentions will never pressure you. He will value your mind, your presence, and your standards. Lust moves fast—love moves with patience.

7️⃣ Never Stay in a Relationship with a Liar or a Cheater – Disrespect is not love. Betrayal is not a mistake—it’s a choice. A real man protects your heart, not plays with it. When a man shows you he can’t be trusted, believe him and walk away.

8️⃣ Never Entertain a Man You Wouldn’t Want Your Son to Be – If his character wouldn’t make you proud as a mother, he has no place in your life as a partner. The men you allow in your space set the standard for the next generation—choose wisely.

9️⃣ If He Doesn’t View You as His Wife and Provide for Your Needs, He’s Bringing Chaos and Confusion – A man who isn’t intentional about you is a distraction. If he’s not stepping up, he’s pulling you down. A real man brings clarity, stability, and security—not stress.

My daughters will never settle.

Neither should you.

If your fathers didn’t teach you, i am!

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𝗦𝗜𝗚𝗡𝗦 𝗧𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗔𝗥𝗘 𝗥𝗘𝗔𝗗𝗬 𝗙𝗢𝗥 𝗠𝗔𝗥𝗥𝗜𝗔𝗚𝗘

1. As a lady, you are at least 21 years old and the man is at least 25 years old.

2. You have a job/ business that can take care of you, your wife and at least a baby.

3. As a man you have your own apartment and you pay all your bills by yourself.

4. As a lady, you can take good care of yourself and another person without any stress.

4. You love children and hope to have yours.

5. You enjoy cooking and do house chores without being told.

6. You can live at least a thousand miles away from your parents.

7. You can make major decisions about your life and face the consequence.

8. You are no longer under the control and command of your parents.

9. You do not yield to peer pressure. You do what needs to be done regardless of what anyone feels.

10. You are sexually responsible. You know how to say NO to premarital sex and mean it.

11. As a lady you have a good relationship with your dad and you are submissive to authorities.

12. As a man, you love your mum, sisters and treat women generally with respect and dignity.

13. You know how to make and multiply money.

14. You are spiritually sound. You pray and receive answers to your prayers. You know how to hear God.

15. You are generous. You give with pleasure.

16. You have a healthy sexual desire.

17. You know exactly what you want in life and you pursue it daily to attain it.

18. You have a strong desire to love, bond with and help another person be all what God wants them to be.

19. You do not have destructive bad habits.

20. You are in full grip of your emotions. You are not hot tempered, lustful and possessive!

These and more are the signs you are ready for marriage. Marriage requires all round maturity: physical, social, financial, mental, emotional, psychological. It is not compulsory you must marry at 25.

Wait till you are mature or your immaturity will destroy your marriage. I see it happen all the time. May the Lord grant you understanding.

WHAT IS OVULATION?

Ovulation is the period where an egg is released from the ovary awaiting fertilization from the sperm.

If the egg is fertilized, it travels down to the uterus and implants there.

If it doesn’t get fertilized, it disintegrates and gets reabsorbed into the body.

The uterine lining is then shed during the next menstrual period.
Ovulation usually happens mid-cycle, so if you have a 28 day cycle, ovulation is on the 14th day.

However, if you have a longer cycle, subtract 14 days from the number.

For example, if you have a 32 day cycle, 32-14 = 18.

Your ovulation date is 18th.
WHAT SIGNS SHOW YOU’RE OVULATING?

1. Cervical mucus

This is the most obvious sign of ovulation.

Your mucus becomes clear, stretchy, and slippery, resembling raw egg whites.

This helps sperm swim more easily toward the egg.
2. Increased basal body temperature

Basal body temperature is the temperature of the body at rest, before any activity is carried out.

Normal body temperature is usually between 35.5 to 36.6 degree C

A slight raise (0.5 - 1 degree Fahrenheit) indicates ovulation.

This can be tracked using a thermometer.
3. Increased libido

There’s a surge in estrogen during ovulation, and it comes with a noticeable increase in sexual desire.

Women feel very sexually stimulated during ovulation.
4. Ovulation pain

This is called mittelschmerz. It’s a mild pain or cramp on one side of the abdomen during ovulation.

Some women feel this pain.
5. Breast tenderness

Some women feel breast tenderness after ovulation.

This is because of an increase in progesterone after the egg has been released.
Other signs include;

- Heightened sense of taste and smell
- Light spotting or bleeding
- Softer and higher cervix

Knowing when you ovulate is very important.

It gives you a sense of control over your body, and helps you get pregnant without hitch.
Other ways of tracking ovulation include;

- The calendar method
- Ovulation kits
- Fertility tracking apps

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