To all ladies
You might lose a good man when you expose your affairs..
When you listen to your toxic single friend's advice, you end up regretting it when it's too late. So ladies, if you have a good man, hold on to him. When I say a good man, I don't mean a man who is "perfect" but a man who tries, who
struggles with you, and who is here for you. Love that man, keep that man, because a man like that is hard to find.
You have to surround yourself with good people
Appreciate the little things he does, even if they go unnoticed by others. Support him in his efforts, just as he supports you in yours. A bond built on loyalty, respect, and understanding is one worth protecting.

Unapologetically You

The world doesn’t need another copy; it needs you. And trust me, when you dare to be authentically you, the world takes notice.

In a world full of copies, your uniqueness is your power. Stop trying to fit in.

Don’t fear being called “different”; the greatest minds were once misunderstood.

Remember, diamonds shine brightest under pressure.

Be "You", stand tall in your uniqueness, and let the world notice your uniqueness.

Be unapologetically you and be Bold.

So today, walk boldly in your uniqueness. Talk like you, think like you, create like you.

You are unique and Special just the way you are.

DON'T SETTLE WITH THEM.

Never settle with a partner who respects their libido and orgies more than anything. Those aren't 'mistakes', those are patterns.

Don't settle with people who sleep around, have $£× with multiple partners, have high body counts, numerous abortións, have children from different partners, had experience of cohabitation and lots more.

They are second hands, fairly used, expired products, finished materials, empty barrels, doors without locks, used and dumped.

Don't expect character, discipline,fear of God and decency from people who have lost their virginity in the name of relationship just to satisfy their orgies and urges.

They may pin another person's child on you, inflict you with STD'S, marry someone without womb, share them with their ex's, you may not be able to satisfy their $£×ual needs and they may not want to settle for one person.

They are the reasons for cheating, paternity fraud, divorce, infidelity, unfaithfulness and lack of true love.

Their pasts matters, their secret is important. No matter what. Those who celibate, pure, virgins and abstain are the best. Don't allow society to deceive you.

A woman can always sense when a man is not fully committed

It's the devotion of her connection with him that allows her to feel when something isn't right

Women are naturally intuitive and connected to the emotional depths of relationships.

They can tell when their partner’s words don’t match their actions, when their energy feels distant or distracted. This innate ability is a gift, a strength that often goes unnoticed by men.

*A woman’s love is powerful, but it can also blind her to the truth if she believes too deeply in the potential of her partner*.

Embracing Imperfectionism.

You must not be perfect before you start. I urge you to start now, because perfectionism doesn't happen overnight. To become perfect, you must be ready to embrace imperfectionism.

You want to become an expert, yet you don't want to follow the process of learning? Remember, perfectionism is not the goal; progress is.

Many people are still holding on to this mentality that you must be perfect before you start, or else people will insult and laugh at you. Yes, even if you're perfect, they will still laugh at you.

Start now. Start small. Start regardless. The way to perfectionism is by learning and showing up. You must not be perfect before you start.

Beloved, Beyond being a graduate, develop yourself personally.

I've encountered many graduates who can't express themselves.

There are 1st class graduates who know nothing about how the real life works.

I've worked with graduates who lacked basic life and work skills.

Being a graduate is not enough.

To your academic qualifications, please add personal development.

There are so many things that they don't teach in the university.

They don't teach you self confidence.

They don't teach you financial intelligence.

They don't teach you elegance and sophistication.

They don't teach you how to speak up for yourself.

They don't teach you basic life skills that will help you go through a rough world.

They don't really teach you how to make your own money, rather they teach you how to work and serve and recieve money.

It's even beyond having a skill.

Yes you can have a skill as a graduate, yet you don't know what to do with it.

You can have a skill, yet you're too shy to utilise it.

Personal development makes you street smart.

Personal development makes you know your worth.

Personal development makes you know when you need to walk away.

Personal development makes you know when you're being used.

Attend events, attend conferences. Read good books, watch reasonable movies.

Hang out with people who have experience in life who might not necessarily be graduates.

Gather lots of experiences.

Discover yourself as an individual.

Attend extra curricular activities, trainings online and offline.

That way you develop capacity beyond just grades.

Grades don't define a man. One can pass in the university and fail in life.

DON'T SETTLE WITH THEM.

Never settle with a partner who respects their libido and orgies more than anything. Those aren't 'mistakes', those are patterns.

Don't settle with people who sleep around, have $£× with multiple partners, have high body counts, numerous abortións, have children from different partners, had experience of cohabitation and lots more.

They are second hands, fairly used, expired products, finished materials, empty barrels, doors without locks, used and dumped.

Don't expect character, discipline,fear of God and decency from people who have lost their virginity in the name of relationship just to satisfy their orgies and urges.

They may pin another person's child on you, inflict you with STD'S, marry someone without womb, share them with their ex's, you may not be able to satisfy their $£×ual needs and they may not want to settle for one person.

They are the reasons for cheating, paternity fraud, divorce, infidelity, unfaithfulness and lack of true love.

Their pasts matters, their secret is important. No matter what. Those who celibate, pure, virgins and abstain are the best. Don't allow society to deceive you.

𝐒𝐄𝐓𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐒𝐌𝐀𝐑𝐓 𝐆𝐎𝐀𝐋𝐒 𝐓𝐎 𝐔𝐍𝐋𝐎𝐂𝐊 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐏𝐎𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐓𝐈𝐀𝐋.

Before we delve into the subject matter, let's try to understand what GOAL really means.

In one word, I simply define goal as a 'deadline'. Goal is a time at which a plan is expected to be achieved.

It is very good that every purposeful person have a goal. Any plan without a goal is likely not to be achieved, it will suffer procrastination.

Setting goals isn't bad, dreaming big isn't wrong, but setting goals that your conscious mind tells you is impossible, at the set designated time can be dangerous. This is because it will prevent you from taking the first step(you don't even know how or where to start).

Learn to set goals, but SMART ones.

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What is Smart goal?

A smart goal is a plan made with mental alertness and calculation.
As a person on the journey to discovery, it is very crucial you make smart goals to unlock your potential.

"Before Dec. 30, I must have..."
"Before Jan. 31, I must be..."

Make plans and set a deadline for it. Tell yourself the punishment you'll get if you fail to achieve the goal at the designated time. It will help you take the right steps at the right time.

Goal setting is one tool that helps you focus and continue to go through the process necessary for unlocking your potential

YOU NEED THREE THINGS TO SURVIVE!

Air, food and water

Not today!

As creatives, that includes creative writers, public speakers, we need three things to thrive in our endeavour, and yes, its definitely not food air and water.

It's the 3W's!

WHO

This is you, surprisingly!
You are the one that delivers the message, you are the voice behind the "noise" oh sorry the words. You are the one that talks and writes.

WHAT

This is your message, the 'noise' remember? This is what you've come to say, please don't say rubbish. This are the words you've created.

WHOM

This is where 'we' come in, the people listening to your noise, your message, your voice. This is your audience.

Remember, WHO you are, WHAT the message is about and for WHOM it is for, you're good to go!

MARRY SOMEONE

No matter how prepared you are for Marriage, it can still be a tough Journey, a journey of shocking discoveries and unexpected turns and twists.

No matter the number of marriage counseling you'll get, you'll still see things and be like "they never told me this"

Kids will come with their peculiar challenges,
In-laws, money, other room palava, money matters, balancing career/ministry and your marriage, the list goes on..

One of the best decision you can make is not just preparing for marriage, but marrying someone who is equally preparing for marriage.

Someone who loves God and will love you as an extension of their love for God.

Someone who can take a joke without feeling insulted. Not everybody will allow you call them big head.

Someone who knows how to see the joke in everything, life is not that hard.

Someone who accepts you as you are, short or tall, chubby or slim, PhD or HnD, at your best or at your worst.

Someone you can talk to about ANYTHING and they won't judge you, who can take corrections.

Someone who really wants their marriage to work and will bear, and forgive many things cause of that.

Someone who can carry your dreams and aspirations and help you birth them just to see you reach your full potentials.

Someone who is a lover Peace, not War.
Some persons actually love trouble more than they love peace. You marry them, and every day you'll be discovering new cases and settling fresh matters.

Someone who will make you feel like there's nothing wrong with you.

Someone who will join hands with you to make your Marriage a Heaven on Earth, marry someone who isn't just intersted in marriage but also intersted in the marriage work, raising kids, talking, going for PTA meeting, etc.

Someone who will love you, respect you, submit to you, listen to you, worship you like you were a god to them.

Someone who will make you feel special because you are, we all are in our own beautiful ways.

Someone who will be faithful to you, no matter the temptation they face.
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Marry Someone who Marries You, and then takes you on a journey of LOVE, GROWTH INTIMACY and FULFILLMENT.

MARRY SOMEONE