Don't call her your woman until you officially marry her...

Men
My neighbor begged me to lend him 10k to give his girlfriend to fix her phone. I asked him;

" why don't you tell your girlfriend that you are broke and can't afford 10k at the moment?"

He replied that he don't want her to be angry and dump him

His answer was too funny to me, after laughing out loud , I simply told him that I don't have 10k to give him.

He left with annoyance and I could see disappointments written on his face.

When he left, I pondered on this and asked some rhetorical questions;

Let's assume that my girlfriend is broke and couldn't fix her phone, then I couldn't help her fix it because I am also broke.

Why would she be angry with me for being broke when she is also broke ?

Why should my own brokenness give her serious concern when she should concentrate on solving hers?

Is she indirectly blaming me for being the cause of her brokenness simply because I am her boyfriend?

If she can't endure with me in my temporal brokenness, how will she be able to face marital challenges with me in the future?

Being broke doesn't automatically make you a poor man. There is nothing wrong with you for being broke even billionaires experience brokenness once in a while .

It is not something you should be ashamed of. The reasons you ventured into a committed relationship are; to check your compatibilities, to test her loyalty and sincerity and to make her know your dons and don'ts Her characters will determine where to place her; whether she belongs to the streets or to be domesticated.

Yes, we are meant to help ourselves but not to your own detriments.

At this stage, she is not yet your responsibility. Whatever you are doing for her is a PRIVILEGE not her RIGHT .

Any woman whom you have not officially married, is not your woman. Don't call her your woman until you pay her bride price because she still have right to flirt with other men without breaking any law.

Don't allow her problems to cause you headache when you have yours.

. Assist her if you can but don't put yourself into debts to impress her

Money can't keep her, . Your sacrifices are nothing to her, women are loyal to their feelings and their feelings are unstable

Stop running helter skelter to help her, she will still dump you without having a second thought.
Be wise
Don't looseguard.

Romance Through Words

Words are mightier in love. Compliments, love letters, and heart-to-heart talks keep the flame burning. Saying those magic words, "I love you," or words of gratitude seals relationships. Romantic words need not be poetic; it's the sincerity that makes them unforgettable.

The Language of Love

Love speaks in whispers, in gentle touches, and in heartfelt glances. It's a language that transcends words, cultures, and time. Love's universal dialect is understood by all, and its beauty lies in its simplicity, sincerity, and depth. When spoken from the heart, love's language has the power to heal, to inspire, and to transform.

*LIFE IS LIKE A SCHOOL*

The sincerity of a husband is known during the sickness of his wife.

That of a wife is known during the financial difficulty of the husband.

True love of children is known during the old age of the parents.

The true nature of siblings is known during distribution of inheritance.

The sincerity of friends is known during hard times.

True relatives are known when one is far from his country, lonely or sick.

True love is known when there is no means of benefit.

A true believer is known during times of hardship.

In all, life is the teacher itself.

May we grow in wisdom, understanding and patience.

1. Be careful so you don't hate a lovely person, because of a dirty rumour you heard about them which was created out of jealousy and envy.

2. Try to appreciate those who gossip about you. It's not easy for someone to leave their problems and carry yours on their head.

3. Forgive_betrayals_ but be careful with them , because next time they may not spare your life.

4. Even if you kill yourself for some people, they will still complain that you didn't die in a proper way.

Do your best and leave the rest, you can't satisfy_human being_ .

5. If you are always worried about what others are saying about you , you will never be happy.

6. When your _blessings_ are getting closer, your attacks become greater.

Don't look at the storm, God is the controller of all things he created, and He is by your side, you're a victor.

7. Everybody can not love you, don't lose your peace over those who hate you.

Those who convinced people to hate you can not convince God to hate you.

8. Stay connected to God always.

Have confidence in God for with God all things are possible.

He wrote on X: “His journey along the path of hallucinations has never been in doubt. So is his descent into muddling facts, forgetting that he ran a Presidency on record as the most corrupt. His recent diatribe at Yale University lacks sincerity.

Unspoken Rules for Men:

1. Never shake a hand sitting down. Standing up shows respect and engagement. It signifies that you value the person you are meeting and are fully present in the interaction.

2. Protect who is behind you, and respect who is beside you. This emphasizes loyalty and honor. Protecting those behind you means safeguarding your family, friends, and teammates. Respecting those beside you signifies recognizing the equality and value of your peers.

3. Never insult the cooking when you are the guest. Showing gratitude and respect for hospitality is essential. Criticizing the cooking is disrespectful and ungrateful, especially when someone has gone out of their way to host you.

4. Never eat the last piece of something you didn't buy.
This rule underscores courtesy and consideration for others. It demonstrates awareness and respect for shared resources and the contributions of others.

5. Never make the first offer in a negotiation.
Letting the other party make the first offer can provide strategic advantages. It gives you insight into their expectations and can help you negotiate better terms.

6. Don't take credit for work you didn't do.
Integrity in acknowledging others' efforts is crucial. Taking undue credit undermines trust and damages your credibility.

7. Take the blame, and give credit when due.
Owning up to mistakes and recognizing others' contributions builds respect and trust. It shows maturity and leadership.

8. If you are not invited, don't ask to go.
Respecting boundaries and invitations is key to maintaining good social etiquette. It avoids awkward situations and respects the host’s intentions.

9. Always aim for the head. This metaphorical rule can apply to many scenarios, implying that you should strive for excellence and precision in your efforts.

10. Don't beg for a relationship.Self-respect and dignity are important. Desperation can lead to unhealthy dynamics and undervalues your worth.

11. Dress well no matter what the occasion. Good grooming and dressing appropriately show respect for yourself and others. It also boosts confidence and makes a positive impression.

12. Always carry cash.
Being prepared for various situations, including emergencies, is practical. It reflects foresight and responsibility.

13. Listen, nod, and most of all make eye contact. Active listening and non-verbal engagement are crucial for effective communication. They show that you value and are attentive to the speaker.

14. Show restraint in expressing anger, no matter what. Being angry is a waste of energy. Managing anger is vital for maintaining composure and making rational decisions. It prevents regrettable actions and fosters a more positive environment.

15. Whether it's dinner, drinks, or both, avoid placing your phone on the dinner table.
Prioritizing face-to-face interactions over digital distractions shows respect and attentiveness to those present.

16. Never pose with alcohol. Maintaining a responsible image is important. Posing with alcohol can convey unprofessionalism or recklessness.

17. Proper grammar will get you far in life. Leave the foul language for the less educated.
Good communication skills, including proper grammar, enhance your credibility and professionalism. Avoiding foul language shows respect and maturity.

18. Ask more than you answer. Showing interest in others by asking questions fosters better relationships and understanding. It also demonstrates humility and a willingness to learn.

19. You can tell a great deal about a person by their handshake, so make yours strong and firm. A firm handshake conveys confidence and sincerity. It is often the first impression you make, so it’s important to get it right.

20. Speak honestly. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Honesty builds trust and integrity. It involves being truthful and consistent, fostering deeper connections and mutual respect.

Speaking honestly also means balancing truth with empathy and tact, ensuring that your words are respectful and considerate....

I now announce myself as candidate for the Presidency. I anticipate criticism but however unfavorable I trust that my sincerity will not be called into question.

If I trust in Christ, I believe in the wisdom of His commands as well as in the sincerity of His promises. God does not command me to believe in this or that promise of Christ. No, He tells me I must believe in the Lord Jesus Himself.

Sincerity and truth are the basis of every virtue.