Good morning, I got married without informing my parents or any relatives. When I first showed my man to my parents, my dad said he didn't like where he was from and how arrogant he sounded. So they asked me to leave him. I love my man, so I continued dating him. My parents never changed their stand, so I agreed to marry this guy under the law. It was just his friends and mine that celebrated. I left my parents' house to go live with my husband, telling them I was moving out due to the fact that my new workplace gave me a flat. I gave birth a year ago. I had no family support. It was some elderly woman I employed to help with bathing my baby. Then my husband came home one day to tell me his parents would be coming over and since they didn't know we were married, I had to leave the house. He drove the baby and I to a single room he claimed to have rented temporarily for us. We took a few clothes at first because I thought we would go home within a day or two. A week came, two and three. Instead of coming to take us home, he brought a bit of our things every day instead. At some point, I was getting confused. I asked why his parents were taking so long, and he said they were doing some projects in town. A month came, and before I knew, he had brought all my things and that of the baby. Then, one day, he told me I couldn't move back into the house because his parents got him a different woman to marry. He was rather begging me not to make a fuss about it but remain calm and be his secret wife. It was hard for me, but I eventually had to agree because I couldn't win that war easily. Bro Kwaku, as I speak to you, my husband hasn't visited us in four months and he won't talk to me. He doesn't even answer my calls or texts. He lived like we don't exist. He has stopped taking care of us. He is living lavishly with the other woman in the house. I want to get a divorce, but I don't know what I stand to gain if I try. Is there a lawyer here to advise? I can't go to my parents' house like this. I look d!rty and m!serable. I need to get my life back in order first. I have lost my beauty. It's so stressful taking care of this child alone. I've exhausted every penny to my name. #copied