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  • Once upon a time, a lady I followed on Twitter said, "If I get pregnant and it's a male fetus, I'll ab*rt it. I'll never willingly bring another man into this world."

    That day, I called myself for a meeting.

    You see, a few years prior, one of my stories unexpectedly blew up on Twitter. I literally went from 511 followers to 4,000+ in one day. This led to my being more active in that app. I followed certain accounts with whom I believed we shared the same interests in feminism, faith, politics, and writing. I engaged with their tweets as often as I could.

    However, I soon began to notice a change in me. I'd become a snarky, impatient, less objective, and angry person. I noticed this the most in matters of politics and feminism.

    Somehow, I'd gone from wanting and advocating for equity for women in a world that's largely unfair to us, to seeing almost nothing good in men. If I tweeted something about women and their suffering at the hands of men and a man countered my opinion, I'd become enraged.

    This went on for while. One day, after a particularly nasty exchange with a guy and seeing that tweet above, I called myself for a meeting and had an internal audit. Eketi, why are you angry? Why are you not liking men anymore? What did they say or do that's so bad, you're lashing out at all of them? Who is sponsoring your outrage?

    For feminism in particular, while I thought I shared a common interest with many of the feminist accounts I followed, I didn't know their motivations, why they were feminists. I thought we all wanted the same thing. A bit naïve of me, I know. What was clear though, was that many of them were mad at men. Hateful even. Some were misandrists of the worst kind. Others believed in intersecting feminism with other ideals.

    In constantly consuming their content, I'd absorbed their emotions, beliefs, and disposition towards men. I was becoming like them. I also realised there were cliques who were committed to driving and promoting certain narratives about men. I, was an outsider, part of the clueless, unreasoning mob who had no idea why we were protesting, but protesting nonetheless.

    Now, I don't know their experiences, what made them arrive at the belief that no man is worth liking or loving or being treated like a human being. I will not judge them for it - it could be nothing, it could also be something - (I mean, I'm still trying to get one of my mentees to see that all men aren't bad, after she was r@ped by her father and her brother).

    But I knew I couldn't continue in that direction. To nourish my mind with quietness, inspiration, growth, and positivity, and reflect that in my life, I immediately unfollowed many of those accounts and carefully curated my follow list from scratch. I muted the words 'politics' and 'feminism'. I unfollowed those who often make those quick disrespectful comebacks and call it savagery. My timeline went quiet.

    I followed people whose conversations uplifted, educated, and inspired me, and cultivated the habit of listening to opposing views without losing mine. I also followed the feminists who weren't just talking, but walking the walk. We joined our resources to rescue kids who are trafficked, take sex workers off the streets, send girls in underserved communities to school, etc. My anger disappeared, my objectivity returned.

    This brings me to the subject of the mind. The mind is an interesting thing, true. Whatever you feed it, it soaks up like a sponge everything. Our minds don’t discriminate between what’s “good” or “bad” for us—they simply absorb. And over time, the mind becomes what it absorbs. What we feed it through conversations we engage in, the people we surround ourselves with, and the content we consume, becomes the foundation of our thoughts, actions, and even the way we see ourselves.

    If you continuously feed your mind with negativity, anger, and doubt, it will echo those feelings back to you. So, I know this may seem like a clichéd question. Nevertheless, I’ll ask it.

    What have you fed your mind lately?
    Are you consuming a healthy mental diet or is it time for a change?


    It is not just about Feminism. In fact, Feminism was just used to emphasize many points. There are takeaways that apply to life generally.
    Once upon a time, a lady I followed on Twitter said, "If I get pregnant and it's a male fetus, I'll ab*rt it. I'll never willingly bring another man into this world." That day, I called myself for a meeting. You see, a few years prior, one of my stories unexpectedly blew up on Twitter. I literally went from 511 followers to 4,000+ in one day. This led to my being more active in that app. I followed certain accounts with whom I believed we shared the same interests in feminism, faith, politics, and writing. I engaged with their tweets as often as I could. However, I soon began to notice a change in me. I'd become a snarky, impatient, less objective, and angry person. I noticed this the most in matters of politics and feminism. Somehow, I'd gone from wanting and advocating for equity for women in a world that's largely unfair to us, to seeing almost nothing good in men. If I tweeted something about women and their suffering at the hands of men and a man countered my opinion, I'd become enraged. This went on for while. One day, after a particularly nasty exchange with a guy and seeing that tweet above, I called myself for a meeting and had an internal audit. Eketi, why are you angry? Why are you not liking men anymore? What did they say or do that's so bad, you're lashing out at all of them? Who is sponsoring your outrage? For feminism in particular, while I thought I shared a common interest with many of the feminist accounts I followed, I didn't know their motivations, why they were feminists. I thought we all wanted the same thing. A bit naïve of me, I know. What was clear though, was that many of them were mad at men. Hateful even. Some were misandrists of the worst kind. Others believed in intersecting feminism with other ideals. In constantly consuming their content, I'd absorbed their emotions, beliefs, and disposition towards men. I was becoming like them. I also realised there were cliques who were committed to driving and promoting certain narratives about men. I, was an outsider, part of the clueless, unreasoning mob who had no idea why we were protesting, but protesting nonetheless. Now, I don't know their experiences, what made them arrive at the belief that no man is worth liking or loving or being treated like a human being. I will not judge them for it - it could be nothing, it could also be something - (I mean, I'm still trying to get one of my mentees to see that all men aren't bad, after she was r@ped by her father and her brother). But I knew I couldn't continue in that direction. To nourish my mind with quietness, inspiration, growth, and positivity, and reflect that in my life, I immediately unfollowed many of those accounts and carefully curated my follow list from scratch. I muted the words 'politics' and 'feminism'. I unfollowed those who often make those quick disrespectful comebacks and call it savagery. My timeline went quiet. I followed people whose conversations uplifted, educated, and inspired me, and cultivated the habit of listening to opposing views without losing mine. I also followed the feminists who weren't just talking, but walking the walk. We joined our resources to rescue kids who are trafficked, take sex workers off the streets, send girls in underserved communities to school, etc. My anger disappeared, my objectivity returned. This brings me to the subject of the mind. The mind is an interesting thing, true. Whatever you feed it, it soaks up like a sponge everything. Our minds don’t discriminate between what’s “good” or “bad” for us—they simply absorb. And over time, the mind becomes what it absorbs. What we feed it through conversations we engage in, the people we surround ourselves with, and the content we consume, becomes the foundation of our thoughts, actions, and even the way we see ourselves. If you continuously feed your mind with negativity, anger, and doubt, it will echo those feelings back to you. So, I know this may seem like a clichéd question. Nevertheless, I’ll ask it. What have you fed your mind lately? Are you consuming a healthy mental diet or is it time for a change? It is not just about Feminism. In fact, Feminism was just used to emphasize many points. There are takeaways that apply to life generally.
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  • Akpabio vs Natasha: Go and Apologize to Akpabio — Akwa Ibom Women Troop Out in Numbers to Protest Against Kogi Central Senator

    "We no go gree, the insult us too much. Leave Akpabio alone", they echoed...

    E don reach protest?

    Oga Yenne

    #ebira4real
    Akpabio vs Natasha: Go and Apologize to Akpabio — Akwa Ibom Women Troop Out in Numbers to Protest Against Kogi Central Senator "We no go gree, the insult us too much. Leave Akpabio alone", they echoed... E don reach protest? 🤔🤔🤔 🎥Oga Yenne #ebira4real
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  • Group Condemns DSS' N160Million Lawsuit Against #EndBadGovernance Protester Khalid Aminu, Demands Apology, Compensation | Sahara Reporters https://bit.ly/4hOExpj
    Group Condemns DSS' N160Million Lawsuit Against #EndBadGovernance Protester Khalid Aminu, Demands Apology, Compensation | Sahara Reporters https://bit.ly/4hOExpj
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  • BREAKING: 37 Nasarawa State University Students Expelled for Allegedly Planning Protest via WhatsApp Group

    #ebira4real
    BREAKING: 37 Nasarawa State University Students Expelled for Allegedly Planning Protest via WhatsApp Group #ebira4real
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  • Popular actress, Etinosa Idemudia continues to drag her colleague, Frederick Leonard after she called him out over his attitude towards crew members, as she shares what a certain actor did.

    It would be recalled that the thespian ranted online recently over being blocked by the actor for correcting him about his attitude towards the crew members on set.

    According to her, the unnamed actor had asked the script director to come close, and when she did, he used her blouse to clean his sweat.
    She recently took to her Instagram page page to mention his name and share a story about a certain actor who treated a script director unfairly.
    She wrote …

    “An actor called a script supervisor to come closer which she did. Suddenly he pulled her dress close to his face and used her dress on her body to clean his sweat.
    The lady protested and the actor was yelling at her and demanded that the girl be kicked out of set because he is a GOD.
    Thankfully the director had the balls to reprimand the actor and stand up for the script supervisor….. Note, he never
    Apologized and his dab was right there with his PA.
    Even God will not treat a fellow human that way.”

    Etinosa captioned …

    “Bad behaviour..„ Good evening Frederick
    Etinosa revealed that when the lady protested, the actor called for her to be removed from set
    Popular actress, Etinosa Idemudia continues to drag her colleague, Frederick Leonard after she called him out over his attitude towards crew members, as she shares what a certain actor did. It would be recalled that the thespian ranted online recently over being blocked by the actor for correcting him about his attitude towards the crew members on set. According to her, the unnamed actor had asked the script director to come close, and when she did, he used her blouse to clean his sweat. She recently took to her Instagram page page to mention his name and share a story about a certain actor who treated a script director unfairly. She wrote … “An actor called a script supervisor to come closer which she did. Suddenly he pulled her dress close to his face and used her dress on her body to clean his sweat. The lady protested and the actor was yelling at her and demanded that the girl be kicked out of set because he is a GOD. Thankfully the director had the balls to reprimand the actor and stand up for the script supervisor….. Note, he never Apologized and his dab was right there with his PA. Even God will not treat a fellow human that way.” Etinosa captioned … “Bad behaviour..„ Good evening Frederick Etinosa revealed that when the lady protested, the actor called for her to be removed from set
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  • There are indications that the federal government will on Monday meet with the Nigeria Labour Congress, NLC, to stop the planned Tuesday nationwide protest against the 50 percent telecommunications tariff hike.
    There are indications that the federal government will on Monday meet with the Nigeria Labour Congress, NLC, to stop the planned Tuesday nationwide protest against the 50 percent telecommunications tariff hike.
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  • Robin van Persie couldn't believe match officials mistakenly allowed Fortuna Sittard to field 12 players against his Heerenveen side on Saturday after Fortuna made a double substitution in the 88th minute but Jasper Dalhaus, who was subbed off, continued playing for nearly a minute.

    Van Persie protested on the sidelines before Dahlhaus eventually came off, but Fortuna equalized a minute later through a corner to snatch three points away from Heerenveen
    Robin van Persie couldn't believe match officials mistakenly allowed Fortuna Sittard to field 12 players against his Heerenveen side on Saturday after Fortuna made a double substitution in the 88th minute but Jasper Dalhaus, who was subbed off, continued playing for nearly a minute. Van Persie protested on the sidelines before Dahlhaus eventually came off, but Fortuna equalized a minute later through a corner to snatch three points away from Heerenveen 😮
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  • Over 1,000 staff members of Nnamdi Azikiwe University (UNIZIK), Awka, employed between 2019 and 2020, staged a protest over the non-payment of their salaries, alleging that N1 billion allocated for personnel costs was misappropriated by the institution’s management
    Over 1,000 staff members of Nnamdi Azikiwe University (UNIZIK), Awka, employed between 2019 and 2020, staged a protest over the non-payment of their salaries, alleging that N1 billion allocated for personnel costs was misappropriated by the institution’s management
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  • 3️⃣ Hundreds of *demonstrators took to the streets in Christian areas of Damascus to protest the burning of a Christmas tree* near Hama in central Syria , AFP journalists witnessed.

    _“We demand the rights of Christians,”_ *protesters chanted as they marched through the Syrian capital* towards the headquarters of the Orthodox Patriarchate in the Bab Sharqi neighborhood.

    The protests come a little more than *two weeks after an armed coalition led by Islamists* topped the government of Bashar al-Assad.

    The protests erupted after a video spread on social media showing *hooded fighters setting fire to a Christmas tree in the Christian-majority town of Suqaylabiyah* , near Hama.
    3️⃣ Hundreds of *demonstrators took to the streets in Christian areas of Damascus to protest the burning of a Christmas tree* near Hama in central Syria , AFP journalists witnessed. 🇸🇾 _“We demand the rights of Christians,”_ *protesters chanted as they marched through the Syrian capital* towards the headquarters of the Orthodox Patriarchate in the Bab Sharqi neighborhood. 🎄 The protests come a little more than *two weeks after an armed coalition led by Islamists* topped the government of Bashar al-Assad. 🔥 The protests erupted after a video spread on social media showing *hooded fighters setting fire to a Christmas tree in the Christian-majority town of Suqaylabiyah* , near Hama.
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  • Today's Biggest Headlines

    1. Wave of terror: New attacks plunge 10 states into anxiety

    === https://punchng.com/wave-of-terror-new-attacks-plunge-10-states-into-anxiety/

    2. Corruption responsible for Africa’s debt burden – Obasanjo

    === https://punchng.com/corruption-responsible-for-africas-debt-burden-obasanjo/

    3. Subscribers demand telecom service overhaul ahead of tariff hike

    === https://punchng.com/subscribers-demand-telecom-service-overhaul-ahead-of-tariff-hike/

    4. Men interested in dating me shouldn’t be scared — Kaffy

    === https://punchng.com/men-interested-in-dating-me-shouldnt-be-scared-kaffy/

    5. Kano Throne: Emir Sanusi secures victory against Bayero as A’Court overturns Justice Liman’s verdict

    === https://punchng.com/kano-throne-emir-sanusi-secures-victory-against-bayero-as-acourt-overturns-justice-limans-verdict/

    6. Esu-not-Satan: Traditional worshippers battle bias, seek to change stereotype

    === https://punchng.com/esu-not-satan-traditional-worshippers-battle-bias-seek-to-change-stereotype/

    7. Kingmakers protest as Makinde appoints new Alaafin

    === https://punchng.com/kingmakers-protest-as-makinde-appoints-new-alaafin/

    8. How three-year-old’s assault sparks debate on corporal punishment, teacher brutality

    === https://punchng.com/how-three-year-olds-assault-sparks-debate-on-corporal-punishment-teacher-brutality/

    9. Ibadan stampede: God will vindicate you, Ooni tells ex-queen

    === https://punchng.com/ibadan-stampede-god-will-vindicate-you-ooni-tells-ex-queen/

    10. Yobo, Martins tip Osimhen for United move

    === https://punchng.com/yobo-martins-tip-osimhen-for-united-move/

    #punch news
    Today's Biggest Headlines 1. Wave of terror: New attacks plunge 10 states into anxiety === https://punchng.com/wave-of-terror-new-attacks-plunge-10-states-into-anxiety/ 2. Corruption responsible for Africa’s debt burden – Obasanjo === https://punchng.com/corruption-responsible-for-africas-debt-burden-obasanjo/ 3. Subscribers demand telecom service overhaul ahead of tariff hike === https://punchng.com/subscribers-demand-telecom-service-overhaul-ahead-of-tariff-hike/ 4. Men interested in dating me shouldn’t be scared — Kaffy === https://punchng.com/men-interested-in-dating-me-shouldnt-be-scared-kaffy/ 5. Kano Throne: Emir Sanusi secures victory against Bayero as A’Court overturns Justice Liman’s verdict === https://punchng.com/kano-throne-emir-sanusi-secures-victory-against-bayero-as-acourt-overturns-justice-limans-verdict/ 6. Esu-not-Satan: Traditional worshippers battle bias, seek to change stereotype === https://punchng.com/esu-not-satan-traditional-worshippers-battle-bias-seek-to-change-stereotype/ 7. Kingmakers protest as Makinde appoints new Alaafin === https://punchng.com/kingmakers-protest-as-makinde-appoints-new-alaafin/ 8. How three-year-old’s assault sparks debate on corporal punishment, teacher brutality === https://punchng.com/how-three-year-olds-assault-sparks-debate-on-corporal-punishment-teacher-brutality/ 9. Ibadan stampede: God will vindicate you, Ooni tells ex-queen === https://punchng.com/ibadan-stampede-god-will-vindicate-you-ooni-tells-ex-queen/ 10. Yobo, Martins tip Osimhen for United move === https://punchng.com/yobo-martins-tip-osimhen-for-united-move/ #punch news
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