6 Ways to
Control Negative Emotions:
1. Challenge negative thoughts with logic.
2. Focus on past achievements for confidence.
3. Take small actions to build self-trust.
4. Replace self-criticism with encouraging words.
5. Accept mistakes as part of growth.
6. Practice skills consistently to gain competence

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HOW TO HANDLE A SILENT TREATMENT IN A RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE.

Handling the silent treatment in a relationship can be challenging, but addressing it with care and understanding is key to resolving the issue. Here are some steps to help navigate this situation:

1. Stay Calm and Don’t React with Anger

Reacting to the silent treatment with anger or frustration can escalate the situation. Take a deep breath and remain calm. It’s important not to mirror the silence with your own silence or frustration, as this can prolong the conflict.

2. Reflect on the Situation

Before addressing the person, reflect on what may have caused the silent treatment. Did something happen recently that led to hurt feelings? Understanding the root of the issue can guide your response.

3. Give Space (If Necessary)

Sometimes, the person giving the silent treatment might need some space to process their emotions. Respecting their need for time to cool down can allow for more constructive communication later.

4. Approach Gently

When you’re ready, approach the person calmly and non-confrontationally. Use “I” statements, like, “I’ve noticed we’re not talking, and I feel confused. Can we talk about what happened?” This avoids sounding accusatory and opens up space for dialogue.

5. Avoid Playing Games

If you resort to giving the silent treatment in return, it can turn into a power struggle and make things worse. Aim for resolution rather than a back-and-forth of silence.

6. Listen Actively

When the person is ready to talk, listen carefully to what they’re saying without interrupting. Make sure they feel heard and understood, even if their feelings are difficult to hear. This can help to diffuse the tension.

7. Address the Underlying Issue

The silent treatment is often a sign of deeper issues, such as unresolved conflict, hurt feelings, or unmet needs. Focus on discussing these underlying issues respectfully and with empathy.

8. Set Boundaries for Healthy Communication

Let the person know that while you understand they might need space, healthy communication is important in the relationship. Discuss how you both can handle disagreements or difficult emotions in the future in a constructive way.

9. Consider Relationship Counseling

If the silent treatment becomes a recurring pattern and you’re unable to resolve conflicts effectively, consider seeking help from a therapist or relationship counselor to improve communication and conflict resolution skills.

Ultimately, the key is to remain patient, open, and compassionate. Silent treatment often reflects deeper emotional issues, so addressing those with care can help rebuild trust and communication

Temperament is a person's natural personality traits including their mode, emotional reactivity and behavioral style.

Breaking News
@everyone
Naira Marley has been found NOT GUILTY in the case involving the death of Mohbad.
Following the verdict, he shared a heartfelt message directed at Mohbad’s wife and the public in woe..

: Naira Marley say..,...
"I never thought silence could be so loud. I never thought someone I called my brother, someone I protected, would leave this world with my name tied to his shadow. I’ve carried this weight, this pain, this shame—none of which was ever mine to bear.

We, as Marlians, weren’t perfect. We had to grow, we had to adapt. Mistakes were made, but they were business decisions, never war. I made peace with Mohbad. We understood each other beyond the noise, beyond the misunderstandings—and you know this.
Yet, when he took his last breath in your arms, you looked at the world and pointed at me. You let them tear me apart. You let them call me a k!ller while you sat there, knowing the truth. And now you decide to tell the story?
I welcomed you all into my home. I gave you my trust. Yet my brother is gone, still not bur!ed—and that’s on you. Telling the truth from the start would have given him the rest he deserves. Regardless, I will always be there for him.

You never thought I’d survive. You never thought I’d walk through the fire and face my people. Maybe you hoped I’d stay a fugitive. You thought I’d run. Instead, I stood before the justice system, spent time in jail, and faced it all head-on while you kept changing the story, over and over.
But God sees everything. The truth doesn’t waver. The lies will fade, and time will reveal all. I’ve been broken, but I’m not destroyed. And when the truth finally speaks, I pray your heart is strong enough to bear it."

— Naira Marley took to Twitter, visibly emotional, after being cleared of responsibility for the de@th of his signee, Mohbad, by the Federal High Court of Nigeria.
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A woman NEVER LEAVES without already having another man lined up. If she dumps you, there was already a replacement waiting, and she was prepared for him.

Don't be fooled. When a woman leaves your side, it's not because she "wants to be alone." It's because she already has another door open—along with her heart and sometimes more...

Men believe that women end things first and then search for someone new, but the reality is quite the opposite:

1. First, they find, then they finish.

2. First, they secure, then they let go.

3. First, they plan, then they execute.

It hurts to accept, but if she left you, chances are someone else was already on her radar.

This is how the harsh reality works, gentlemen:

1️⃣ Emotional distancing – She stops arguing, stops demanding, stops caring. Mentally, she’s already out of the relationship.

2️⃣ Exploring options – She might not be with someone else yet, but she’s surveying the market. She won’t stay alone for long.

3️⃣ Closing the next deal – It could be an ex, a long-time friend, or a new admirer who knew exactly what to say at the right moment.

4️⃣ Walking away without looking back – No second chances, no "let’s try again." By the time you realize what's happening, she’s already with someone new, while you’re still trying to process it.

Here's the truth they don’t tell you:

If a woman leaves you, it’s because she already has someone else supporting her.
If she says she "needs time," she’s already investing her time elsewhere.
If she swears she’s alone after the breakup, she just doesn’t want you to know who she’s with.

The problem is, men think this is just "bad luck," but in reality, it’s ignorance. Women don’t play randomly—they play chess. And while you were confident that "everything was fine," she was already making her next move.

Don't be naive. If you notice her pulling away, be prepared.

Because the next thing you’ll hear is: "I need space."

If you think she’ll come back, wake up she’s already gn

LOOK OUT FOR THIS ALSO ✍🏾

When it comes to choosing a life partner, people have different criteria.

Some look for beauty, financial stability, social status, spirituality, or intelligence.

Others look out for shared interests, purpose or even tribe.

All of that is good, I'm not against it in anyway, as an adult it's your responsibility to know what you desire and if you're serious about it, you go for it.

Now, because of the nature of my work, I’ve had the privilege of talking to many people about relationships, however, I’ve noticed something, very few people mention what I’m about to share with you.

One of the greatest challenges people face in their relationships is insisting on people who are unwilling.

Please pay attention to every word I’m about to say. If you can understand this truth and apply it, your life will change for the better.

Don’t insist on someone who is not willing. 🙏🏾

It may not sound like a big deal, but I'm telling you it's super important, look out for someone with a willing heart.

Unwilling people will make your journey hard, exhausting, and full of struggles.

Love was never designed to be forced.

A relationship should not feel like a battlefield where you constantly have to convince someone to love, respect, or value you.

Marriage is meant to be a partnership, not a burden.

Your partner should be someone who genuinely delights in making your life easier and better, someone who willingly helps you focus on the things that truly matter with as few distractions as possible.

An unwilling person will not do that. No way!

Instead, they will drain you emotionally, frustrate your efforts, and make the relationship feel like hard labour.

If you have to push, beg, drag, or nag someone to fulfill their basic duties in a relationship, pause and ask yourself, am I signing up for a lifetime of struggle?

You need to know, it's very important.

Because that’s exactly what happens when you marry an unwilling person.

A willing partner is committed.

They show up, they contribute, they take responsibility—not because they’re forced, but because they want to.

Even scripture says, “If I do this thing willingly, I have a reward…” (1 Corinthians 9:17).

Willingness brings results. Don't settle for a marriage full of unnecessary crisis, life is hard enough, don't add salt to injury.

Willingness makes the journey smooth.

Willingness is proof of love, respect, and commitment.

Willingness is key to any successful relationship.

A person who is willing will take initiative, they will be intentional about the relationship, and they will put in effort without being pressured.

On the other hand, an unwilling person will always find excuses, delay commitments, and resist responsibilities.

God didn’t create marriage to be endured, He created it to be enjoyed.

But that enjoyment is only possible when both people are equally invested in the relationship.

Don’t beg to be loved. Don’t force someone to choose you. The right person won’t need convincing to love you, commit to you, or prioritize you.

When it is right, you won’t have to fight for attention, beg for love, or constantly prove your worth.

There are a thousand and one other people out there who will be more than willing to love you, except if you're telling you don't know who you are or your worth as a child of God.

A relationship where one person is always dragging the other along will never be fulfilling.

Marriage is too heavy to operate successfully on the energy of one person, no matter how vibrant and strong you think you are, marriage won't work out with your input alone.

Listen, someone can be "God-fearing" and unwilling, what I'm trying to say is this, look out for willingness in your spouse also, at least, in addition to all the other qualities you so desire.

If someone truly wants to be with you, they will show it willingly.

Do yourself a favour by choosing wisely, and please, don’t settle for an unwilling person for any reason.

This is just a counsel and you can do with it as you please 🙏🏾

Enjoy

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√THE DIFFERENT STAGES OF MARRIAGE...
For you Learn Read and Know

1. THE AMAZEMENT STAGE: This is the "wow" stage. Lots of new things to discover with your spouse. The newness, the freshness is so amazing. Sleeping on the same bed, wearing the same attire, cooking for him, doing house chores with her, bathing together. Wearing your dazzling wedding ring everywhere, turning people's head at the newest couple around. Loads and lots of fun. Sexual exploration and excitement. Being in control of your kitchen, feeding him and lots more. It's the honeymoon stage and it's so so beautiful.

2. THE IRRITATION STAGE: This is when you begin to notice weaknesses you have overlooked or blissfully wish they go away but didn't. The repetition of such weaknesses begins to work on your nerves and you are getting irritated: he snores a lot, she is slow in the kitchen, she belches loudly, he screams unnecessarily, she won't bathe before coming to bed or shave, he spends many hours watching football and ignores you when you talk. "What's just wrong with this guy?" You think aloud, well it's part of marriage.

3. THE ANGER STAGE: This is when the repetition of such weaknesses gets on your nerves and you display your anger. The introverted partners stuffs it in and either keep malice, avoid you or stubbornly continue with the irritating habit. It's the stage you begin to wonder: "have I really married the wrong guy?" "Have I married the wrong woman?" No, you did not, you are simply going through a phase together.

4. THE RESSOLUTION STAGE: When you both begin to face the reality of marriage and acknowledge your partner's weaknesses. You eventually realize anger and malice does not solve any problem and begins to find ways to deal with your differences, both of you begin to compromise here and there and adjust to each other.

5. THE ACCEPTANCE STAGE: When it dawned on you that some things are just part of your partner and may never change till Jesus comes. You resigned from anger, abuse and quarrel and choose to accept them, lovingly adjust to them and enjoy them regardless of their weaknesses.

6. THE RESTUL STAGE:This îs the stage you permanently accept them with all their strengths, weaknesses, short comings and flaws and love them unconditionally regardless of what they do. This is real love -agape,, divine and true. You reconnect emotionally, spiritually and physically at a deeper level and enjoy honey moon again while building a lasting marriage regardless of the challenges you face.

There is no perfect marriage. Every marriage goes through this stages. How you handle it will determine if you will come out bitter or better.

You don't have to àbuse your spouse or keep malice if Christ is at the centre of your home and you obey the word of God daily.

Nevertheless, do not be disappointed if you go through the unpleasant stages in marriage. It is a phase and will surely ènd.

Handle your marriage with wisdom and keep loving regardless of the challenges you face. That is what will make your marriage a Heaven on earth experience.

RURAL DEVELOPMENT: GOV ENO DIRECTS CONSTRUCTION OF ROAD IN IKONO-UYO

...mourns demise of Obong Ekiko

Governor of Akwa Ibom State, Pastor Umo Eno, has directed the State Ministry of Works to award a contract for the construction of a 5 kilometre road in Ikono Clan, Uyo Local Government Area.

The Governor announced this while addressing sympathisers at the funeral service in honour of late elderstatesman, Obong Cyril Mathew Ekiko, at Primary School grounds, Nung Asang.

Governor Eno explained that the road construction, besides aligning with the rural development thrust of his administration, was to keep faith with the understanding he had with the deceased during his political campaign.

"I didn't know Uyo extends to this area. I would have thought it is Etinan Local Government Area. Be that as it may, I have asked the Ministry of Works to work with you to open up another road here. We are doing two already, but we will try and add one more in honour of your Dad."

He recalled consulting late Obong Cyril Ekiko, a former Member of the Cross River State House of Assembly in the second republic, to canvass support for his election as governor and the elder statesman drew his attention to the non inclusion of indigenes of Ikono Uyo in the State Executive Council since the creation of the State. He informed the people that the area has been fully represented in the new State Exco billed for inauguration on Monday February 24, 2025.

"During our campaign, I remember vividly that I visited the late Obong Ekiko, and one of the things he told me was not to forget Ikono Uyo when I become Governor, that they have not had any member in the State EXCO, either as a Commissioner or Spacial Adviser.

"But I am happy today that even though he wasn't around, we have kept our faith, we have kept the promise. Today, Ikono Uyo has, for the first time, a member in the State Executive Council that will be sworn in on Monday.

He acknowledged that the deceased stood firm in support of truth and condoled the family on the demise of the patriarch, saying that the passing of a loved one evokes painful and emotional feelings and that he, and by extension the people of the State, shared in the sadness and feeling of loss experienced by the family.

Governor Eno urged the family to take solace in the fact that the deceased had laid a solid foundation of growth predicated on excellent pursuit and intellectual curiosity whose candle the survivors should hold admirably to, in order to immortalised him, and prayed for the repose of his soul.

Chief mourner and son of the deceased, Engr. Mbong Ekiko expressed appreciation to the Governor for leading the State delegation to bid farewell to his late father, a gesture which he said culminated to his community benefitting in the rural development drive of the present administration.

Media Unit
Govt. House, Uyo
23/2/25

RURAL DEVELOPMENT: GOV ENO DIRECTS CONSTRUCTION OF ROAD IN IKONO-UYO

...mourns demise of Obong Ekiko

Governor of Akwa Ibom State, Pastor Umo Eno, has directed the State Ministry of Works to award a contract for the construction of a 5 kilometre road in Ikono Clan, Uyo Local Government Area.

The Governor announced this while addressing sympathisers at the funeral service in honour of late elderstatesman, Obong Cyril Mathew Ekiko, at Primary School grounds, Nung Asang.

Governor Eno explained that the road construction, besides aligning with the rural development thrust of his administration, was to keep faith with the understanding he had with the deceased during his political campaign.

"I didn't know Uyo extends to this area. I would have thought it is Etinan Local Government Area. Be that as it may, I have asked the Ministry of Works to work with you to open up another road here. We are doing two already, but we will try and add one more in honour of your Dad."

He recalled consulting late Obong Cyril Ekiko, a former Member of the Cross River State House of Assembly in the second republic, to canvass support for his election as governor and the elder statesman drew his attention to the non inclusion of indigenes of Ikono Uyo in the State Executive Council since the creation of the State. He informed the people that the area has been fully represented in the new State Exco billed for inauguration on Monday February 24, 2025.

"During our campaign, I remember vividly that I visited the late Obong Ekiko, and one of the things he told me was not to forget Ikono Uyo when I become Governor, that they have not had any member in the State EXCO, either as a Commissioner or Spacial Adviser.

"But I am happy today that even though he wasn't around, we have kept our faith, we have kept the promise. Today, Ikono Uyo has, for the first time, a member in the State Executive Council that will be sworn in on Monday.

He acknowledged that the deceased stood firm in support of truth and condoled the family on the demise of the patriarch, saying that the passing of a loved one evokes painful and emotional feelings and that he, and by extension the people of the State, shared in the sadness and feeling of loss experienced by the family.

Governor Eno urged the family to take solace in the fact that the deceased had laid a solid foundation of growth predicated on excellent pursuit and intellectual curiosity whose candle the survivors should hold admirably to, in order to immortalised him, and prayed for the repose of his soul.

Chief mourner and son of the deceased, Engr. Mbong Ekiko expressed appreciation to the Governor for leading the State delegation to bid farewell to his late father, a gesture which he said culminated to his community benefitting in the rural development drive of the present administration.

Media Unit
Govt. House, Uyo
23/2/25

SEVEN THINGS YOU SHOULD GIVE YOUR SPOUSE DAILY

When it comes to giving, many married people are generous to everybody except their spouses. There are seven things you should give your spouse daily – not weekly, monthly or annually. They are things you must give your spouse daily. Let’s see them:

1. Give Your Spouse A TOUCH

One of the ways to bond with your spouse is to give him or her a touch. We have encouragement touch, affirmation touch, healing touch, apology touch, and we have sexual touch. Study your partner and know what touch to give at a particular time.

If you want God to touch your marriage, touch your spouse. Don’t let today go without you touching your spouse!

2. Give Your Spouse SPACE

As much as you need to bond with your spouse and be together for daily intimacy, communication, affection, planning, etc., you still need to give your spouse his or her space. There is time for couples’ prayers, time for couples’ bonding. Also there is time for personal prayer, personal meditation, personal rest, personal planning, etc.

Don’t choke your spouse. Don’t be over-possessive and over-demanding to your spouse. Stop unnecessary policing and monitoring. Give your spouse the space they need when they need it.

3. Give Your Spouse A CALL/CHAT

Some people can chat with all the contacts on their phone and all the people on their Face book friends list but they will never chat with or call their spouse all through the day.

Chatting with or calling your spouse in a day at work is a way of saying, “Dear, despite my busy schedule, I have you in mind. I am thinking about you.”

Make sure you send a chat, or give a call, to your spouse today. Make it a habit; it is beneficial to both of you. Nobody can be tired of receiving a caring chat or a call from someone they love.

4. Give Your Spouse A HUG

Hugging is fast disappearing in many marriages today. Research has proved that hugging is one of the emotional needs of every human being. It is the scarcity of spousal hugs that makes many men indiscriminately hug ladies who are not their wives. Many women too crave for hugs and unwittingly allow every Tom and Jerry to hug them because their husbands are not giving them hugs.

Hugs can be given in the morning, or at night, but let no day pass without you hugging your spouse. It is one valuable thing you must give your spouse. It could be a welcoming hug, a goodbye hug, an appreciating hug, or an affirmative hug.

Hugging is a non-verbal means of communication. Use it well. Don’t let your husband or wife crave for a hug from strangers when you are still alive. Hug passionately! Hug romantically.

5. Give Your Spouse A SMILE

God smiles on a home when couples smile at each other. A smile is a way of telling your spouse, “You delight me,” “Your presence amuses me,” “I am pleased with you.”

Frowning at your spouse is not a thing that should last a whole day. One of the ways to know your marriage is SMELLING is when you are not SMILING with each other. Smile. It is one of the best gifts you can give your spouse in a day.

I don’t like people who are not generous with their smiles. It is free. You don’t need to pay to smile. Just relax your muscles and smile. Couples, please smile! Keep smiling! To prevent your marriage from smelling, keep smiling with your spouse!!!

6. Give Your Spouse PEACE OF MIND

The home is the endpoint of everything we do daily. If you are a doctor, you can’t sleep in the hospital all the days of your life. You will need to come home. If you are an engineer, you can’t sleep in the site everyday. If you are a lawyer, you can’t sleep in the court everyday. Even as a pastor, you can’t be in the church 24/7. We all must go back home.

Home is the endpoint. Therefore, if your spouse will be excited to come home, it must be a peaceful home. Stop nagging, stop fighting, Stop insulting, stop abusing, stop threatening, and stop humiliating your spouse. Give him/her rest of mind. Give your wife rest of mind.

Be the head of your wife sir, not the headache of your wife. Madam, be a wife to your husband, not a ‘knife’. Blessed are the couples who give each other peace of mind daily!

7. Give Your Spouse A PRAYER

No matter how wealthy or highly connected you are, there are things you cannot do for your spouse. You are limited. One of the ways to show love to your spouse is to commit him/her to the unlimited God. Say a word of prayer for your spouse daily.

Every other thing may fail and may not work, but no force can withstand the power of prayer. You can’t heal your spouse, only God can heal him/her. You can’t lengthen the days of your spouse. Only God can do that. You can’t save your spouse. You can’t take away addiction and evil habits from your spouse , only God can do that for him/her..