WHAT CAUSES PEOPLE TO BE SELF-DESTRUCT
A whole bunch of things but I think it starts with core wounds. Shame develops usually from abandonment, betrayal, humiliation and trauma. At an early age they begin to hate themselves because this is how they were taught and raised. We’re all screw ups raised by screws ups and so we learn to hate ourselves just like our parents did and their parents did before that.
Because our core psychological needs aren’t met or properly addressed by those who are supposed to help us with that, our parents, we seek to get them met through improper means. We usually look externally when we should be looking internally in order to accomplish this. In the process, most of us develop improper and destructive attitudes in regard to how the world is supposed to be and how other people are supposed to act. Then we start blaming other people or other groups of people for our problems and our ego convinces us that certain types or groups of people deserve to be treated badly which is something that a lot of people don’t necessarily see as self-destructive but it is. You can’t harm others without harming yourself.
Change becomes hard. People convince themselves that it’s easier and better somehow to stay the same instead of change, hoping that change will just happen on their own. It doesn’t work like that. But perhaps the biggest thing to take into consideration is that people, for some reason, inadvertently lose their willpower. They live off of impulse and addiction. They can’t really seem to help themselves but that’s a whole other topic.
A whole bunch of things but I think it starts with core wounds. Shame develops usually from abandonment, betrayal, humiliation and trauma. At an early age they begin to hate themselves because this is how they were taught and raised. We’re all screw ups raised by screws ups and so we learn to hate ourselves just like our parents did and their parents did before that.
Because our core psychological needs aren’t met or properly addressed by those who are supposed to help us with that, our parents, we seek to get them met through improper means. We usually look externally when we should be looking internally in order to accomplish this. In the process, most of us develop improper and destructive attitudes in regard to how the world is supposed to be and how other people are supposed to act. Then we start blaming other people or other groups of people for our problems and our ego convinces us that certain types or groups of people deserve to be treated badly which is something that a lot of people don’t necessarily see as self-destructive but it is. You can’t harm others without harming yourself.
Change becomes hard. People convince themselves that it’s easier and better somehow to stay the same instead of change, hoping that change will just happen on their own. It doesn’t work like that. But perhaps the biggest thing to take into consideration is that people, for some reason, inadvertently lose their willpower. They live off of impulse and addiction. They can’t really seem to help themselves but that’s a whole other topic.
WHAT CAUSES PEOPLE TO BE SELF-DESTRUCT
A whole bunch of things but I think it starts with core wounds. Shame develops usually from abandonment, betrayal, humiliation and trauma. At an early age they begin to hate themselves because this is how they were taught and raised. We’re all screw ups raised by screws ups and so we learn to hate ourselves just like our parents did and their parents did before that.
Because our core psychological needs aren’t met or properly addressed by those who are supposed to help us with that, our parents, we seek to get them met through improper means. We usually look externally when we should be looking internally in order to accomplish this. In the process, most of us develop improper and destructive attitudes in regard to how the world is supposed to be and how other people are supposed to act. Then we start blaming other people or other groups of people for our problems and our ego convinces us that certain types or groups of people deserve to be treated badly which is something that a lot of people don’t necessarily see as self-destructive but it is. You can’t harm others without harming yourself.
Change becomes hard. People convince themselves that it’s easier and better somehow to stay the same instead of change, hoping that change will just happen on their own. It doesn’t work like that. But perhaps the biggest thing to take into consideration is that people, for some reason, inadvertently lose their willpower. They live off of impulse and addiction. They can’t really seem to help themselves but that’s a whole other topic.
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