Imagine waking up one morning, scrolling through your phone, and suddenly seeing the wedding invitation of someone you thought you had a future with. Maybe it was your talking stage, someone you were considering, or someone who told you they weren’t ready for a relationship. Maybe it was a person you had already fallen in love with or even someone you believed you were in a relationship with. Worse still, it could be an ex you broke up with just a few months ago. The shock, the pain, the confusion it’s a lot to handle.

At that moment, anger and hurt may take over. Questions will flood your mind. Did they lie to me? Was I just a backup plan? How did I not see this coming? You may even begin to feel like they just used you to feed their intimate pleasure. The betrayal may feel unbearable, but the truth is, no matter how painful, this might be a blessing in disguise.

Fighting the person or letting bitterness take over will not change anything. Instead, take a deep breath and remind yourself that sometimes, disappointments are God’s way of clearing your path for something better. If they were meant for you, they wouldn’t be marrying someone else.

Come o, No vex but have you even take out time to ask yourself this question?, What if the person you are toasting as a guy or considering accepting his proposal as a lady is already planning their future with someone else? It’s painful to think about, but it also means you deserve someone who truly chooses you, not someone who keeps you as an option.

Healing takes time, but let this be your turning point. Wish them well, walk away with grace, and trust that your own love story is still being written, one that will be true, intentional, and lasting. Hope this blessed you? Shalom!

The truth is bitter but we must learn to swallow it...

... With 7up... #thoughtoftheday #reflections

Always be truthful

In secondary school, we say "Obey before complain". Once a student started explanation without complying, no one would listen to you. If police stops you by the road, you will stop wether you carry anything incriminating or not. I wish Madam Nat would have relocated to the New Seat and stand up to the Senate President from her lawfully re-allocated seat. It would have been better.

It's obvious the outburst is from previously accumulated grievances but, you have to fight people from the position of law. It appeared the SP has began the silent treatment of not recognising her which may be irritating. Notwithstanding, diplomacy will solve the issue. Senator Ireti, the senator representing FCT was also complaining of not been recognised few months ago when she was fighting Wike on TV and on Media. It's not new. A leader is a leader. They are all senator but, SP is the leader. Outright disrespect and fingers pointing may not end well.

In the beginning of the red chamber career, Madam Nat was SP favourite. I envied her relationship with him by then. She was named chairman, committee on local content. She was elected as a member of ECOWAS parliament. She was always accompanying SP and his Deputy on foreign trips. You can hardly see Madam pictures by then without SP. A lot must have happened that break their relationship and got aggravated by night club comments.

I will prefer a smooth relationship between her and SP than confrontation. A smooth relationship will help her and her Constituency than confrontation. She has bill to sponsor and she will need the cooperation of the leadership. Democracy is not an easy feat anywhere.

Some people says "That's Ebira blood". Well, as lovely as it may sound, I don't think it will benefit us. If I see Madam, I will tell her face to face to relax a bit. You can tame a lion to be your friend and it's not by fight. She should use her feminine attitude to get SP in her bag. A calm voice solve a thousand grievances before a raging voice will solve one

Courtesy DS Ømêizá for this wonderful write up & compliment of the season, me I decided to keep mute over this matter before some folks tag me I don't like her before but this is simple truth

Don't sacrifice your happiness for a woman.
Don't train any woman in school.
Don't give any woman a life that you have not given to yourself.
Dont pedestalize any woman.
Don't empower any woman unless you are 90x better than her.
Listen to me brothers: IF you know how fast women forget the good deeds and sacrifices you did for her, you will fear women.
The truth is, all the things you are doing for her means absolutely nothing to her and you will only discovers this when she finds your replacement and that is not difficult for her.
The only time women remember is the bad you did to them and not the good.
A woman's loyalty is not guaranteed.
Anything you are doing for a woman just count it as loss, never do for a woman what you can not let go.
Be wise.

#Relationshiptips
#lifegoeson

Live your truth. Express your love. Share your enthusiasm. Take action towards your dreams. Walk your talk. Dance and sing to your music. Embrace your blessings. Make today worth remembering.

John 8:32 And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

John 8:32 And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

This is one secret a lot of women don't know.

Men have this psychological construct that if a woman tolerates a thing from them, they hardly will change. A man wants a woman who has boundaries and doesn't take shît. When you start bringing down your standards for a man, he feels bored; no motivation to be with you again.

Men want women who can say NO and mean NO. When a man can make you do anything even against your standards, no matter how beautiful you are, you become less appealing to him.

Men love challenging women.
Men love women who are grounded in their beliefs.
Men love women who can walk away when what they want is not served.

This is why it's highly discouraged to settle with a man who has major habitual and behavioural issues that you can't cope with. No matter how much he poses to assure you that he'd change in marriage, if you fall for that. Immediately, the motivation to change drops. Don’t try to change anyone…change how you deal with them.

If a man can't change before marrying you, I fear after marriage, because most men do their best before marriage. So if this is his best before marrying you, imagine his worst?

Men want women who'll make them see that they'll lose them for not being that man they want.

Another reason men don't value women who stick to them no matter what they do.

√ He physically or emotionally abûsed you, you cry and come back..
√ He says he doesn't want you again, you cry and beg him.
√ He offends you, but you're the one apologizing.
√ He doesn't call, but you're making excuses for him that he's busy or that he's not the calling type.
√ He cheats on you, and you accept him back.
√ He ghost and gives you silent treatment but you keep going back.

In your feminine mind, you feel you're showing him love? You cannot do without him? Love cannot be found where it doesn't exist. Sometimes you have to accept the truth, and stop wasting time on the wrong people. You can’t build a relationship with someone who expects you to do all of the work.

No, you're not in love. You're devaluing yourself. When you know your worth you'll stop entertaining men who don't reciprocate your energy. Who you date/marry is an indication of what you think you deserve in LIFE. If you really think you deserve peace of mind, you won't settle for what disturbs your peace of mind. Who you date/marry is an indication of how much value you place on your FUTURE. Choosing that person is simply choosing how you want to shape all your tomorrows. Who you date or marry is an indication of how much value you place on YOURSELF. Watch closely, you're choosing an experience by choosing that person. Your CHOICE of what you call love is a selection of what you're prepared to live with all your life. Don't say I didn't warn you.

The more nonsense you tolerate from a man, the more nonsense he will produce for you.

Sometimes men prefer women who walk away than women that stays.
Men prefer women they can't have because of their high standards to women who bring down theirs to accommodate them.

Even if they get into something with you. Deep down they are not so thrilled. You're just a relationship of convenience to him. They will easily get bored. And they'll finally leave you.

Have a standard; know what you want, know what you deserve, say NO to anything that's not it and don't bring your standard down.

Thierry Henry: "Let's talk about the one that few talk about. Rodrygo, because of his work, ability, and what he does for the team are tremendous."

Jude Bellingham: “For me, Rodrygo is probably the most talented and gifted player in the squad. So underrated. Some of the things he does with the ball, I’m like ‘How?’, I would twist my ankles if I tried to do that.”

The truth.