IF PRETENCE WOULD'NT LAST FOREVER WHAT THEN IS THE ESSENCE ?

It's innate for me to mind my business, preserve my self worth cos I figured that at the end of the day, I got me either I take it up to God Or man up cos it's a bumpy ride and anyone can put dirt on your name if you're vulnerable
I feel like I speak for most gentlemen

Speaking in public can be intimidating, but with practice and preparation, you can become a confident and effective public speaker. Here are some tips to help you improve your public speaking skills:

Preparation
1. *Know your audience*: Understand who your listeners are, what they care about, and what they want to take away from your speech.
2. *Choose a clear topic*: Select a topic you're familiar with and can speak about confidently.
3. *Prepare an outline*: Organize your thoughts and structure your speech with an introduction, body, and conclusion.
4. *Practice, practice, practice*: Rehearse your speech several times in front of a mirror, record yourself, or practice with a friend or family member.

Confidence Boosters
1. *Focus on your message*: Instead of worrying about how you're coming across, focus on the message you want to convey.
2. *Use positive self-talk*: Encourage yourself with positive affirmations, such as "I'm well-prepared" or "I can do this."
3. *Take deep breaths*: Before you start speaking, take a few deep breaths to calm your nerves.
4. *Visualize success*: Imagine yourself delivering a successful speech and receiving positive feedback.

Delivery Techniques
1. *Make eye contact*: Engage with your audience by making eye contact with different people in the room.
2. *Vary your tone and pitch*: Use different tones and pitches to add emphasis and keep your audience interested.
3. *Use body language*: Use positive body language such as standing up straight and using gestures to convey confidence.
4. *Speak slowly and clearly*: Enunciate your words and speak at a pace that's easy for your audience to follow.

Handling Nerves
1. *It's okay to be nervous*: It's normal to feel some level of nervousness when speaking in public.
2. *Reframe your thinking*: Instead of thinking "I'm going to fail," tell yourself "I'm prepared and I can do this."
3. *Take a moment to collect yourself*: If you need a moment to collect your thoughts, take a deep breath and pause before continuing.

Additional Resources
1. *Toastmasters*: Join a local Toastmasters group to practice public speaking in a supportive environment.
2. *Online courses*: Take online courses or watch YouTube tutorials to learn more about public

*BEWARE OF "ONE DAY"*

1) *ONE DAY,* you will retire from active civil service and start living a private life.
2) *ONE DAY,* another person will be sitting on your seat and be in your position.
3) *ONE DAY,* you will lock your door, but you will not be the one to open it.
4) *ONE DAY,* you will wash that best clothes of yours and you will not be able to wear it.
5 *ONE DAY,* your favorite food will be prepared and you will not be there to eat it anymore.
6 *ONE DAY,* you will eat and drink what you will never excrete.
7 *ONE DAY,* your curriculum vitae and all your years of experience will not matter to anyone anymore.
8 *ONE DAY,* the person that seems to love you most will never dare to move closer to you.
9 *ONE DAY,* you will think of what you can never accomplish.
10 *ONE DAY,* you will be regarded as "a corpse"
11 *ONE DAY,* you will be isolated in a place called "grave"
12 *ONE DAY,* those things and people you love most will come your way but you will not be able to give any attention to it/them.
13 *ONE DAY,* you will hold your breath and never be able to release it.
14 *ONE DAY,* you will become a defendant before The Chief Judge (GOD).
15 *ONE DAY,* houseflies/ termites will come your way and you will be unable to chase them.
16 *ONE DAY,* you will receive a call that you can never decline.
17 *ONE DAY,* your name will be called, but no one will answer.
18 *ONE DAY,* the assets you cherished most will be taken by another person.
19 *ONE DAY,* your deed on Earth will be presented to you like a CD.
20 *ONE DAY,* a title will be added to your name "Late"
21 *ONE DAY,* The Great Allocator will allocate you to an appropriate place.
22 *ONE DAY,* that your beautiful skin will turn to its original nature-sand/dust.
23 *ONE DAY,* your entire body will cease operation. The verb will change from he is a good man to he was a good man.
24 *ONE DAY,* you will be given an eternal apartment, either Paradise or hell.
25 *ONE DAY,* you will not be able to hold nor type anything on this phone anymore.
*In Summary, take LIFE easy, DO GOOD, and run from EVIL. Be at peace with everyone, love your neighbour as yourself and remember that "that ONE DAY will surely come when this write-up shall be fulfilled in your Life."*
Please inform your Loved ones and people you wish to save from hell, to remind THEM about that 25 *'ONE DAY'
May the Almighty God continue to bless and guide us so as to be conscious on our today, tomorrow, next and always.

You are the person in whom I find a lover, a best friend, and the kindest soul I have ever seen. It is not easy to put up with me, but your patience brings us from the start to the present. Thank you so much for being with me, for believing me. Happy Anniversary Love.

_The Harsh Reality of Relationships_

Not all women have an entitled mindset, but some take it to an extreme level. The key to avoiding heartache is to have zero expectations from others. When dating, be wary of women who claim they don't expect financial support from men. Their lifestyle can be a giveaway - if they're living beyond their means, they might be relying on someone else to foot the bill.

These women are masters of manipulation, using mind games to get what they want without directly asking for it. They'll keep their word of not taking money from men, but they'll find ways to guilt trip you into providing for them. It doesn't matter how much you earn; they'll always want more.

_The Solution_

Invest in yourself, your projects, and your loved ones. Don't feel obligated to maintain her expensive lifestyle. Use your money to buy something that will appreciate in value. Remember, the only way to avoid getting hurt is to have zero expectations from others. Be cautious of ruthless women who might stop at nothing to get what they want.

In the end, it's all about perspective. These challenges are an inherent part of life, but with the right mindset, you can overcome them and thrive. Just be aware of the risks and navigate them wisely.

The president of Nigeria is not good

PHILOSOPHY ABOUT TOO MUCH

1. If you speak too much, you will lie
2. If you think too much,you will be depressed
3. If you cry too much, you will lose your sight
4. If you love too much, you will be lost
5. If you care too much,you will be taken for granted
6.If you play too much, You will not be taken seriously oftentimes.
7.If you trust too much, you will be betrayed
8.If you work too much, You will die of stress
9.If you eat too much, You will be obsessed
10.If you sleep too much, You will be idle
11. If you spend too much, You will have no future
12.If you wear make up too much, You will lose your beauty
13.If you look too much, You will lose your focus
14.If you pursue life too much, you will lose everything.

BUT..........
* When you pray too much, You will have everything
*When you have too much patience, you will have the whole world
*When you invest too much, You will have your future guaranteed
*When you let go too much, you will have peace of mind
*When you are careful too much, you will be saved from many evils.
*When you serve God too much, you will receive unlimited and unspeakable rewards and testimony.

*A Wake-Up Call for Men*

It's time to reevaluate your relationships and prioritize your financial well-being. If you're with someone who consistently drains your resources without bringing any value to the table, it's time to reassess. A relationship should be a mutually beneficial partnership between two responsible individuals, not a one-way financial support system.

*Don't Enable Financial Irresponsibility*

If your partner can't take care of their own needs, it's not your responsibility to foot the bill. Instead of sponsoring their lifestyle, encourage them to take control of their finances and become self-sufficient. A woman who can't afford her own needs shouldn't be relying on you for support; she should be focusing on finding a job and becoming financially independent.

*Use Your Money Wisely*

Rather than wasting your money on someone who doesn't appreciate its value, consider investing in yourself, your family, or your community. You could:

- Renovate your family's home
- Improve your neighborhood's infrastructure
- Buy a car for a loved one
- Start a new business venture
- Support a worthy cause

*Empower Yourself, Not Dependence*

By setting boundaries and prioritizing your financial stability, you'll be helping to create a more balanced and healthy dynamic in your relationships. When men stop enabling financial irresponsibility, women will be forced to take responsibility for their own lives and become more self-sufficient.

A Better Approach

Instead of giving money to someone who doesn't deserve it, offer to help them find a job or develop new skills. This will empower them to become financially independent and take control of their lives. Remember, it's time to stop sponsoring lazy women and start promoting self-sufficiency. The message is clear: take control of your finances and don't enable dependence.

So President Bola Ahmed Tinubu has two more years to go?