As distance tests a horse's strength...

You shouldn't judge a person at first glance. Indeed, Chinese tradition is that you can never really know them until you have spent a long time together. And the comparison made by our forebears is with a horse, who also needed to be relied upon in times of trouble but was never really tested until after a long journey.

Life gives you pain in every which way
Sometimes you also lose your say
But if you have the hope to go
Nothing can stop you nor can you be slow
Keep going and you shall reach there
Keep going and things will be fine
You will know that it is destined,
A reason why things were destined,
Just keep going strong!

Don't treat failures as reasons to give up but as stepping stones that lead you to succeed.

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I have said it several times without number, my own is to read and enrich my knowledge, if you like take everything you come across on social media personal segemekeh

SEVEN THINGS YOU SHOULD GIVE YOUR SPOUSE DAILY

When it comes to giving, many married people are generous to everybody except their spouses. There are seven things you should give your spouse daily – not weekly, monthly or annually. They are things you must give your spouse daily. Let’s see them:

1. Give Your Spouse A TOUCH

One of the ways to bond with your spouse is to give him or her a touch. We have encouragement touch, affirmation touch, healing touch, apology touch, and we have sexual touch. Study your partner and know what touch to give at a particular time.

If you want God to touch your marriage, touch your spouse. Don’t let today go without you touching your spouse!

2. Give Your Spouse SPACE

As much as you need to bond with your spouse and be together for daily intimacy, communication, affection, planning, etc., you still need to give your spouse his or her space. There is time for couples’ prayers, time for couples’ bonding. Also there is time for personal prayer, personal meditation, personal rest, personal planning, etc.

Don’t choke your spouse. Don’t be over-possessive and over-demanding to your spouse. Stop unnecessary policing and monitoring. Give your spouse the space they need when they need it.

3. Give Your Spouse A CALL/CHAT

Some people can chat with all the contacts on their phone and all the people on their Face book friends list but they will never chat with or call their spouse all through the day.

Chatting with or calling your spouse in a day at work is a way of saying, “Dear, despite my busy schedule, I have you in mind. I am thinking about you.”

Make sure you send a chat, or give a call, to your spouse today. Make it a habit; it is beneficial to both of you. Nobody can be tired of receiving a caring chat or a call from someone they love.

4. Give Your Spouse A HUG

Hugging is fast disappearing in many marriages today. Research has proved that hugging is one of the emotional needs of every human being. It is the scarcity of spousal hugs that makes many men indiscriminately hug ladies who are not their wives. Many women too crave for hugs and unwittingly allow every Tom and Jerry to hug them because their husbands are not giving them hugs.

Hugs can be given in the morning, or at night, but let no day pass without you hugging your spouse. It is one valuable thing you must give your spouse. It could be a welcoming hug, a goodbye hug, an appreciating hug, or an affirmative hug.

Hugging is a non-verbal means of communication. Use it well. Don’t let your husband or wife crave for a hug from strangers when you are still alive. Hug passionately! Hug romantically.

5. Give Your Spouse A SMILE

God smiles on a home when couples smile at each other. A smile is a way of telling your spouse, “You delight me,” “Your presence amuses me,” “I am pleased with you.”

Frowning at your spouse is not a thing that should last a whole day. One of the ways to know your marriage is SMELLING is when you are not SMILING with each other. Smile. It is one of the best gifts you can give your spouse in a day.

I don’t like people who are not generous with their smiles. It is free. You don’t need to pay to smile. Just relax your muscles and smile. Couples, please smile! Keep smiling! To prevent your marriage from smelling, keep smiling with your spouse!!!

6. Give Your Spouse PEACE OF MIND

The home is the endpoint of everything we do daily. If you are a doctor, you can’t sleep in the hospital all the days of your life. You will need to come home. If you are an engineer, you can’t sleep in the site everyday. If you are a lawyer, you can’t sleep in the court everyday. Even as a pastor, you can’t be in the church 24/7. We all must go back home.

Home is the endpoint. Therefore, if your spouse will be excited to come home, it must be a peaceful home. Stop nagging, stop fighting, Stop insulting, stop abusing, stop threatening, and stop humiliating your spouse. Give him/her rest of mind. Give your wife rest of mind.

Be the head of your wife sir, not the headache of your wife. Madam, be a wife to your husband, not a ‘knife’. Blessed are the couples who give each other peace of mind daily!

7. Give Your Spouse A PRAYER

No matter how wealthy or highly connected you are, there are things you cannot do for your spouse. You are limited. One of the ways to show love to your spouse is to commit him/her to the unlimited God. Say a word of prayer for your spouse daily.

Every other thing may fail and may not work, but no force can withstand the power of prayer. You can’t heal your spouse, only God can heal him/her. You can’t lengthen the days of your spouse. Only God can do that. You can’t save your spouse. You can’t take away addiction and evil habits from your spouse , only God can do that for him/her..

How I Teach My Daughters to Recognize a Real Man

1️⃣ Never Fund a Man’s Potential – A man’s growth is his responsibility, not yours. If he’s still “figuring it out,” he’s not ready for you. You are a partner, not a stepping stone.

2️⃣ Do Not Carry His Burdens – A man should come prepared to lead, not looking for a woman to fix, build, or struggle with him. If he cannot provide, protect, or guide, he is not a man—he is still becoming one.

3️⃣ Never Accept Less Than You Deserve –
You don’t shrink to fit a man’s life; he expands to meet your standards.
A strong man rises to the occasion—a weak one asks you to settle.

4️⃣ If He Invites You, He Provides – A man who values your time respects the responsibility that comes with it. If he asks you out, the bill is his. No discussion.

5️⃣ If He Wants Your Time, He Earns It – Your presence is a privilege, not a given. A real man shows consistency, effort, and intentionality. Anything less is a waste of time.

6️⃣ A Man Who Wants You Forever Will Never Rush You Into Bed – A man with true intentions will never pressure you. He will value your mind, your presence, and your standards. Lust moves fast—love moves with patience.

7️⃣ Never Stay in a Relationship with a Liar or a Cheater – Disrespect is not love. Betrayal is not a mistake—it’s a choice. A real man protects your heart, not plays with it. When a man shows you he can’t be trusted, believe him and walk away.

8️⃣ Never Entertain a Man You Wouldn’t Want Your Son to Be – If his character wouldn’t make you proud as a mother, he has no place in your life as a partner. The men you allow in your space set the standard for the next generation—choose wisely.

9️⃣ If He Doesn’t View You as His Wife and Provide for Your Needs, He’s Bringing Chaos and Confusion – A man who isn’t intentional about you is a distraction. If he’s not stepping up, he’s pulling you down. A real man brings clarity, stability, and security—not stress.

My daughters will never settle.

Neither should you.

If your fathers didn’t teach you, i am!

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10 Kinds Of Men You Should Never Bring To Your Father For Marriage:

If you're a smart and wise lady, there are various kinds of men you should never introduce to your family. The introduction can wait, if the man exhibits any or all of these traits!

1. Don't introduce a stranger. Don't bring someone you don't know very well, simply because you're under pressure to marry.
Never marry a stranger!

2. Never introduce a man you don't know what he does for a living. If he is spending money but he's not working, report him to the Anambra State government .

3. Never introduce a man that beats you.
You should end the relationship, and not try to take it to another level. What you tolerate while dating, will amplify in marriage.

4. Don't introduce a man that attacks / violates your core values as a lady. A man who doesn't respect your boundaries shouldn't have the privilege of meeting your father.

5. Don't introduce a man that sleeps with your friends. He may sleep with your own sister one day. Don't bring a serial womanizer home, no matter how romantic he is.

6. Don't introduce a jobless and lazy man.
A lazy man is a man who has no plans, goals, vision and who is not motivated in life.

7. Never introduce a man that his family and friends are forcing to marry you. If he's not excited about marrying you, don't introduce him to your father.

8. Don't introduce a man that is only attracted to your physical qualities, for example, your shape.
His love for you is superficial, it may not stand the test of time.

9. Never introduce a man who has no regard for your faith, tribe, and culture. Marriage is both spiritual and cultural.

10. Never introduce a man that hates his father.
If he hates his father for no reason, you shouldn't bring him home to meet your father/family.

I trust you will make the right choice!

INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FOR YOU

1. Once you’ve matured you realize silence is more important than proving a point.

2. Be a good person. But don’t waste your time proving it.

3. Be strong enough to stand alone, smart enough to know when you need help, and brave enough to ask for it.

4. There are people we meet in life that makes everything seems magical. Cherish them.

5. Be aware and conscious of everything around you.

6. Nothing is worth it if you aren't happy.

7. The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become.

8. As people dey advice you, make dem try dey do transfer...E no easy to turn a new leaf.

Credit; Inspirational quotes