Don't call her your woman until you officially marry her...
Men
My neighbor begged me to lend him 10k to give his girlfriend to fix her phone. I asked him;
" why don't you tell your girlfriend that you are broke and can't afford 10k at the moment?"
He replied that he don't want her to be angry and dump him
His answer was too funny to me, after laughing out loud , I simply told him that I don't have 10k to give him.
He left with annoyance and I could see disappointments written on his face.
When he left, I pondered on this and asked some rhetorical questions;
Let's assume that my girlfriend is broke and couldn't fix her phone, then I couldn't help her fix it because I am also broke.
Why would she be angry with me for being broke when she is also broke ?
Why should my own brokenness give her serious concern when she should concentrate on solving hers?
Is she indirectly blaming me for being the cause of her brokenness simply because I am her boyfriend?
If she can't endure with me in my temporal brokenness, how will she be able to face marital challenges with me in the future?
Being broke doesn't automatically make you a poor man. There is nothing wrong with you for being broke even billionaires experience brokenness once in a while .
It is not something you should be ashamed of. The reasons you ventured into a committed relationship are; to check your compatibilities, to test her loyalty and sincerity and to make her know your dons and don'ts Her characters will determine where to place her; whether she belongs to the streets or to be domesticated.
Yes, we are meant to help ourselves but not to your own detriments.
At this stage, she is not yet your responsibility. Whatever you are doing for her is a PRIVILEGE not her RIGHT .
Any woman whom you have not officially married, is not your woman. Don't call her your woman until you pay her bride price because she still have right to flirt with other men without breaking any law.
Don't allow her problems to cause you headache when you have yours.
. Assist her if you can but don't put yourself into debts to impress her
Money can't keep her, . Your sacrifices are nothing to her, women are loyal to their feelings and their feelings are unstable
Stop running helter skelter to help her, she will still dump you without having a second thought.
Be wise
Don't looseguard.
Don't call her your woman until you officially marry her...
Men
My neighbor begged me to lend him 10k to give his girlfriend to fix her phone. I asked him;
" why don't you tell your girlfriend that you are broke and can't afford 10k at the moment?"
He replied that he don't want her to be angry and dump him
His answer was too funny to me, after laughing out loud , I simply told him that I don't have 10k to give him.
He left with annoyance and I could see disappointments written on his face.
When he left, I pondered on this and asked some rhetorical questions;
Let's assume that my girlfriend is broke and couldn't fix her phone, then I couldn't help her fix it because I am also broke.
Why would she be angry with me for being broke when she is also broke ?
Why should my own brokenness give her serious concern when she should concentrate on solving hers?
Is she indirectly blaming me for being the cause of her brokenness simply because I am her boyfriend?
If she can't endure with me in my temporal brokenness, how will she be able to face marital challenges with me in the future?
Being broke doesn't automatically make you a poor man. There is nothing wrong with you for being broke even billionaires experience brokenness once in a while .
It is not something you should be ashamed of. The reasons you ventured into a committed relationship are; to check your compatibilities, to test her loyalty and sincerity and to make her know your dons and don'ts Her characters will determine where to place her; whether she belongs to the streets or to be domesticated.
Yes, we are meant to help ourselves but not to your own detriments.
At this stage, she is not yet your responsibility. Whatever you are doing for her is a PRIVILEGE not her RIGHT .
Any woman whom you have not officially married, is not your woman. Don't call her your woman until you pay her bride price because she still have right to flirt with other men without breaking any law.
Don't allow her problems to cause you headache when you have yours.
. Assist her if you can but don't put yourself into debts to impress her
Money can't keep her, . Your sacrifices are nothing to her, women are loyal to their feelings and their feelings are unstable
Stop running helter skelter to help her, she will still dump you without having a second thought.
Be wise
Don't looseguard.