THE SILENT BATTLE OF LOW SELF-ESTEEM ROBBED TOLU THE LOVE OF A REAL MAN

Find out how not to make the same mistake.

Tolu sat on the edge of the bed, staring at her reflection in the mirror. The woman looking back at her had tired eyes, a forced smile, and a heart full of doubts.

Daniel, her fiancé, had just sent her a sweet message about their upcoming wedding, but instead of feeling joy, she felt unworthy.

"What does he even see in me?" she whispered to herself.

Growing up, Tolu was never the most beautiful or the smartest.

She was the quiet girl in the corner, the one who never believed she was enough.

Her father’s harsh words still echoed in her mind "You're too clumsy, Tolu. Who will even marry you?"

Even when Daniel came into her life, showering her with love, her past wounds whispered that it was only a matter of time before he saw the truth: that she was not worth loving.

It started subtly. She would brush off his compliments, thinking he was just being nice.

When he held her close, she tensed, believing he would one day let go. And then, without realizing it, she began sabotaging their love.

"Why do you love me, Daniel? There are better women out there," she blurted out one evening.
Daniel sighed, holding her hands. "Because you're kind, you're beautiful, and you make me happy."

She pulled away. "No, I'm not. I'm not enough for you."

Days turned into weeks, and Tolu’s self-doubt became a wall between them.

Every time Daniel reassured her, she found a reason to disbelieve him.

She avoided dates, rejected his affection, and convinced herself that he would eventually leave. And one day, after another argument fueled by her insecurities, he did.

As she watched him walk away, her heart shattered. Not because he didn’t love her, but because she had never learned to love herself.

Low self-esteem doesn’t just affect how you see yourself—it affects how you love and how you receive love. It creates fear where there should be trust, distance where there should be intimacy.

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, Don't raise your voice, improve your argument

An experience teaches ably the good observer; but far from seeking a lesson in it, everyone looks for an argument in experience, and everyone interprets the conclusion in his own way.

— Andre Gide

if you want a long term relationship, make sure you're ready for the boring days, tears, and arguments. it's not all about happiness.

Most uneducated people find happiness in argument and fault finding

How to Know Your Person is Cheating on You – A Survival Guide
A Thread

1. They Suddenly Become a Poet
Before, they used to text dry messages like "K" or "Hmm." Now, they are writing things like, “Good morning, sunshine. I hope your day is as beautiful as you.” Who taught them?


2. Their Phone is Now Their Best Friend
They used to leave their phone anywhere, but now? Even in the bathroom, they hold it like their life depends on it. Notifications come in, and they quickly turn the phone face down.


3. They Start Dressing Too Fine
This person used to wear slippers and random shirts, now they are dressing like an Instagram influencer. Who are they impressing?


4. Their Battery is Always "Dead"
“My phone died” is now their favorite excuse. But somehow, their battery never dies when chatting with their “cousin” at midnight.


5. They Call You by Your Government Name
Before: "Baby, my love, sugar pie."
Now: "Victoria, please pass the remote." Who is making them forget your pet name?


6. They Suddenly Love Privacy
You used to use their phone freely. Now, their password is longer than a bank OTP code. Even Face ID is rejecting you.


7. They Always Have a Mood Swing
If they are too sweet today and very moody tomorrow, just know that someone else is making them confused about their feelings.


8. They Start Accusing You First
Out of nowhere, they start saying, “I know you’re talking to someone else.” Just know they are talking to someone else. Guilty people always confess in riddles.


9. They Suddenly Become a Night Walker
They used to sleep early. Now, they are awake at 2 AM, smiling at their phone, claiming they are reading news. Which news is funny at that time?


10. They Stop Fighting for You
Before, small argument, they will be the first to apologize. Now, they just say, “Okay, if that’s what you think.” My dear, they have found peace elsewhere.



Bonus: If they tell you, “We need to take things slow,” just know they are already in another relationship.

Stay woke, my people! Have you noticed any of these signs before? Let’s gist in the comments!


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Maturing is realizing dat not everything needs argument

4 tips for happy relationship:

1. Express your feelings: whatever you’re feelings, speak it out loud. Discuss everything with your partner, it doesn’t matter small or big things, you both have to solve it together.

2. Think before doing something: Look, relationship isn’t always perfect. There are days when you both don’t understand each other, but it isn’t an excuse to have hurtful words, and unbelievable actions.

3. Build trust: Actions speak louder than words. You should always show your partner that you love them wholeheartedly, show them efforts, do anything that make them feel loved.

4. Fix your mistakes/actions: When your partner say they don’t like it, don’t do it. Otherwise, it leads to arguments later.

Resolve Conflicts Calmly: Address disagreements with a calm demeanor. Focus on finding solutions rather than winning arguments.

Man arrested for allegedly k!lling his older brother over foodstuff in Anambra

Police operatives attached to the Abagana Police Divisional Headquarters and AVG Operatives, Abagana in Anambra state on Friday, February 7, arrested one Anthony Kosisochukwu Okafor aged 37 years of Adegbe Village, Abagana, Njikoka LGA over the de@th of his elder brother, Emmanuel Okafor aged 45 years.

The spokesperson of the command, SP Tochukwu Ikenga, who confirmed the sad incident to newsmen, said the suspect confessed to having engaged the victim in a fight over a heated argument about using foodstuffs in the house. Kosisochukwu was said to have used a stick to pierce the deceased chest. The victim was rushed to the hospital and was confirmed de@d by the doctor on duty.

Ikenga added that the incident is quite disturbing and highlights the importance of addressing domestic violence and conflicts amongst family members. It also underscores the need to manage conflicts and emotions healthily and constructively to avoid irreparable consequences.

The police spokesperson stated that the case has been transferred to the Homicide Section of the State Criminal Investigation Department, Awka and shall be charged to court on the conclusion of the investigation.