"Life's tapestry is woven with threads of joy, sorrow, and wisdom; each strand uniquely beautiful, together forming an extraordinary masterpiece of experience."

Remind yourself every day:

" I am in charge of my happiness. I will not let anything outside of my self control me. I am creating a life that feels good on the inside and it will turn into experiences that are good on the outside."

#Mqquotes

Everyday comes with his own experience.

David was a great king. He was also a musician, a poet, a warrior, and a prophet. He experienced many trials. For some years, he lived as a fugitive, fleeing from jealous King Saul. After becoming king, David again had to run for his life when his son Absalom tried to steal his throne. Despite David’s difficulties and personal failings, he proved loyal to God to the end of his life. Jehovah described him as “a man agreeable to [His] heart.” David’s counsel is worth listening to!—

Don't call her your woman until you officially marry her...

Men
My neighbor begged me to lend him 10k to give his girlfriend to fix her phone. I asked him;

" why don't you tell your girlfriend that you are broke and can't afford 10k at the moment?"

He replied that he don't want her to be angry and dump him

His answer was too funny to me, after laughing out loud , I simply told him that I don't have 10k to give him.

He left with annoyance and I could see disappointments written on his face.

When he left, I pondered on this and asked some rhetorical questions;

Let's assume that my girlfriend is broke and couldn't fix her phone, then I couldn't help her fix it because I am also broke.

Why would she be angry with me for being broke when she is also broke ?

Why should my own brokenness give her serious concern when she should concentrate on solving hers?

Is she indirectly blaming me for being the cause of her brokenness simply because I am her boyfriend?

If she can't endure with me in my temporal brokenness, how will she be able to face marital challenges with me in the future?

Being broke doesn't automatically make you a poor man. There is nothing wrong with you for being broke even billionaires experience brokenness once in a while .

It is not something you should be ashamed of. The reasons you ventured into a committed relationship are; to check your compatibilities, to test her loyalty and sincerity and to make her know your dons and don'ts Her characters will determine where to place her; whether she belongs to the streets or to be domesticated.

Yes, we are meant to help ourselves but not to your own detriments.

At this stage, she is not yet your responsibility. Whatever you are doing for her is a PRIVILEGE not her RIGHT .

Any woman whom you have not officially married, is not your woman. Don't call her your woman until you pay her bride price because she still have right to flirt with other men without breaking any law.

Don't allow her problems to cause you headache when you have yours.

. Assist her if you can but don't put yourself into debts to impress her

Money can't keep her, . Your sacrifices are nothing to her, women are loyal to their feelings and their feelings are unstable

Stop running helter skelter to help her, she will still dump you without having a second thought.
Be wise
Don't looseguard.

How to Deal with Failure and Bounce Back Stronger

Failure is a part of life. Whether it’s in business, relationships, or personal goals, everyone faces setbacks. What truly matters is how you respond to them. Here are some simple ways to deal with failure and come back stronger than ever.

1. Accept Your Feelings
It’s okay to feel disappointed, frustrated, or even angry when you fail. Don’t try to ignore these emotions. Instead, take time to process them. This is the first step toward healing and moving forward.

2. Learn from the Experience
Failure is a teacher in disguise. Ask yourself, “What went wrong? What can I do differently next time?” Every failure comes with lessons that can help you grow.

3. Focus on What You Can Control
Sometimes, failure happens because of things beyond your control. Instead of dwelling on the “what ifs,” focus on what you can change. Taking small steps can rebuild your confidence.

4. Stay Positive
Remind yourself that failure doesn’t define you. Many successful people failed countless times before they achieved greatness. Use affirmations and surround yourself with supportive people who lift your spirits.

5. Take Action
Once you’ve reflected and learned, it’s time to act. Set new goals and work toward them with a fresh mindset. Remember, failure is not the end—it’s just a detour on your journey to success.

6. Celebrate Small Wins
Even small achievements matter. Celebrate your progress, no matter how minor it seems. This builds momentum and keeps you motivated.

Final Thoughts
Failure is not the opposite of success—it’s part of it. Each setback is an opportunity to grow, improve, and try again. By learning to embrace failure and bounce back, you’ll become stronger, wiser, and ready for even greater challenges ahead.

The separation between pain and pleasure breaks down, both become just experience - painful when resisted, joyful when accepted.

PERFECT YET WRONG FOR YOU

I know he looks so good, he is caring, he is kind, he understands you, everything about him looks perfect for you but is he the right one for you?

I know she is modest, hard working, loyal, beautiful and in all ways absolutely charming and perfect but is she the right one for you?

It is very possible to meet someone that ticks all your boxes now and yet is a wrong match for you.

Many young people fail to know that, we don’t marry for now, we marry for the future.

The guy that is look so perfect now, can he handle the things that you will experience in the next 20years when you both get married?

Certain things you need to do in the future, does he have the audacity to stand by you, would he still understand you and stand by you when you begin to go through certain personal phases of your life as a lady?

That lady that is look like the best for you now, have you seen how she will be in the next 30 years? Can she handle the things you will face then?

You are more interested in marry for beauty and shape which is good, but can she handle the responsibilities God will entrust you in 25years from now? Does she have the tenacity to follow you through certain tough decisions you would have to make in the future?

I bet you, after 20 years of marriage, beauty, shape, eloquence, physical ambience, height, cute eyes, sweet lines etc will not matter so much to you anymore

What will matter to you, is that you are living peaceful life, watching your children grow, and fulfilling your purpose.

I have never heard any couple who have been married for 30 years and above, saying that the reason why they have lived together for these long is because their partner is the most beautiful, most charming, most perfect, etc

Whenever couples are celebrating their 30,40,50,60 years anniversary, what they often say as their reasons for staying together for that long is; trust, commitment, patience, faith in each other, etc

This is why you need to involve God that knows your future more than you can ever possibly do to help guide you in choosing the right spouse.

They may look perfect now but will they fit into all that God wants to do in your life and take you through in the future to come?

Think.

Philip Nwego

Don't ever be controlled by these three things in life; People, money and your past experiences.