I know you want people to love you, but being nice is not how to achieve that. Being nice only makes people use you. Just be yourself, and the right people will love you. But if you are nice, people will use you, and nobody but your mother will love you. Be wise, and don't be nice. If anyone was not picking up your call when you were struggling, you, too, ignore their call now that you are winning. Niceness is not a gift or fruit of the Spirit. It is often a fruit of an inferiority complex!