Your children, especially your sons, will leave your house and compete with other young people. That is why you should Ark them with confidence from the home. Because nobody is going to give it to them outside your house. And without confidence, they can't rise to the top or fulfil their potential. Praise them a lot. A child can get too little praise from their parents, but it is impossible to over praise them. So praise them and raise their morale. Even when angry with your children, please don't show it. Find somewhere and calm down. Then, return and discipline them without anger. That way, they will leave your home prepared and preferred instead of stepping out reserved and depressed.