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How to let the past go
Avoid imposing standards on yourself. It's a trap!
There is such a thing as a "standard of expectations". Most people absolutely know that any typical situation is bound to have its default course. And, thus, most traumas and hurts from the past are unfulfilled expectations.
For example, a woman gets married simply because she expects her husband to support her, while her husband earns pennies and doesn't bother to earn more, the woman gets divorced and is angry at the world, thinking that all men are mean and lazy.
The divorce happened years ago, and if it were not for her perpetually angry and depressed state of mind, the young energetic woman would have simply found another man from among those "reined in" to earn, and she doesn't consider it a feat. Yet, all of her energy is spent regretting the past and the "best years of her life" gone irrevocably.
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Avoid imposing standards on yourself. It's a trap!
There is such a thing as a "standard of expectations". Most people absolutely know that any typical situation is bound to have its default course. And, thus, most traumas and hurts from the past are unfulfilled expectations.
For example, a woman gets married simply because she expects her husband to support her, while her husband earns pennies and doesn't bother to earn more, the woman gets divorced and is angry at the world, thinking that all men are mean and lazy.
The divorce happened years ago, and if it were not for her perpetually angry and depressed state of mind, the young energetic woman would have simply found another man from among those "reined in" to earn, and she doesn't consider it a feat. Yet, all of her energy is spent regretting the past and the "best years of her life" gone irrevocably.
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How to let the past go
Avoid imposing standards on yourself. It's a trap!
There is such a thing as a "standard of expectations". Most people absolutely know that any typical situation is bound to have its default course. And, thus, most traumas and hurts from the past are unfulfilled expectations.
➡️ For example, a woman gets married simply because she expects her husband to support her, while her husband earns pennies and doesn't bother to earn more, the woman gets divorced and is angry at the world, thinking that all men are mean and lazy.
The divorce happened years ago, and if it were not for her perpetually angry and depressed state of mind, the young energetic woman would have simply found another man from among those "reined in" to earn, and she doesn't consider it a feat. Yet, all of her energy is spent regretting the past and the "best years of her life" gone irrevocably.
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