For the last twenty years, we’ve heard about the tyranny of choice — the paralysis that comes with the perception of near-infinite, abundant options. In our social script, that’s often come with a thinly-concealed generational condemnation: that Millennials can’t settle down, we chase experience highs, we’re obsessed with fear of better options. Maybe this is true, and probably it was especially true in our 20s. But through many conversations with others, I’m learning just how many of us are feeling the poignant, grownup side of this. For the lucky ones of us who have tasted beautiful romantic partnership, and a lifegiving place, and a brilliant creative community, and the enduring satisfaction of a right-sized job, and the warmth of being chosen by others — we have also experienced how temporal each of these things can be, and how unbundled many