Don't call her your woman until you officially marry her...

Men
My neighbor begged me to lend him 10k to give his girlfriend to fix her phone. I asked him;

" why don't you tell your girlfriend that you are broke and can't afford 10k at the moment?"

He replied that he don't want her to be angry and dump him

His answer was too funny to me, after laughing out loud , I simply told him that I don't have 10k to give him.

He left with annoyance and I could see disappointments written on his face.

When he left, I pondered on this and asked some rhetorical questions;

Let's assume that my girlfriend is broke and couldn't fix her phone, then I couldn't help her fix it because I am also broke.

Why would she be angry with me for being broke when she is also broke ?

Why should my own brokenness give her serious concern when she should concentrate on solving hers?

Is she indirectly blaming me for being the cause of her brokenness simply because I am her boyfriend?

If she can't endure with me in my temporal brokenness, how will she be able to face marital challenges with me in the future?

Being broke doesn't automatically make you a poor man. There is nothing wrong with you for being broke even billionaires experience brokenness once in a while .

It is not something you should be ashamed of. The reasons you ventured into a committed relationship are; to check your compatibilities, to test her loyalty and sincerity and to make her know your dons and don'ts Her characters will determine where to place her; whether she belongs to the streets or to be domesticated.

Yes, we are meant to help ourselves but not to your own detriments.

At this stage, she is not yet your responsibility. Whatever you are doing for her is a PRIVILEGE not her RIGHT .

Any woman whom you have not officially married, is not your woman. Don't call her your woman until you pay her bride price because she still have right to flirt with other men without breaking any law.

Don't allow her problems to cause you headache when you have yours.

. Assist her if you can but don't put yourself into debts to impress her

Money can't keep her, . Your sacrifices are nothing to her, women are loyal to their feelings and their feelings are unstable

Stop running helter skelter to help her, she will still dump you without having a second thought.
Be wise
Don't looseguard.

Don't forget as a woman you need make your own money, money give you ability to walk away from sitioution You don't like....

A woman with brain can turn a broke man into a millionaire,but a beauty with empty head can turn a millionaire to a begger

When a man has knowledge of Deen, he can lead his family with respect.

When a woman has knowledge of Deen, she can lead her children in humility.

When children have knowledge of Deen, they can lead their parents to Jannah.

May Allah SWT grant everyone the Nihmath of Deen Ameen.

I know a lot of men want to marry g!rls in their early 20s largely because of their youthfulness,

But the truth is, while their youth is enticing, g!rls within that age range still have so much to learn from life.

AGE shapes a woman better than education or exposure can ever do. There are things only age can teach a w||man.

No matter how exposed or educated a girl in her early 20s, she still believes she has time,

And that concept of “I’m still young” creates an HINDERANCE and doesn’t give her the URGENCY she needs to face life or plan her life.

Assuming she’s 21-22, even if she waste 3 years of her life chasing fantasies, she’ll still be 25 and still in her prime.

But a 25 year old girl cannot afford to waste 3 years of her life chasing fantasies because now she feels the URGENCY.

URGENCY shapes a woman’s mindset, because age serves as a constant reminder that she cannot afford to waste any more years on fruitless dating or social activities.

If you hang around sensible ladies in their late 20s or early 30s, the energy flow is different, the conversation is different.

They’re thinking business, investments, family values, how to ensure they’re not liabilities to their man and how to support him.

While majority of girls in their early 20s are discussing Saidaboj, thinking hairdo, fancy nails, latest fashion, phones with clean camera and how to find a man that’ll spoil them.

They often come to dates empty handed, No transportation, no data to chat, no airtime to call, “ Babe I don’t like what they cooked at home.

90% of girls in their early 20s, do not like being asked what they’d bring to the table, they find it offensive because they still think they’ve got time and options. ( To be fair, they’re brokies)

Only 10% of them are built different but even at that, age is still a factor, You’d have to be patient with them.

The mindset of “ I’m still young “ HINDERS a lot of them from taking their lives seriously and it is completely natural.

I AM A WOMAN!

So what?
I get into an argument
with a man, he slaps me,
I feel the pain, yet they
tell me I provoked him. I
should have been quiet, I
should have been patient.
I should apologize to him.

Being a beautiful woman is very important in life

You see that tweet about making sure you experience a non-Nigerian woman at least once in your lifetime?
It’s not a banger tweet, it’s factssss.

The hustle in the Land has made babes into leaches. it’s a very toxic environment, a jungle. People just want survive.

Being able to say what's really on your mind doesn't make you less of a man or woman, it makes you easier to communicate with and well understood but it just depends on who you are trying to talk to in such cases.... Good morning