SEVEN THINGS YOU SHOULD GIVE YOUR SPOUSE DAILY

When it comes to giving, many married people are generous to everybody except their spouses. There are seven things you should give your spouse daily – not weekly, monthly or annually. They are things you must give your spouse daily. Let’s see them:

1. Give Your Spouse A TOUCH

One of the ways to bond with your spouse is to give him or her a touch. We have encouragement touch, affirmation touch, healing touch, apology touch, and we have sexual touch. Study your partner and know what touch to give at a particular time.

If you want God to touch your marriage, touch your spouse. Don’t let today go without you touching your spouse!

2. Give Your Spouse SPACE

As much as you need to bond with your spouse and be together for daily intimacy, communication, affection, planning, etc., you still need to give your spouse his or her space. There is time for couples’ prayers, time for couples’ bonding. Also there is time for personal prayer, personal meditation, personal rest, personal planning, etc.

Don’t choke your spouse. Don’t be over-possessive and over-demanding to your spouse. Stop unnecessary policing and monitoring. Give your spouse the space they need when they need it.

3. Give Your Spouse A CALL/CHAT

Some people can chat with all the contacts on their phone and all the people on their Face book friends list but they will never chat with or call their spouse all through the day.

Chatting with or calling your spouse in a day at work is a way of saying, “Dear, despite my busy schedule, I have you in mind. I am thinking about you.”

Make sure you send a chat, or give a call, to your spouse today. Make it a habit; it is beneficial to both of you. Nobody can be tired of receiving a caring chat or a call from someone they love.

4. Give Your Spouse A HUG

Hugging is fast disappearing in many marriages today. Research has proved that hugging is one of the emotional needs of every human being. It is the scarcity of spousal hugs that makes many men indiscriminately hug ladies who are not their wives. Many women too crave for hugs and unwittingly allow every Tom and Jerry to hug them because their husbands are not giving them hugs.

Hugs can be given in the morning, or at night, but let no day pass without you hugging your spouse. It is one valuable thing you must give your spouse. It could be a welcoming hug, a goodbye hug, an appreciating hug, or an affirmative hug.

Hugging is a non-verbal means of communication. Use it well. Don’t let your husband or wife crave for a hug from strangers when you are still alive. Hug passionately! Hug romantically.

5. Give Your Spouse A SMILE

God smiles on a home when couples smile at each other. A smile is a way of telling your spouse, “You delight me,” “Your presence amuses me,” “I am pleased with you.”

Frowning at your spouse is not a thing that should last a whole day. One of the ways to know your marriage is SMELLING is when you are not SMILING with each other. Smile. It is one of the best gifts you can give your spouse in a day.

I don’t like people who are not generous with their smiles. It is free. You don’t need to pay to smile. Just relax your muscles and smile. Couples, please smile! Keep smiling! To prevent your marriage from smelling, keep smiling with your spouse!!!

6. Give Your Spouse PEACE OF MIND

The home is the endpoint of everything we do daily. If you are a doctor, you can’t sleep in the hospital all the days of your life. You will need to come home. If you are an engineer, you can’t sleep in the site everyday. If you are a lawyer, you can’t sleep in the court everyday. Even as a pastor, you can’t be in the church 24/7. We all must go back home.

Home is the endpoint. Therefore, if your spouse will be excited to come home, it must be a peaceful home. Stop nagging, stop fighting, Stop insulting, stop abusing, stop threatening, and stop humiliating your spouse. Give him/her rest of mind. Give your wife rest of mind.

Be the head of your wife sir, not the headache of your wife. Madam, be a wife to your husband, not a ‘knife’. Blessed are the couples who give each other peace of mind daily!

7. Give Your Spouse A PRAYER

No matter how wealthy or highly connected you are, there are things you cannot do for your spouse. You are limited. One of the ways to show love to your spouse is to commit him/her to the unlimited God. Say a word of prayer for your spouse daily.

Every other thing may fail and may not work, but no force can withstand the power of prayer. You can’t heal your spouse, only God can heal him/her. You can’t lengthen the days of your spouse. Only God can do that. You can’t save your spouse. You can’t take away addiction and evil habits from your spouse , only God can do that for him/her..

10 Kinds Of Men You Should Never Bring To Your Father For Marriage:

If you're a smart and wise lady, there are various kinds of men you should never introduce to your family. The introduction can wait, if the man exhibits any or all of these traits!

1. Don't introduce a stranger. Don't bring someone you don't know very well, simply because you're under pressure to marry.
Never marry a stranger!

2. Never introduce a man you don't know what he does for a living. If he is spending money but he's not working, report him to the Anambra State government .

3. Never introduce a man that beats you.
You should end the relationship, and not try to take it to another level. What you tolerate while dating, will amplify in marriage.

4. Don't introduce a man that attacks / violates your core values as a lady. A man who doesn't respect your boundaries shouldn't have the privilege of meeting your father.

5. Don't introduce a man that sleeps with your friends. He may sleep with your own sister one day. Don't bring a serial womanizer home, no matter how romantic he is.

6. Don't introduce a jobless and lazy man.
A lazy man is a man who has no plans, goals, vision and who is not motivated in life.

7. Never introduce a man that his family and friends are forcing to marry you. If he's not excited about marrying you, don't introduce him to your father.

8. Don't introduce a man that is only attracted to your physical qualities, for example, your shape.
His love for you is superficial, it may not stand the test of time.

9. Never introduce a man who has no regard for your faith, tribe, and culture. Marriage is both spiritual and cultural.

10. Never introduce a man that hates his father.
If he hates his father for no reason, you shouldn't bring him home to meet your father/family.

I trust you will make the right choice!

Men are always authoritative...try to know them before marriage

10 Powerful Advice for Anyone Seeking to Marry in 2025

Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and choosing the right partner is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. If you are considering marriage in 2025, here are ten powerful pieces of advice to guide you:

Marry for Character, Not Just Chemistry:
Physical attraction and feelings can fade, but a person’s character, their integrity, kindness, and values will determine the success of your marriage.

Know Yourself First:
Before you commit to someone else, understand who you are, what you want, and what you bring to a relationship. Healthy self-awareness leads to healthier choices, you can choose the right partner if you don’t know yourself and your purpose in life.

Be Aligned in Values and Vision:
Discuss the big things like faith, family, finances, career goals, and parenting styles. Shared values and a common vision create a strong foundation.

Observe How They Handle Pressure:
Marriage isn’t without its challenges. Watch how your partner deals with conflict, disappointment, and setbacks. Their reactions under pressure will show their true character.

Don’t Ignore Red Flags:
Disrespect, infidelity, dishonesty, or a lack of accountability are major warning signs. Don’t enter marriage hoping that these issues will improve, they usually get worse.

Build a Friendship First:
You know the saying “Marry your best friend”, Passion may spark the relationship, but friendship will sustain it. Marry someone you genuinely enjoy being around, laughing with, and sharing life with.

Prioritize Emotional and Spiritual Compatibility:
A strong emotional connection and shared faith can help you navigate the ups and downs of marriage. Pray together, grow spiritually, and invite God into your relationship. A relationship and marriage founded on God will pass the test of time.

Discuss Finances Before Marriage:
Money issues are a leading cause of marital conflict. Be open about your financial habits, debts, and future goals. Agree on how you will manage finances together. Do you want Joint accounts or not, how will you share financial responsibility and who will manage the finance of the home?

Listen to Wise Counsel:
Seek advice from happily married couples, mentors, or spiritual leaders. They can help you identify potential challenges and guide you in making the right decision.

Pray and Trust God’s Timing:
Marriage is too important to be rushed. Pray for discernment and trust that God will bring the right person into your life at the right time.

In conclusion, marriage is a journey, not a destination. It requires love, commitment, sacrifice, and grace. Enter it with wisdom, and you will build a union that lasts a lifetime.

𝗦𝗜𝗚𝗡𝗦 𝗧𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗔𝗥𝗘 𝗥𝗘𝗔𝗗𝗬 𝗙𝗢𝗥 𝗠𝗔𝗥𝗥𝗜𝗔𝗚𝗘

1. As a lady, you are at least 21 years old and the man is at least 25 years old.

2. You have a job/ business that can take care of you, your wife and at least a baby.

3. As a man you have your own apartment and you pay all your bills by yourself.

4. As a lady, you can take good care of yourself and another person without any stress.

4. You love children and hope to have yours.

5. You enjoy cooking and do house chores without being told.

6. You can live at least a thousand miles away from your parents.

7. You can make major decisions about your life and face the consequence.

8. You are no longer under the control and command of your parents.

9. You do not yield to peer pressure. You do what needs to be done regardless of what anyone feels.

10. You are sexually responsible. You know how to say NO to premarital sex and mean it.

11. As a lady you have a good relationship with your dad and you are submissive to authorities.

12. As a man, you love your mum, sisters and treat women generally with respect and dignity.

13. You know how to make and multiply money.

14. You are spiritually sound. You pray and receive answers to your prayers. You know how to hear God.

15. You are generous. You give with pleasure.

16. You have a healthy sexual desire.

17. You know exactly what you want in life and you pursue it daily to attain it.

18. You have a strong desire to love, bond with and help another person be all what God wants them to be.

19. You do not have destructive bad habits.

20. You are in full grip of your emotions. You are not hot tempered, lustful and possessive!

These and more are the signs you are ready for marriage. Marriage requires all round maturity: physical, social, financial, mental, emotional, psychological. It is not compulsory you must marry at 25.

Wait till you are mature or your immaturity will destroy your marriage. I see it happen all the time. May the Lord grant you understanding.

Dear Singles, please come closer

Relevant Questions You Should Ask During Courtship that May Be seen As Not Important

Ask your proposed partner if they SNORE while sleeping. Don't look at me that way, it's not bad to snore but you've to know if they do, so you can prepare yourself to enjoy and endure their snoring nature forever. Romantic snoring☺

Ask them if they observe Morning devotion, so you don't end up praying alone or them telling you that they do their devotion in their heart or workplace. Two of you praying together should be the spiritual goal

Ask them if they can sweep, wash, cook, and iron. It might look like they can do it till you ask them and then you will know that they can't or aren't so good at doing it. Then you will have to be doing it ALONE. That's stressing and unprepared of you, you know

Ask them if they prefer sleeping with the light on or off. So if you're the opposite of them, you will start adjusting your body system to that

Ask them how they react when they are angry. Are they sensitive to jokes, etc? Woooh!! Make person no tell you "Am I your mate?", 'Do you know who I am " or break plates on top of your head. Mbok o

Ask them and make deep inquiries too to know if they are married or have been married before or probably have a child out of wedlock. So you don't wake up one day to the biggest shock of your life and stories that keep touching the heart.

Ask them how many times they eat surplus and stored food. Except you want to be cooking every day because your partner no gree eat one particular food twice abi thrice

Ask them where they start undressing after work Some partners, start from the sitting room. You will find one leg of his socks in the parlour, their bra or tie in the kitchen and their shirt or trouser on the bedroom floor, ewoo

Ask them if they prefer sleeping on an arranged or scattered bed. Yes, ask oo. Some partners can comfortably sleep on a scattered bed with their dirty clothes on top and they just won't mind. But won't you mind? Abi you fit follow them sleep liadat? Na liadat fight dey start too.

Ask them of their source of income. The kind of work they do. Is there any Plan B or C in case things don't go as you both planned? Ask ooo. You need money to run the affairs of your home

Ask them how many children they would need, if children are not forth coming as soon as they expected, what next Are they open to adoption Will you guys still stick together, Abi Dem go try second wife

Lastly, for now, Ask them how they squeeze their toothpaste, from the button abi from the top? Asks oo. Some marriages have been dissolved because of this matter🤦🏽‍♀️.

IF they are not virgins! Ask about their sexual life. I won't go deeper on this one but just ask them how many times you can be having sex. I know some sex periods could be so impromptu. Don't look at me that way, I read, for enlightenment's sake because there's nothing wrong with knowing this. Let them know how far your body can manage and respond to the sex moment. (If you already have an experience before salvation) If both of you are virgins Mbok ask oo.....AND don't neglect to ask them about their purpose and vision in life. A visionless home is hopeless.

If we take time to observe, we will know that sometimes LITTLE and unnecessary issues cause big misunderstandings in some homes.

No question is more or less important during courtship. Courtship is the BEST time to know a bit of everything about your partner, so you can prepare yourself enough for the outcome.

Here's me praying for you and me today, May our marriages truly make us happy.
May we not regret the choice of partner we finally get to settle with. May our children emulate our goodly and godly lifestyle. May our homes be beautiful ones. May our homes be filled with Love, Security and Trust.

Above all may God be the third cord of our marriages. May there be peace, both internally and externally and May God grant all of us our positive heart desires

A marriage is set to be one man and one woman to be joined together and live there own life which please God as a Man U need to develop your own life before setting on a goal as an husband and try to pray for better day ahead of you without Christ the married is wasted and try to check your self watch into prayer

This is one secret a lot of women don't know.

Men have this psychological construct that if a woman tolerates a thing from them, they hardly will change. A man wants a woman who has boundaries and doesn't take shît. When you start bringing down your standards for a man, he feels bored; no motivation to be with you again.

Men want women who can say NO and mean NO. When a man can make you do anything even against your standards, no matter how beautiful you are, you become less appealing to him.

Men love challenging women.
Men love women who are grounded in their beliefs.
Men love women who can walk away when what they want is not served.

This is why it's highly discouraged to settle with a man who has major habitual and behavioural issues that you can't cope with. No matter how much he poses to assure you that he'd change in marriage, if you fall for that. Immediately, the motivation to change drops. Don’t try to change anyone…change how you deal with them.

If a man can't change before marrying you, I fear after marriage, because most men do their best before marriage. So if this is his best before marrying you, imagine his worst?

Men want women who'll make them see that they'll lose them for not being that man they want.

Another reason men don't value women who stick to them no matter what they do.

√ He physically or emotionally abûsed you, you cry and come back..
√ He says he doesn't want you again, you cry and beg him.
√ He offends you, but you're the one apologizing.
√ He doesn't call, but you're making excuses for him that he's busy or that he's not the calling type.
√ He cheats on you, and you accept him back.
√ He ghost and gives you silent treatment but you keep going back.

In your feminine mind, you feel you're showing him love? You cannot do without him? Love cannot be found where it doesn't exist. Sometimes you have to accept the truth, and stop wasting time on the wrong people. You can’t build a relationship with someone who expects you to do all of the work.

No, you're not in love. You're devaluing yourself. When you know your worth you'll stop entertaining men who don't reciprocate your energy. Who you date/marry is an indication of what you think you deserve in LIFE. If you really think you deserve peace of mind, you won't settle for what disturbs your peace of mind. Who you date/marry is an indication of how much value you place on your FUTURE. Choosing that person is simply choosing how you want to shape all your tomorrows. Who you date or marry is an indication of how much value you place on YOURSELF. Watch closely, you're choosing an experience by choosing that person. Your CHOICE of what you call love is a selection of what you're prepared to live with all your life. Don't say I didn't warn you.

The more nonsense you tolerate from a man, the more nonsense he will produce for you.

Sometimes men prefer women who walk away than women that stays.
Men prefer women they can't have because of their high standards to women who bring down theirs to accommodate them.

Even if they get into something with you. Deep down they are not so thrilled. You're just a relationship of convenience to him. They will easily get bored. And they'll finally leave you.

Have a standard; know what you want, know what you deserve, say NO to anything that's not it and don't bring your standard down.

Pray earnestly before choosing a life partner to avoid mistake in marriage...a boken relationship is better than a broken marriage..

Marriage is not bed of roses.