But I never asked you out " "I never said we are dating" Those were his words to me as we argued . I looked at him again . But he called me "baby,sweet heart,mylove" Long talk in the days , and unending gist at night . He was the reason no man had a chance in my life We planned our lives together, so I thought "I have somebody I love. Let's just remain as normal friends so I dont affect your relationship " he continued . Which relationship tunde? The first tears dropped from my eyes. They were tasteless. The second dropped. It tasted like crayfish and tumeric. Somebody was definitely cooking in my eyes here . I was already on my knees My world was spinning. " Let's talk about this tunde. If I did anything to upset you. I am sorry" I begged. More tears dropped! I searched my mind to remember any time he actually asked me out something I could remind him of instantly Tunde was Right! My eyes widened I had assumed. He had played me. "No"I shook my head frantically My emotions deceived me I had played myself. "Please tunde, you can't do this to me" I pleaded more. He made to leave. I grabbed his legs and he struggled to push me out. Something fell out of the file he held. I picked it up. My hands were shaking. As I opened to read it, my legs dropped . Tunde was getting married next month! I didn't know how long it was before I blanked out . ......... Three weeks later , all I could do was stare into empty space . My mum was afraid. I had not even said a word to anybody this 3 weeks . But I did say a lot in my mind. I just didn't know why my tongue couldn't throw the words out. " Nne try to eat your food it's getting cold" mum said Mum had done every thing to get me to eat. It was fruitless . I gazed at the okasi soup and eba comfortably sited at the dinning table in matching plates. The room was spinning. I didn't know how long it was before I put my head on the dinning table and passed out. ..... The days that followed were better for me. Tunde was by my bed side answering all the questions I asked him. "Why did you throw 6 years of my life away?" I asked him "Am sorry baby, I am back now for good" he answered. I smiled. I turned and noticed mum by my bedside. she wiped off tears from her eyes. But why was she crying? A slender looking man stood by her side. By his attire I could tell he is a doctor. "This is how she has been doctor. she calls the wall tunde" mum said and wiped off another ticking tear. " We may need to involve a psychiatrist. Shock and trauma is making her hallucinate and these could be early signs of psychosis" He said. I couldn't understand what they said . I turned and looked at my Tunde . He smiled at me. ..............,............................ The road to my therapy venue now looked familiar I could even go by myself . At the beginning, dad took me there,so I was told. He had looked for the best in town and coined the name to suit him. He felt uncomfortable calling it a psychiatrist hospital . Dad wasn't going to accept that his daughter became *mad* I stepped down from my car . The harmattan wind came so strong and blew iced wind down my lungs. I breathed in deeply. Few months back, breathing in was difficult. It felt like someone pushed down hot boiled water down my lungs everytime my drugs knocked me back to reality. "Madam welcome " the gateman said . " Thank you " I replied him as I stepped Into the building. It's been one year already since dad first brought me here; one year since Tunde got married. My therapy session was ending next month . I turned to the gateman and smiled gently. It was the first time I was smiling after one year. Dad said I could travel to any part of europe I wanted to see when I finish therapy. The sun will shine tomorrow and I will rise up and try again. ......................................................... What more do I say. ✅Seek clearity ✅Ask questions, and ask them early. ✅You are not cheap if you ask "what are we"? ✅You will only look cheap when you assume to be what you are not . ©️Geefted's pen✍🏼

It's easy to to break one with emotions but hard to fix he/she back cause all heart are like glass🥲🤕

🪐🙌🍀 6 Ways to Control Negative Emotions: 1. Challenge negative thoughts with logic. 2. Focus on past achievements for confidence. 3. Take small actions to build self-trust. 4. Replace self-criticism with encouraging words. 5. Accept mistakes as part of growth. 6. Practice skills consistently to gain competence #emotions #emotional #positivemindset #confidenced #growth #focus #skills #selfcare #inspire #inspiration #motivation #motivational #motivationalquotes

HOW TO HANDLE A SILENT TREATMENT IN A RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE. Handling the silent treatment in a relationship can be challenging, but addressing it with care and understanding is key to resolving the issue. Here are some steps to help navigate this situation: 1. Stay Calm and Don’t React with Anger Reacting to the silent treatment with anger or frustration can escalate the situation. Take a deep breath and remain calm. It’s important not to mirror the silence with your own silence or frustration, as this can prolong the conflict. 2. Reflect on the Situation Before addressing the person, reflect on what may have caused the silent treatment. Did something happen recently that led to hurt feelings? Understanding the root of the issue can guide your response. 3. Give Space (If Necessary) Sometimes, the person giving the silent treatment might need some space to process their emotions. Respecting their need for time to cool down can allow for more constructive communication later. 4. Approach Gently When you’re ready, approach the person calmly and non-confrontationally. Use “I” statements, like, “I’ve noticed we’re not talking, and I feel confused. Can we talk about what happened?” This avoids sounding accusatory and opens up space for dialogue. 5. Avoid Playing Games If you resort to giving the silent treatment in return, it can turn into a power struggle and make things worse. Aim for resolution rather than a back-and-forth of silence. 6. Listen Actively When the person is ready to talk, listen carefully to what they’re saying without interrupting. Make sure they feel heard and understood, even if their feelings are difficult to hear. This can help to diffuse the tension. 7. Address the Underlying Issue The silent treatment is often a sign of deeper issues, such as unresolved conflict, hurt feelings, or unmet needs. Focus on discussing these underlying issues respectfully and with empathy. 8. Set Boundaries for Healthy Communication Let the person know that while you understand they might need space, healthy communication is important in the relationship. Discuss how you both can handle disagreements or difficult emotions in the future in a constructive way. 9. Consider Relationship Counseling If the silent treatment becomes a recurring pattern and you’re unable to resolve conflicts effectively, consider seeking help from a therapist or relationship counselor to improve communication and conflict resolution skills. Ultimately, the key is to remain patient, open, and compassionate. Silent treatment often reflects deeper emotional issues, so addressing those with care can help rebuild trust and communication

Emotions are so strong

Your emotions create actions

Girl,Today, I want to get down on my knees and profess my love for you. I want to confess that I have harboured these feelings for you since ages. I want to tell you how you ignite a hundred emotions within me. Darling, I just want to tell you that I'm absolutely in love with you!

🔴𝗦𝗜𝗚𝗡𝗦 𝗧𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗔𝗥𝗘 𝗥𝗘𝗔𝗗𝗬 𝗙𝗢𝗥 𝗠𝗔𝗥𝗥𝗜𝗔𝗚𝗘 1. As a lady, you are at least 21 years old and the man is at least 25 years old. 2. You have a job/ business that can take care of you, your wife and at least a baby. 3. As a man you have your own apartment and you pay all your bills by yourself. 4. As a lady, you can take good care of yourself and another person without any stress. 4. You love children and hope to have yours. 5. You enjoy cooking and do house chores without being told. 6. You can live at least a thousand miles away from your parents. 7. You can make major decisions about your life and face the consequence. 8. You are no longer under the control and command of your parents. 9. You do not yield to peer pressure. You do what needs to be done regardless of what anyone feels. 10. You are sexually responsible. You know how to say NO to premarital sex and mean it. 11. As a lady you have a good relationship with your dad and you are submissive to authorities. 12. As a man, you love your mum, sisters and treat women generally with respect and dignity. 13. You know how to make and multiply money. 14. You are spiritually sound. You pray and receive answers to your prayers. You know how to hear God. 15. You are generous. You give with pleasure. 16. You have a healthy sexual desire. 17. You know exactly what you want in life and you pursue it daily to attain it. 18. You have a strong desire to love, bond with and help another person be all what God wants them to be. 19. You do not have destructive bad habits. 20. You are in full grip of your emotions. You are not hot tempered, lustful and possessive! These and more are the signs you are ready for marriage. Marriage requires all round maturity: physical, social, financial, mental, emotional, psychological. It is not compulsory you must marry at 25. Wait till you are mature or your immaturity will destroy your marriage. I see it happen all the time. May the Lord grant you understanding.

Understanding Health: A Holistic Perspective Health is often viewed merely as the absence of illness, but it encompasses much more than that. It is a dynamic state of well-being that includes physical, mental, emotional, and social dimensions. 1. Physical Health: This refers to the efficient functioning of the body and its systems. It includes regular exercise, a balanced diet, adequate sleep, and preventive healthcare. 2. Mental Health: This aspect involves how we think, feel, and cope with life’s challenges. Good mental health allows us to manage stress, relate to others, and make choices. 3. Emotional Health: Closely linked to mental health, emotional health involves understanding and managing our emotions effectively. 4. Social Health: This dimension emphasizes the importance of relationships and social networks. Strong connections with family, friends, and the community contribute significantly to our overall sense of well-being. Remember, health is a journey, not a destination! #Health #Wellbeing #HolisticHealth #PhysicalHealth #MentalHealth #EmotionalHealth #SocialHealth

10 Bruuutal Ways to Make Any Woman Chase You 1. Level Up Your Value A man who’s constantly improving himself is irresistible. Hit the gym, chase your goals, and stack your money. When you’re climbing the ladder of success, she’ll be desperate to climb with you. Weakness is a choice; strength is a decision. 2. Be Mysterious Don’t lay all your cards on the table, bro. Keep her guessing. The less she knows, the more she’ll crave to figure you out. Mystery is magnetic. Simps overshare; strong men keep their power. 3. Control Your Attention Stop giving her unlimited access to you. Attention is your most valuable resource, treat it like gold. The less you give, the more she’ll want it. Don’t be the guy who’s always available. Step up or step aside. 4. Master the Power of Silence Sometimes, saying nothing is more powerful than words. When she expects a reaction, give her calm indifference. It’ll drive her crazy trying to figure out what you’re thinking. Stay sharp, silence is a weapon. 5. Pass Her Tests Without Flinching Women will test you to see if you’re the real deal. Don’t get emotional, don’t overreact. Laugh it off, stay confident, and pass every test she throws your way. Let the truth be told: Simps fail, kings conquer. 6. Walk Away When Necessary The ultimate power move? Walking away. When she knows you’re willing to leave if she disrespects you, she’ll fight to keep you. If you disappoint, you’ll appear before the council of brotherhood, don’t let that happen. 7. Build Social Proof When other women admire you, she’ll want you even more. It’s brutal, but women compete. Be the man other women notice, and she’ll chase you just to prove she’s worthy. 8. Flirt Without Commitment Flirt to build tension, but don’t rush to lock it down. Keep it playful, keep it light, and let her wonder where she stands. The chase is what excites her, so don’t make it easy. 9. Stay in Control of Your Emotions Women chase men who are emotionally Copied