No relationship is ever a waste of time.

If it didn't bring you what you want. It taught you what you didn't want.

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Years ago my friend and I were passing through a bush path when we ran into a graveyard located in the thick dry bush.

My friend halted and looked at the grave. He was the one who called my attention to it.

"Praises, see grave o. See people's graves."

I looked in the direction he was pointing at and found a line of tombs. I counted the tombs and found 16 tombs which meant, there were 16 buried bodies there.

"Collins there are 16 bodies there."

"Yes, and this bodies belong to just one family."

He walked to the Tombs and began to read the names out loud.

"Jessica Ibinayo. Titus Ibinayo 1935 to 1999. Yemide Ibinayo 2007 to 2015."

He turned to me and said.

"Praises, all the names are Ibinayo. They belong to one family. 16 Tombs."

"It should be a family land and the family decided to bury their dead here. Let us go."

He nodded his head brought out his smartphone and stretched towards me.

"Take me a picture first. I have never snapped close to a graveyard before."

"Why should I take you a picture at where a family buried their loved ones? I can't."

"Fear fear. Just take me a picture. I want to keep it. Let me snap at a cemetery. I have always wanted to snap when I see one."

I knew my friend very well. He was a very crazy fellow who loved adventure and loved to explore and try out new things. Even the scariest of things people fear were seen as games and just fun to him.

I stepped back and attempted to walk away.

"If you are not coming I will leave you."

Instantly, he flipped his camera, laughed, and climbed one of the tombs. He made a crying face and took a picture. He sat down made a funny look with his face and brought out his tongue. He stood in front of the tomb, such that he captured himself and the tombs and took pictures.

At this point was tired of waiting for him and began to walk away. When I turned back J saw him running after me and swiping through his phone.

This was why I shared this story.

That night my friend slept and in his dream, he saw himself sitting down with 16 dead people in his room. 10 of these dead persons had old grey hair and rotten skin. Some had torn clothes and were barefooted. Three of the dead persons were children. And three looked young.

My friend told me that he saw himself with a phone, taking a selfie with them in the dream and snapping each of them. He woke up from his dream and discovered he had urinated on his bed and his room had a weird smell.

When he called to tell me I advised him to pray. I told him he had attracted the spirit of the dead towards him. And the sixteen tombs he snapped on his phone, were him taking pictures with spirits. I asked him to delete the pictures and come see me so we could visit the Tombs and make a proper apology to the spirits.

My friend had something to do that day. He told me he was going to the bank first, and after there he would visit his grandmother. He said he was going to come the following day.

That was the last time I saw my friend. He got hit by a car on his way out of the bank, and he died instantly.

His dream came to pass.

He was a part of the family of the dead and had taken pictures with them.

Sometimes our actions or inactions can lead to serious consequences that may cost us our lives or bring us everlasting regret.

THE WARRIOR "DILEMA"2.
Mr umuaka can't just send his wives packing without reason. When a woman marries and is thrown out of her husband house it is often regarded as a big disgrace! No man can ever marry that woman again because they believed she was not obedient to her husband. So the woman family often require from the man what happened if the man cannot give a specific reason why their daughter was thrown out of his house the woman would return to her husband house.
Dilema mother "mukuru" was the third wife of her husband umuaka. She has five children (three boys two girls) dilema was the fourth child. Mukuru was a very beautiful woman fair in complexion with pure white eyes, red lips and a pointed nose. She was referred to as "the fairer of the fair". The villagers believed her to be one of amadioha's wife before she came or was sent to this world. If not how could someone be that beautiful. But when DILEMA was born she had light brown skin. She was not the fair type like her mother. As dilema began to grow she was educated on the custom and tradition of the land. Why can't I draw a bow like the boys do? Little dilema asked her mother one sunny afternoon. No you can't sweetie remember what I told you women are not allowed to do any of that. But I don't think that fair mother anybody can draw a bow as far as you want to. Little dilema told her mother. Yes honey anybody can draw a bow except the females. But I don't think that right mother. Am sorry dilema it just how we are meant to live.
TBC.
Good morning everyone

Elara's Journey of Transformation

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#fairytales #kindness #dreambig #magicaljourney #selfdiscovery

#Story

In the quaint village of Eldergrove, nestled on the edge of an ancient forest, lived a young girl named Elara. Orphaned at a tender age, she grew up under the care of her elderly grandmother.

They lived in a small, rundown cottage, where Elara spent her days helping with chores and dreaming of a different life. Though her clothes were tattered and her shoes barely held together, Elara possessed a heart full of kindness and a spirit that refused to be subdued.

One particularly lonely evening, as Elara sat by the crumbling hearth, tracing the patterns in the fire with her eyes, she noticed something peculiar. A soft, golden light emerged from the shadows of the room, growing brighter and more encompassing.

To her astonishment, the light took the shape of a woman, majestic and ethereal. "Do not be afraid," the woman said in a voice like gentle music. "I am Lira, the Guardian of Wishes, and I have been drawn here by your pure heart."

Elara, though surprised, felt an overwhelming sense of warmth and comfort in the presence of the guardian. "What do you seek?" Lira asked softly.

Flustered, Elara replied, "I only wish for my grandmother's well-being and a chance to leave this village to see the world."

Lira smiled, and with a wave of her hand, a shimmering dust enveloped Elara. In a moment, her worn-out garments transformed into a gown of delicate blues and silvers, so finely crafted it seemed woven from the moonlight itself.

Her old shoes became elegant slippers, and around her neck appeared a necklace with a gem that glowed with an inner light.

When Elara looked in the small, cracked mirror by the hearth, she barely recognized the reflection staring back. Gone was the poor village girl, replaced by a visage worthy of royalty.

"With this new form, doors will open for you, Elara," Lira said. "But remember, it is your heart that defines you, not your appearance."

With tears of gratitude, Elara thanked Lira, who vanished as suddenly as she had appeared. Armed with newfound confidence, Elara set off to explore the world.

Her journey took her to kingdoms far and wide, where she touched lives with her kindness and wisdom. Tales of the mysterious princess spread, inspiring hope and kindness wherever she went.

And though she traveled far, Elara never forgot her humble beginnings, often returning to Eldergrove to share her fortune and joy with her beloved grandmother.

In the end, Elara realized that her true transformation had nothing to do with her appearance but rather the courage to dream and the will to act on those dreams.

How to construct a poultry house:

Commercial chicken farming requires a high-level of expertise, understanding and commitment to be successful.

Whilst it’s important to emphasize the need for excellent flock management at all times, something that comes with experience and aptitude, adopting the correct housing techniques and equipment will set a firm foundation for success of your poultry venture.

The following is a guiding checklist for poultry house construction:

"A poultry house should provide the birds with a comfortable environment and protect them from the extremities of the prevailing weather (rain, wind and sunshine).

"It should have adequate space for the flock to be kept in the house. The ideal stocking density is:

1. Layers: one square metre for 6 birds.

2. Broilers: One square metre for 11 birds.

"It should be open-sided to allow natural ventilation with an east-west orientation to minimise the amount of sunlight entering the house directly. Its not good for sun rays to strike directly into the poultry house.

"It should be rectangular in shape and have a wall not higher than three feet on the longer side. The widith should be at least 7-9 metres, but for the length you are only limited by your land. Avoid building poultry houses in a square form.

"The wall can be made from stones, iron sheets, timber, silver boards or bricks

"The rest of the side of the wall should have a chicken wire mesh. The wire mesh on the sides of the house should be of a small gauge to prevent entry of wild birds, dogs and rodents. This normal chicken mesh is not long lasting.....within a few months it rusts and gets off the house. its better to use a plastic quoted mesh.

"The roof of the house should have a reflecting surface and pitched with overlaps to ensure that the house is comfortable and well ventilated. There should be enough gap between the birds and the roof to avoid heat stress. The pin of the house should be 8 metres from the ground, and the sides should be 5 metres.

"Concrete floors are the best finishing as they are easier to clean and disinfect. Do not put "nil" after putting concrete on the floor.

"There should be a foot-bath at the entrance of the house for those entering the poultry house to disinfect their foot wear. You know farm boys have a tendency of jumping the foot bath, but if it is wide enough they cannot jump it.

"To reduce the risk of rodents gaining entrance into the poultry house, clear all the vegetation in a radius of 3-5 metres around the pen.

"The feed store should also be separate from the house to reduce risk of attracting rodents.

"It should be constructed in isolated areas to minimise the risk of contamination.

"your poultry house plan must have a tank raised inside the poultry house. Exposing water to sunshine in bad, as it gets warm and birds may reject it, or may facilitate heat stress during the dry seasons.

"The house should be fenced to exclude stray animals and visitors.

"The doors should always be locked.

"On poultry farms, an all-in all-out system is the best management practice as it prevents the build up of disease causing organisms and disease outbreaks. Its always good to have one age group in each house, but not putting different ages in one house!

In case where farmers want to keep flocks of different ages, then each flock must be housed in its own.

Ventilation:

Ventilation is the circulation of fresh air through the flock house and exhaustion of stale air out of the flock units and its achieved by air passing from one side of the house and exhausting through the opposite side.

Ventilation of poultry houses serves several functions including:

1.Removing excess heat and moisture.

2.Providing oxygen while removing harmful gases.

3.Reducing dust hence improving the air quality.

You must always allow optimal ventilation to avoid chicks getting suffocated.

The Cockroach Theory

The cockroach theory for self-development

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady.

She started screaming out of fear.

With a panic-stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.

The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed on another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.

In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behaviour of the cockroach on his shirt.

When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behaviour?

If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?

He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies.

I realized that it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.

It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.

More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.

Lessons learnt from the story:

I understood I should not react in life.

I should always respond.

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.

A beautiful way to understand

LIFE.

The HAPPY person is not because Everything is RIGHT in his Life.

He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right!

"𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐌𝐚𝐧𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐓𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐌𝐚𝐧𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭".

1. Being productive today isn't about time management, it's about mind management.

2. Time management optimizes the resource of time. Mind management optimizes the resource of creative energy.

3. Not all hours are created equal: If you write for an hour a day, within a year you'll have a book. But you can't instead simply write for 365 hours straight, and get the same result.

4. The First Hour Rule is simply this: Spend the first hour of your day working on your most important project.

5. If you start your day working on the most important thing, there's less of a chance for other things to get in the way.

6. Sometimes your mind is better-suited to think creatively. Sometimes your mind is better-suited to think analytically.

7. The point of time is not to fill as much life as possible into a given unit of time. The point of time is to use time as a guide to living a fulfilling life.

8. A one-hour increase in average daily sleep raises productivity by more than a one-year increase in education.

9. When you randomly switch from one activity to another, your energy leaks...If you're doing that all the time, little of your energy is going toward traction.

10. A Harvard study found that the busier knowledge workers were, the less creative they were; this study found that as workers became more busy , they did less creative thinking activities such as; brainstorming. They reported fewer insights and their work was also rated as less creative by their colleagues .

11. Noise level can also affect your ability to think creatively...studies suggest that a background noise level of about seventy decibels is optimal for idea generation.

12. Things are not difficult to make; what is difficult is putting ourselves in the state of mind to make them.

15 lessons from A Full Life: Reflections at Ninety by Jimmy Carter:

1. Value your family and friends. They are the most important people in your life.

2. Be humble and compassionate. Treat everyone with respect, regardless of their social status or background.

3. Work hard and be persistent. Don't be afraid to set ambitious goals and work hard to achieve them.

4. Be honest and ethical. Always do the right thing, even when it's difficult.

5. Give back to your community. Use your time and resources to help others.

6. Be grateful for what you have. Don't take your blessings for granted.

7. Don't be afraid to fail. Failure is a part of life. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

8. Be forgiving. Forgive yourself and others for their mistakes.

9. Live in the present moment. Don't dwell on the past or worry about the future.

10. Enjoy life. Find things that you're passionate about and make time for them.

11. Be open to new experiences. Try new things and step outside of your comfort zone.

12. Be curious. Ask questions and learn from others.

13. Be courageous. Stand up for what you believe in, even when it's unpopular.

14. Be hopeful. Believe in a better future for yourself and for the world.

15. Make a difference in the world. Use your talents and abilities to make a positive impact on the world around you.

Carter's book is a reflection on a long and well-lived life. He shares his wisdom and insights on a variety of topics, including faith, family, politics, and service. His lessons are universal and can be applied by people of all ages and backgrounds.

I hope these lessons inspire you to live a full and meaningful life.