When you build in silence, people don't know what to attack. So building in silence should be a lifestyle.

Eight Habits That Will Solve 99% Of Your Problems👇🏽

1. Goal Setting
Set clear and achievable goals to provide direction and purpose in solving problems effectively.

2. Critical Thinking
Develop the habit of analyzing situations objectively, considering different perspectives, and making informed decisions.

3. Effective Communication
Enhance your communication skills, both verbal and written, to express yourself clearly and resolve conflicts with others.

4. Time Management
Prioritize tasks, manage your time efficiently, and avoid procrastination to stay organized and tackle problems promptly.

5. Continuous Learning
Cultivate a growth mindset and commit to lifelong learning. Acquire new knowledge and skills that can help you approach and solve various problems.

6. Resilience and Adaptability
Develop the ability to adapt to change, bounce back from setbacks, and find alternative solutions when faced with obstacles.

7. Problem-Solving Strategies
Learn and apply problem-solving techniques such as brainstorming, root cause analysis, and decision-making frameworks to approach and solve problems systematically.

8. Self-Reflection and Self-Care
Take time to reflect on your thoughts, emotions, and actions. Practice self-care to maintain mental and emotional well-being, which will enable you to approach problems with a clear and focused mind.

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Unspoken Rules for Men:

1. Never shake a hand sitting down. Standing up shows respect and engagement. It signifies that you value the person you are meeting and are fully present in the interaction.

2. Protect who is behind you, and respect who is beside you. This emphasizes loyalty and honor. Protecting those behind you means safeguarding your family, friends, and teammates. Respecting those beside you signifies recognizing the equality and value of your peers.

3. Never insult the cooking when you are the guest. Showing gratitude and respect for hospitality is essential. Criticizing the cooking is disrespectful and ungrateful, especially when someone has gone out of their way to host you.

4. Never eat the last piece of something you didn't buy.
This rule underscores courtesy and consideration for others. It demonstrates awareness and respect for shared resources and the contributions of others.

5. Never make the first offer in a negotiation.
Letting the other party make the first offer can provide strategic advantages. It gives you insight into their expectations and can help you negotiate better terms.

6. Don't take credit for work you didn't do.
Integrity in acknowledging others' efforts is crucial. Taking undue credit undermines trust and damages your credibility.

7. Take the blame, and give credit when due.
Owning up to mistakes and recognizing others' contributions builds respect and trust. It shows maturity and leadership.

8. If you are not invited, don't ask to go.
Respecting boundaries and invitations is key to maintaining good social etiquette. It avoids awkward situations and respects the host’s intentions.

9. Always aim for the head. This metaphorical rule can apply to many scenarios, implying that you should strive for excellence and precision in your efforts.

10. Don't beg for a relationship.Self-respect and dignity are important. Desperation can lead to unhealthy dynamics and undervalues your worth.

11. Dress well no matter what the occasion. Good grooming and dressing appropriately show respect for yourself and others. It also boosts confidence and makes a positive impression.

12. Always carry cash.
Being prepared for various situations, including emergencies, is practical. It reflects foresight and responsibility.

13. Listen, nod, and most of all make eye contact. Active listening and non-verbal engagement are crucial for effective communication. They show that you value and are attentive to the speaker.

14. Show restraint in expressing anger, no matter what. Being angry is a waste of energy. Managing anger is vital for maintaining composure and making rational decisions. It prevents regrettable actions and fosters a more positive environment.

15. Whether it's dinner, drinks, or both, avoid placing your phone on the dinner table.
Prioritizing face-to-face interactions over digital distractions shows respect and attentiveness to those present.

16. Never pose with alcohol. Maintaining a responsible image is important. Posing with alcohol can convey unprofessionalism or recklessness.

17. Proper grammar will get you far in life. Leave the foul language for the less educated.
Good communication skills, including proper grammar, enhance your credibility and professionalism. Avoiding foul language shows respect and maturity.

18. Ask more than you answer. Showing interest in others by asking questions fosters better relationships and understanding. It also demonstrates humility and a willingness to learn.

19. You can tell a great deal about a person by their handshake, so make yours strong and firm. A firm handshake conveys confidence and sincerity. It is often the first impression you make, so it’s important to get it right.

20. Speak honestly. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Honesty builds trust and integrity. It involves being truthful and consistent, fostering deeper connections and mutual respect.

Speaking honestly also means balancing truth with empathy and tact, ensuring that your words are respectful and considerate....

THE BROKEN CRAYONS

A Must Read Story.

A little boy from a wealthy family had so many old and broken crayons. At some point, he realized he didn't need them any longer. So, he told his mother.

"Mum, I want all my broken crayons discarded. They are useless and make my bedroom look very messy"

The rich mother would do everything for her kid, so she packed all the broken crayons into a box and threw them out.

The following day, she saw her son in a sulky mood. She asked him.

"What's wrong with you, son?"

The little boy responded.
"I no longer like the smell of the air fresheners and fragrance oil in my room. Can we throw them all out? They make me want to puke"

The mother didn't seem to have a problem with that. She gathered all the bottles of the fragrances and disposed of them. Later on, she bought new scents for her son.

One evening, the mother was driving her son home from the grocery store. As they drove along the road, the boy looked through the car window and saw something very astounding. He saw a poor boy selling some very colourful candles which he called 'the heavenly candles'. One of the candles was burning very brightly and emitting pleasant scents that filled the air. A lot of people gathered to admire and price the expensive and unique candles sold by a poor boy.

At that moment, the rich kid stopped his mother.
"Mum, look! The candles are very nice and lovely. They would make my bedroom look and smell very exceptional. Please buy for me"

The mother wanted to make her son happy. But as they alighted from the car and approached the candle boy, he said.

"I'm sorry ma'am, there are no more left"

All the candles had been sold out already. The rich boy's face fell in disappointed. When his mother noticed his sad expression, she asked the candle boy.

"Where did you buy those special candles? I would like to buy for my son?"

The candle boy replied humbly.
"I didn't buy them. I made them all by myself"

She was very surprised and she inquired.

"But how were you able to make such wonderful candles all by yourself? What materials did you use?"

The boy paused for a moment and said.

"I once saw a woman throw away a box of broken crayons. I was happy and I took them all. Then the next day, I found some bottles of fragrances in the same waste bin the woman discarded the crayons. I took them home as well. I melted all the broken crayons and mixed the wax with some fragrances. It was with the mixture that I created those heavenly candles".

Don't be upset when people reject or look down on you like the broken crayons. In actual fact, they just can't see your hidden potential. Stay focused and positive, and allow time change everything about you. Just like the abandoned broken crayons which later on, turned out to become very amazing candles admired by everyone including the one who rejected them. However, he didn't get another chance to own them. Always have hope for a better tomorrow.

You aren’t paid according to how hard you work, you are paid according to how hard you are to replace.

They say nobody is indispensable. Yet, organizations go to great lengths to retain employees who are seen as critical for their operations.

So, how do you make yourself indispensable at work? How do you grow in places never thought you would?

1. Do work that matters. Make your manager’s priorities your priorities. A good boss is better than a good company. A good boss is hard to find and is the biggest factor in your career sucess. Employees who want a boss that looks out for them also have to do their part - a boss who doesn't trust you won't give you opportunities to grow.

2. Develop deep expertise in tasks that are critical for the organisation. Be so good that people have to work with you. You will have the chance when somebody who already has a unique skill leaves the company, and you step in to replace them. Or it will happen when a new initiative requires skill the company has never before had. Step out of your comfort zone and start doing stuff you have never done before. You cannot grow unless you take up new challenges.

3. Build Relationships at all levels. Be a friend to everyone, say hello, smile, and do not let in your heart a grudge against anyone. Hard skills get you hired, but soft skills get you promoted. Get along with all kinds of people irrespective of whether you like them or not. Relationships are important because the more supporters you have, the more you can get done in the organization. We rise faster by lifting each other up (rather than stepping on each other to go up). Your network is your networth. Your network can open doors for you. Build your network before you need it.

4. Conquer yourself. Don’t blame others for your failure. Blaming others is a subconcious mechanism to avoid responsibility and avoid some truths about yourself. Your success or failure in life or at work isn’t about other people. It’s your procrastination and excuses. You won't grow when you blame others. Success happens when you grow yourself, not outgrow others. Winners focus on winning, losers focus on winners. Obstacles are often a stepping stone to make you stronger - the more of them you overcome, the stronger you become. When you are no longer able to change a situation, change yourself. Intelligence is the ability to adapt to change.

5. Start now. Stress comes from ignoring things that you should not be ignoring. Break down a tedious task and start small. Don't wait to be in the mood to do a certain task. Motivation follows action. Get started, and you will find your motivation.

I hope that my message is useful for you, and that you can become a person of value.

MAY GOD HELP US ALL